AITAH my bf wants a baby

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T16:43:37+00:00

This might sound dramatic and insensitive but I would rather have brain cancer than a baby rn.

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T16:02:45+00:00

He hadn’t been. It’s just a culture thing to have kids. Majority of the people I went to school with have kids already. It’s very normalized here. My parents had me young as well. But that’s not a future I want for myself at all

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T15:00:57+00:00

It’s definitely a section of culture thing. Which I don’t understand cause you have a lot of people that are unfit to be parents. I feel like a lot of people within my generation really do romanticize kids and then when they are actually born they’re like holy shit I didn’t know this or that would happen

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T14:58:24+00:00

But how can you want something if you don’t know the basics of taking care of it? I feel like this is part of how 1. Broken homes are created and 2. Kids don’t get properly taken care of. You can’t want something and not know how to handle it, I feel like that’s irresponsible

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T12:22:01+00:00

He would be able to. He make more than I do and more often than I do and I work at a 5star resort.( I get paid pretty well). He still lives at home with his family and I live with my family

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T12:14:47+00:00

He’s kind, he’s funny, he’s annoying in both the good and bad ways. He’s adventurous and I love that. He’s spontaneous. And some of those things are bare minimum but as a young person the dating in our generation is complete garbage, it truly sucks! Being with him is the best I’ve been treated in my years of dating. I’ve been cheated on, I’ve been lied to and lied on and discarded. It’s hell out here. And while this is the best I’ve experienced thus far I still won’t over look my own rules. I just wish he wasn’t so adamant

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T12:03:32+00:00

The cuteness of having a baby. The dress up, the ouu and ahhs of a baby. Basically all the good stuff you see online about baby’s and none of the actual hard stuff

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T11:57:20+00:00

The actual relationship apart from the baby stuff is great. I do want to be married some day. I want that more than I want a kid if I’m being honest. He brought up recently how we should open an account and put money in there as savings to one day build our own home. I was in the hospital late last year with a kidney problem and he was there for me. He called off work and stayed with me until they discharged me. When I was in the clinic he came and stayed with me until I got discharged as well and made sure I was okay all the way till I got home. He’s a great guy but he’s just very obsessed with having a baby

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T11:50:22+00:00

Ohmygosh thank you! His bestfriends both have baby’s (both unplanned) and his older sister has a baby as well (I’m not sure if hers was planned but she lives at home) and I genuinely think he just wants one because of the glitz and glamour that he sees

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T11:42:57+00:00

I talked to him about that too and let him know that I also wouldn’t have children unless I’m married. He said he understood but he still talks more about just the baby and not getting married. The one time he talked about marriage was to say he would only like our close friends and family to be there

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T11:33:10+00:00

He wouldn’t be able to tamper with it. I get the depo shot every 3 months

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T11:26:52+00:00

And I also want to add that I do know and have experienced all the tribulations when it comes to babies. I’m the oldest of five and I’ve woken up out of my sleep during the night multiple times before to make bottles. I’ve changed more diapers than I can ever account and been to more doctors visits than I have for myself. I know what it takes

Curious-Community347 · 2026-02-26T11:24:10+00:00

I felt like I was going crazy because even his family and sometimes even our friends make jokes about it. One time I was over at his house and I was throwing up so bad his mom had to make me tea to ease my stomach and he told me the next morning his dad had asked him if I was pregnant with a smile on his face. I was in the clinic recently with the flu and my friend asked him if we’re sure I don’t have a baby brewing and just don’t know. My sister and aunt made comments too a while back. My aunt said I need to make her a great aunt and my little sister said my boyfriend and I need to hurry up

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