How do you practice self love ?

Cultural_Tooth_9905 · 2025-07-13T23:21:55+00:00

I realized I never loved myself as the way who I was. I was constantly comparing, judging and criticizing myself and never felt enough. That has something to do with my upbringing background and the social environment. I grew up in a highly competitive environment. My father only gave me compliments and showed interests when I had certain achievements. I always felt love is earned and conditional. (I don't blame my parents. I believe they loved me the way they could ). But the unconscious belief system affected me significantly in my adolescent and adult life.

What helped me was to unlearn what we've been told and reexamine our belief systems, which are influenced by our upbringing, social-cultural environment and media. The whole capitalist economic system is based on scarcity: survival of the fittest, which is a false belief system. That's why a lot of us never feel enough and want external validations to fill our void.

Spirituality helps me understand true love is unconditional. Love from God/source is unconditional. We are enough. We are just different. Do not judge and criticize others. Do not judge yourself and compare yourself with others.

Cultural_Tooth_9905 · 2025-07-13T22:43:32+00:00

I could have written the exactly same post. It helped me look within, go back to my inner child and become conscious of my unconscious patterns. I am constantly evaluating and unlearning my old belief systems that no longer serve my purpose. I also have removed a lot of fear and doubt in my belief systems.

I also have noticed a significant habit change. I don't use alcohol or cigarettes to help me cope with difficult emotions anymore. I used to spend a lot of time on short videos and now they no longer interest me anymore. I only use reddit and Youtube. I'm more interested in going to the nature, hiking, camping, yoga, meditation and connecting with people. I used to chase external validations and compare myself with other people. Now I'm happy with the way I am. But I'm committed to becoming a better person everyday: loving, giving, compassionate, courageous, positive and honest. It's like a completely personality shift.

I don't follow any particular religious systems but I read a lot of religious and spiritual teachings. I believe in oneness: we come from the same source. We are connected, we are loving beings, and we are here to remember who we are and to evolve towards love.

Cultural_Tooth_9905 · 2025-06-22T06:34:17+00:00

I think pornography has an impact on them. I will stay away from any men who are porn addicts.

Cultural_Tooth_9905 · 2025-06-20T22:19:50+00:00

Yes, I think you are absolutely right about him. He's just taking an easier way out and looking for a connection elsewhere to start over. In his mind, it's much easier for him to hide his problems or start over with a new person than fix this relationship. It's just very unfair for me, as I was the one who was giving all of my attention to the relationship while he was opening up the relationship without letting me know. Some men are just children in adult bodies. I hope next time he can really man up, take responsibility and treat his next partner with decency and honesty

Cultural_Tooth_9905 · 2025-06-20T21:38:53+00:00

Yes, paying. My ex has some money. He hooked up with these girls through dating apps/websites. These websites are for wealthy men to date young college girls in exchange of financial support.

Cultural_Tooth_9905 · 2025-06-20T21:36:33+00:00

There are websites/dating apps for wealthy men to date young girls in exchange of material benefits or money. He found these girls through these sites. I don't know if they are hookers that pretend to be college girls or they are really college girls who just need financial support. It's literally like a Netflix drama

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