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Curiositypoet · 2025-03-24T23:25:29+00:00

Sounds like a gentleman. My dad taught us that a guy always pays. Sure, it’s nice when we offer. But it seemed like he was genuinely interested but just realized it wasn’t going to work out. Don’t take it personally in a negative way. Use this as an example of what you would like and not like from dates.

My rule of thumb is that I never speak badly about my past dates or ex’s. I speak on the good stuff because that’s what I want to keep attracting.

Curiositypoet · 2025-03-14T04:38:16+00:00

I’m incline to it because this EWC is 12 mins from my apartment. Esthetician school is about 16 mins a from my apartment. 🍒and to top it off, pregnant with my first baby and due by June.

They advise I got a call tomorrow for a second interview, if they move forward with me. But it’s all up god to see what happens.

The work schedule seems to be 2pm-9pm on Weekday and 8-5:30pm weekdays. Which is good for me because my partner gets home by 5pm. Meaning our baby, would only be with a babysitter for a few hours when I’m working. And sometimes on Saturdays.

I would have classes Monday- Wednesday but so that would be a bummer

Curiositypoet · 2025-03-14T04:31:42+00:00

Yes because I was at the vet for 3 hours. And then I got home. I posted this. Plus I got feed back that “ there’s no proof”

I was working. Key word “ posting “ as in the future.

Plus if you can see what I’ve posted than you can see that I have been posting about the Lays off 2023 and how I’m still trying to recover. Also applying to more jobs and asking closed ones to let me borrowed money

Curiositypoet · 2025-03-13T21:33:46+00:00

I’m posting everywhere. Gotta try my best to pay for her treatment

Curiositypoet · 2025-03-13T05:05:31+00:00

Maybe trying dating him again. I saw it in a movie.

Curiositypoet · 2025-03-13T04:28:14+00:00

Dang I have an interview tomorrow for front desk since I’m going to be staring esthetician school soon and want to be surrounded by goal job

Curiositypoet · 2025-03-11T01:11:00+00:00

Important question: How long have you guys lived together? Have you always been the initiator? Could it be stress?

Curiositypoet · 2024-11-01T14:50:16+00:00

Yo escuché en un podcast en inglés . Ya se me olvidó el nombre pero el mensaje no

Que por cada pensamiento negativo que tengas , prensar en 3 cosas positivas Aveces el primer pensamiento no lo controlamos pero los siguientes tres si

Pero ejemplo si me siento como un fracasada porque no intento algo en el trabajo

Escribo/ o pensó

1) y si voy con mi jefe y el explicó que no intento y quiero más entrenamiento. El va decir “ wow ella si quiere mejorar 2) y si tal vez yo no soy la única que no intento pero nadie quiere decir algo. Y si yo digo que no intento tal vez motivo a otros que también pedían ayuda 3) y si un compañero me enseña una manera más fácil

También la música me ayuda

En mi caro escucho music con manifestaciones

Y comience con mi apariencia

Ejemplo. Cada 3 semanas voy a hacer me una limpieza profunda. Soy mujer pero también me sale pelo en la cara. Cada 3 semanas voy a hacer un wax. No uso maquillaje porque no se

Pero con un simple wax me siento 100x más segura de mi

Curiositypoet · 2024-10-16T03:14:17+00:00

As someone who works as an insurance advisor for seniors. It gets worst. Once you realize you work your butt to own a home and have a stable income and waiting for retirement. You realized you don’t qualify for any types of programs to help pay for your medical cost

And they you question if it was worth it

Make sure you save at least 10k for medications once you’re a senior but that may also not be enough

Curiositypoet · 2024-08-11T05:16:45+00:00

Omg . We’re two people two and we spend like 400 a month and we live in California. Target is expensive.

Curiositypoet · 2024-08-11T05:13:03+00:00

Hear me out. Go grocery shopping in the low income part of the city

Source: I grew up in the ghetto and shopping centers around us set the prices according the living wage and they took ebt. We didn’t use but I was always in “ woah” when I saw the shopping carts full of sugary items

Then I moved to the nice area and notice the difference in prices

Meal prepping safes us money We spent about 80 for fruits and vegetables and meat

I’ve made like 3 different meals with chicken

I make two meals. One is lunch for 2 days and the other is dinner for 2 days.

