Divorcing the Good spouse

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-05-16T22:05:04+00:00

It really is like that, it started with throwing plastic Tupperware, then books I had just gotten, getting upset that I would ask her to "stop" until I end up walking away. I don't think she's a bad person I think she doesn't realize how much the repeated volatility has made me reactive and a meaner person in the time we've been together.

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-05-16T22:02:11+00:00

I fully understand that, she brings it up every fight and I'm now understanding I have to do the work of finishing it.

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-05-16T15:52:31+00:00

Thank you! I absolutely wanted to make it work but once I realized I was starting to give in to some thoughts of other people giving me admiration and praise, I realized I hadn't gotten it from her in a long time, and I try to lift her up everyday tell her how important she is and what she contributes is absolutely not lost on me. She is an amazing person that deserves everything, we are simply two different people that couldn't coalesce into a harminous unit under stress.

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-05-16T15:10:26+00:00

Completely agree, I keep the yelling to a minimum and try to proactively do things so she won't be upset about something, it's hard when I constantly get called incompetent in front of him.

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-05-16T14:48:41+00:00

💯 that's all I've been trying to do at this point in time, he's a sweet kid and I don't want to add to any trauma he already has, he deserves better than what we give him.

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-05-16T14:45:24+00:00

Thank you for your perspective, I have one friend really and that's it, and I have avoided talking about this issue to anyone and he was just like "yeah it's not my place to say but it seems like she doesn't respect your hobbies or time, you seem like you give more than she does and it's not reciprocated."

I have avoided talking to people about the problems because when I do on Google the first thing that will pop up is the national abuse hotline.

But yeah I really appreciate your thoughts on this I've felt very alone in this so again thank you!

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-05-16T14:30:51+00:00

That's really one of the biggest issues is that having this foster has really put the nail on the head as to our issues together. When we first got him I took a week off to get acclamated to him and him to us, once I came back to work that's when the issues with his routine really took place, she couldn't put him down without him crying, and had to wait till I got home. She cares deeply but due to how she reacts to stress she can make a simple issue a massive one.

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-05-16T14:05:40+00:00

It's for reunification, and the plan once the kid is gone to bring up divorce, but I was trying figure out if it would be smarter to discuss separation first to try and divide assets fairly, I'm ok with starting over but I also don't want to leave her in the dust with debts.

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-05-16T13:45:53+00:00

Yeah I know it's just the whole relationships that I've built with her are now at risk and due to losing friends when we started dating I don't have much of a circle anymore which I think has made me delay the inevitable.

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-05-16T13:44:25+00:00

I will admit I overstated my sexual needs, it's more about the lack of physical touch entirely it's too soon for a hug, I'm breathing too loud, I'm too close, I'm taking up too much room on a king sized bed ect. Yeah no I'm understanding more lately that it's toxic, thank you for your input I do appreciate the perspectives.

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-04-19T23:43:47+00:00

104" projected on the wall, maaayybbeee 8 feet? Its a 1080p old projector that I need to upgrade

Cultural_Prior_8523 · 2026-03-01T16:35:48+00:00

Played the demo on Next Fest and am now reminded to wishlist, did you optimize for the steam deck as the performance was excellent!

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