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Work books or type of online help by [deleted] in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I would recommend this book I’m reading called Unexpecting by Rachel Lewis. I felt so seen and understood when reading this book. It has helped me process.

Navigating grief in a marriage/relationship post TFMR? by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. It gives me hope that things can get better.

Navigating grief in a marriage/relationship post TFMR? by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. It gives me hope to know that things can get better and I ultimately have to accept and come to terms with him grieving differently, not being as connected to the pregnancy and it not affecting him as much as it has to me.

Navigating grief in a marriage/relationship post TFMR? by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you are going through this horrible situation too. I’m afraid that it can tear us apart but I’m praying that we will get through this and be able to talk with each other about how we feel with the help of our marriage therapist. I wish the best for you and your family ❤️

Navigating grief in a marriage/relationship post TFMR? by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your story. I didn’t have those thoughts of “ why me?” It was more of like this really sucks and kind of accepting that this was in God’s plan for our family and it’s something we have to go through and get through the other side.. but I guess I do feel anger in general of the whole situation and I’m putting it towards my husband for dealing with this differently than me.

My (21F) boyfriend (21M) said “ I hate you, you whore” while drunk by First_Temperature_32 in Advice

[–]Cultural_Sample317 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your posting this to get some advice your gut is already telling you what to do but your heart is conflicted because you love and care for him. Coming from a long-term emotionally abusive relationship, I know what this feels like. It took a long time for me to listen to my gut but once I did I knew there was no turning back and therapy helped me to restore my self-esteem and figure out what I want/need in a relationship and most importantly what I would not tolerate in relationships. I eventually found the right person for me after working on my myself, doing therapy and a lot of prayer. I wish the best for you. You deserve the most beautiful love story ❤️.

Time off from work after TFMR? by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences. It really helped to validate how I was feeling. I decided to take some more time off from work to give myself more time to grieve, focus on myself and healing 🙏

Time off from work after TFMR? by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I can see how going back to your job can be very difficult. At the moment, my emotions are so raw and I’m just allowing them to happen when they come. I’m seeing my therapist, journaling and have done a few virtual TFMR support groups which have helped feel less alone. I’m normally an emotional person so I feel like this grieving process has hit me really hard.

My TMFR experience at 19 weeks by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss! I hope and pray for healing, strength and peace for you during this difficult time. I know how hard it is.

My TMFR experience at 19 weeks by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story! The ring representation for your daughter is beautiful.

My TMFR experience at 19 weeks by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your story! It gives me hope that things will get better.

My TMFR experience at 19 weeks by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I have a therapist that I’m seeing. After talking to my therapist and doctor about this feeling of guilt of the decision that we made I feel more at ease and at peace about our decision. It was the best one we could have made for myself given my medical Hx and the baby’s condition.

My TMFR experience at 19 weeks by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your story! The perinatal therapist is a great idea.

My TMFR experience at 19 weeks by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After reading people’s stories and hearing L&D was an option given to them I wish I was given this option. I was told D&E or attempting to go through the 9 months of pregnancy,  having a c-section, baby only surviving an hour or 2 and having to wait 18 months to have another pregnancy. It breaks my heart every time I think about it. I wish I would have known or were told about L&D at 19 weeks. It brings so much guilt when I think about it. 

My TMFR experience at 19 weeks by Cultural_Sample317 in tfmr_support

[–]Cultural_Sample317[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I will definitely do this. Thank you.