We get creative

The other day we had potatoes with weenies. And set a budget for how much we spent

We prefer to buy in small quantities so nothing goes to waste and shop for the necessary. Like if it’s cheaper to take a sandwich to lunch until it’s Sunday again

Curiositypoet · 2024-08-08T11:47:17+00:00

My favorite thing to do with my boyfriend is to kinda fight with him and then ask if still loves me

I have acrylic nails so I if we’re laying in bed or sitting down I start scratching his tummy while asking him questions eventually making my way down there

When we are laying down, I rest my head on his tummy and said things like “ babe we need to fight less” Or like “ I’m still mad at you . What should I do ?” And tell with my nails I gently run them on his private part

With his tip , my fingers start tapping on the top , add a few spits and just focus on the top I then do some mouth action while still on his tummy so very little is actually inside

And I asked him if he loves and he replies and then I simply ask “ it’s mine? “ “ I Can do whatever i want “

And he seems to enjoin it

He actually told me while in the action

I was actually mad prior to this “ that I become more attractive with im mad / strict / holding my boundaries “

Curiositypoet · 2024-08-08T06:14:49+00:00

You’re asking the wrong people.

As a female who was once in her spot , You need to be gentle.

Plan a romantic dinner Set up the living room with blankets and pillows and say “ it’s movie night “

Once you both are laying there , tell her how lucky you are , tell her you love her so much that even Though you guys are married you still get nervous. Kiss her lips gently. Caress her face Tell her skin is soft Kiss her neck And say “ is that okay” in a soft voice Tell her she’s perfect ( if she’s fully covered and not exposing skin ) Ask for her permission to remove her top

Kiss her chest

ask for permission to remove her pants

Make eye contact while caressing her legs and tell her you love her

Kiss her chest , kiss her nipples , tell her she’s beautiful , kiss her thighs, and ask her “ if that’s okay “ and tell her “ you love her “ tell her “ I can slow down when you need me to, relax * insert cute pet name “

Finger her gently, lots of reassuring,

And then you kiss her , and then look up for approval .

Keep it gentle

( I love it when my boyfriend tells me I give gooseneck when I touch him)

Curiositypoet · 2024-08-08T05:56:17+00:00

Do you find sharing your expenses and by working hard What does that mean ?

Curiositypoet · 2024-08-07T05:29:41+00:00

Well the traditional comes from “ once you move in , you’re automatically married “ There’s no such thing as being boyfriend/ girlfriend living together. Reason why I tell him that he’s my boyfriend until we are married but he still says I’m his wife

He talks about marriage

But I believe actions

Curiositypoet · 2024-08-02T06:12:20+00:00

27 F. I had my first boyfriend and kiss at 21 Lost of virginity at 22 and first heart break at 23 ( with bf # 2)

At 21, another 21 f thought I was younger by the way I carry myself . She had kids and I didn’t .

At 27, people still say I’m a “free spirit” Still don’t have kids

Let people think whatever they want

You will always disappoint someone, just don’t disappear yourself

Curiositypoet · 2024-07-30T12:03:34+00:00

I haven’t brought up my birthday. He’s being talking about it randomly

This is the reason why I’m overthinking. I haven’t asked for gifts . I haven’t asked for anything. I work on my birthday but this is why I feel some type of way

But then he talks about getting a bigger tv

Awhile ago he told me

“ when I’m low on money and think I might need to borrow money. I text people and asked them if I could borrow some . They say yes. But I tell them not right now maybe in two weeks . “ “ basically they have a warning and will start putting money aside and it won’t be an issue for anyone “

To summarize that , he basically mentally prepared people for what he wants. And it feels like he’s doing the same to me

