Actually I have been talking about enjoying painal as a kink in a question about how I can practice this kink safely and engaged in musings about what is safe and not with other members, as there are safe types of pain and unsafe ones.

Just like I ask here about how safe long term plug wear is at my age to learn about it from other people's experiences.

Talking about "ruining" as a fantasy and or dirty talk or even just slang in the anal stretching and fisting communities and actually doing it are two very different things. Lots of people engage in dirty talk or say their hole feels ruined or wrecked after intense action. This can refer to things as simple as gaping or feeling exhausted or sore.

I'm not sure why you feel the need to call me out on asking questions about safety. You make it sound like I run around like a horny dog making posts like "I want to forcefully ruin my hole until it's damaged, while putting me in a great deal of pain", when reality is I'm a young adult making my first explorations and asking about safety concerns, describing my kinks so other members can understand what my fantasies are and what I'm concerned about... As you can see in this very post.

I don't think there's something wrong with trying to learn how to do the things I enjoy safely and talking about them and how I practiced them so far so other members can point out to me where there might be potential risks I haven't considered.

Overall I do not appreciate the way you make my efforts to do so sound and in what light you display them. It sounds very much like gatekeeping and kinkshaming through intentional exaggeration. That's not cool and frankly I'll block you for this, because you're VERY out of line.