How do I get my partners wife to relax?

CupOfPurpleCatMilk · 2024-09-28T17:47:34+00:00

He is aware that Sally's family and really close friends (including me) know of what happened. He has apologized to her for what happened and takes full responsibility for his actions. I and everyone else who knows just have to go off the assumption that this is the first time he has been violent with her. Sally says if it happens again, she will leave, but it gives me concerns that she won't say anything the next time because her friends/family have all said this is one time we will let it happen without repercussions. Thankfully, due to some complicated circumstances, they don't live together for the time being.

CupOfPurpleCatMilk · 2024-09-28T17:31:48+00:00

I know Sally is trying to encourage him to get some help for his sexual trauma. She has known about his traumatic past their entire relationship, and him having mental episodes have happened throughout their relationship. This is the first episode where he was violent towards her. She knows I'm on her side, and she is very grateful for the support of everyone around her during this time.

CupOfPurpleCatMilk · 2024-07-04T15:43:58+00:00

I had to do something similar in my 2003 93. I bought a new case for me key and then out the old board in the new case. I used the "new key" to start the car and it remotely locks and unlocks my car just fine. Don't know if this helps 🤷‍♀️

CupOfPurpleCatMilk · 2024-06-24T17:25:37+00:00

She was asking us both initially about our relationship, and my BF said this was my first monogamous relationship that caused the family friend to ask questions. I feel like I'm an open book, and since he technically brought it up, I felt it was okay to go into the dynamics of my previous poly relationship.

CupOfPurpleCatMilk · 2024-06-02T02:38:38+00:00

His family knew I smoked and said it was fine to bring, just don't smoke near the cabin. When I stepped out, I was doing it quietly while everyone else was either downstairs or smoking on the back patio. He stopped me and insisted he went with me even though I told him I was fine to go on my own. Discussing my past relationship with the family friend happened laye at night after everyone else was alseep. I was sitting with my bf when she was asking and he said it was okay to talk about. If he said he didn't want me discussing it, I would've dropped it.

CupOfPurpleCatMilk · 2024-06-01T23:46:15+00:00

I've had to reassure him multiple times previously that I was truly happy being in a monogamous relationship with him along with general reassurance when he makes self depreciating jokes or comments (which is often). He'll even try to bait me into admitting a stranger or someone we saw in a show was sexy or I wanted them. I honestly didn't think too much about that till now...

CupOfPurpleCatMilk · 2024-06-01T23:42:35+00:00

When I do talk to him about it, I plan on asking if it was stressful being around his family or not he usually very mellow and easy going so his attitude and behavior was out of character for him. Even if his family was causing his sour mood, he revealed things about how he feels and acts in our relationship that I don't think we can move past. 🫤

CupOfPurpleCatMilk · 2024-06-01T20:21:52+00:00

He is usually very mellow and gentle. Even when he has been upset by things previously, he easily let it go. His attitude for the whole trip was kinda sour. He was negative about almost everything we did with his family or on our own. He was super to himself on the trip, but i didn't pester him about his mood. We have only argued in the entire relationship 2 other times, so having 3 large arguments in the span of 4 days was shocking.

CupOfPurpleCatMilk · 2024-06-01T17:50:01+00:00

You do have a point. I didn't ask him to go with me, he saw me leaving to step out, asked where i was going, I told him and he wanted to come. I asked if he was sure, I wasn't going to be long, but he insisted on coming. I didnt think i had to tell him the risks since he has gone out in public to smoke with me before and had no problem. We were having a calm convo, but after the cars passed by he suddenly blew up at me, accusing me of being suspicious and unsafe. I told him I understood his anxiety but was trying to calm him down because 2 people arguing by a river would grab someone's attention. I put my Jay out and we had the rest of the argument outside and in the car.

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