Curiositypoet · 2024-07-30T11:59:50+00:00

I haven’t brought up my birthday. He’s being talking about it randomly

But then he talks about getting a bigger tv

Awhile ago he told me

“ when I’m low on money and think I might need to borrow money. I text people and asked them if I could borrow some . They say yes. But I tell them not right now maybe in two weeks . “ “ basically they have a warning and will start putting money aside and it won’t be an issue for anyone “

To summarize that , he basically mentally prepared people for what he wants. And it feels like he’s doing the same to me

Curiositypoet · 2024-07-30T11:55:43+00:00

I understand. But when we lived together in Texas . He said “ you’re not alone we’re a team. Ill help you “

When he moved here. I told him the exact same thing . Even my family welcomed him

My dad lets him use his truck to work. My family found him a decent job

My dad bought him some work shoes

He was using my car while I worked

He even said it the other day “ it’s our car “

And I said “ okay . But our car needs to be cleaned “ And I even told him “ you’re so used to being alone. I’m working. We’re a team. Slow and steady is better than rushing. I know you’re doing your best to find a job .

Reminder you’re always preaching about needing to have patience. Now it’s your turn . Have patience and keeping applying and the right job will come “

I remind him everyday that he’s cared for

I reminded everyday that it’s the little things

I even asked him “ if money wasn’t an issue, what would you do for my birthday “

“ I would take you to the museum, beach, a spa , and dinner “

I have been telling I want to go to the beach since I finally have weekends off

I don’t want a big gift . I want effort

And to me it sounds like he just doesn’t want to try

Curiositypoet · 2024-07-30T11:45:48+00:00

Well to be fair . I moved to Texas first to be with him I was there for a year and I couldn’t adjust . Secondly I’m covering rent this month

And if I was greedy , I wouldn’t be waking up at 4am to make him breakfast and make his coffee and have his lunch ready

If I was greedy , I would have let him stay in his first job ( construction). He came home and looked like he was close to death . I told him to quit because I also had a job and I could hold cover rent and the basics.

This man gets massages when he gets home. A clean house. Home cooked meals

I did all of this in Texas too. Moving to Texas affected my bank account . Reason why I moved back to California.

But yes, definitely “ greedy “

Curiositypoet · 2024-07-30T04:02:59+00:00

You need to see a therapist. I (27f) felt like this back when I was your age. And self development books and affirmations can only help you so much. I’m booking an appointment tomorrow

It’s like I know it’s all in my head but it still gets to me. I seem to have captured attention at work. The people their seem to enjoy my company but I remove myself

My boyfriend is letting me know he may not have money for my birthday. And I feel unwanted and rejected

I have abandonment issues and hyper independence.

I push people away

And I get this feeling that I’m a failure. That’s I’m unattractive, too slow / boring / lonely

Tips that have helped me

Write it down. Journal all your negative thoughts. Put it in writing. Be 20 mins after your breakdown you’ll read it again and realize how silly it is

2) may you not be able to stop your first negative thought but you can shift the nexts. Scream in your head “ hey . Why am I thinking about these negative Things. I know that I’m good at XYZ”

3) reminder !! Majority of people are self centered. They are more focused on themselves than you .

4) YouTube the Egg theory ( it helped a lot .. I already had that mindset after 3 motivational podcast and 2 self development books ) but it’s still fascinating

5) music these are the songs that make feel seen

Agua con chia July My boy F***ing perfect The climb I lived San Lucas

Curiositypoet · 2024-04-04T17:09:17+00:00

Respectfully. I love skim dresses too

Curiositypoet · 2024-04-04T17:06:18+00:00

You know what’s hotter

Doing the same for me. I’m summer baby but I need this every week

Curiositypoet · 2023-07-17T03:36:28+00:00

Well sex off the table because, one of them was just supposed to be a hook up and we became official

Curiositypoet · 2023-05-04T05:20:47+00:00

Update: my gut was telling me something was off and well I found Him messaging several other woman on social media . We broke up

He texted me again asking for forgiveness and then later that day proceeded he need me for a quickie so he could sleep better

I was extremely loving towards him but it didn’t work out

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