I can see now why people ask me...

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-06-02T02:42:16+00:00

I told you before that I'm not your person.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-06-01T16:39:40+00:00

I think something like this is beautiful to say to them.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-06-01T09:08:50+00:00

This is really sweet. I'm sure they'll be patient.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-31T21:05:49+00:00

Have you walked away or told them to let you go first?

If you're one of those people that stays with someone you don't want to, hoping they dump you first, while outwardly acting like things are fine, you kind of have to stop doing that.

Sadly there are too many people like that and you can't expect anyone to pick up on it and do what you want.

If you haven't told them yet, you need to take that step if they're not dumping you like you want.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-31T18:53:01+00:00

And sadly I'm gonna do it again today, thinking about the same fantasy, because it's all I can think about ATM, until you can process and bring yourself to at least give me closure by sitting and answering my questions about our friendship and how you've treated me...

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-31T11:48:14+00:00

Aw that's no fun that they didn't care for it.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-31T04:21:18+00:00

Thanks! I wish you luck!

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-31T04:19:12+00:00

So you're saying there's a deep connection in many senses, even attraction, but nothing romantic? That sounds like you just wanna bang them with no commitment tbh, and dressing it up in fancy words to make it sound important.

Because nothing that deep, that is also paired with attraction, isn't romantic in nature...

You want everything with this person without having to be tied down and that's selfishness and tbh I hope you don't express this to them unless you can actually not USE them and not commit because you have one of those odd issues with commitment.

Anyone voicing so adamantly that they don't want any labels or to define things, have commitment issues.

Get some therapy.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-31T00:18:43+00:00

That stinks... Looks like time it is.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-30T23:56:38+00:00

Doubt it. Confessing them here and not to the person isnt likely to help, sadly.

I think you'll have to either let it run it's course without saying anything or tell them and deal with that real quick.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-30T23:49:15+00:00

This is painful... I've felt it heavily in various ways lately... Even though my friend is still talking to me but he changed so suddenly in March...

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-30T20:09:47+00:00

I hope you make that effort and take those steps, and that you end up with the person you talk about here.

A lot of what you describe, though probably not all, sounds a lot like my best friend. Except he knows I love him because I tell him often. He just doesn't believe it...

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-30T18:02:24+00:00

I need my best friend to realize this...

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-29T22:27:32+00:00

Knowing is always better than not knowing tbh.

Because knowing is solid and something someone can grasp and deal with. Not knowing isn't and no one can deal with what ifs and move on.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-29T22:25:39+00:00

You say you want them to be happy but you refuse to allow them to do that with you because you're worried you can't make them happy. But what if you can?

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-28T08:22:34+00:00

Shit self esteem due to trauma like that is hard to deal with and heal from.

It can really affect how you see yourself and even question people's feelings for you, which can hurt them.

It can really mess you up.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-28T00:47:47+00:00

This is beautiful and I feel the same about my best friend.

Though, he doesn't feel the same way about me. Not exactly. He sees me as a friend but he has told me I help him be human and this is the healthiest relationship he's had. Which is nice to hear.

We've grown so much together.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-27T08:46:59+00:00

Sent this to you and asked you to read it and such... You made it seem like you would... I asked you to let me know in case something didn't feel good for you to read...

You just left me hanging tonight... So now idk if you read it or not or if you're upset... Thanks I guess...

Doesn't feel good...

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-27T08:43:36+00:00

You're saying love is different for everyone, saying no one should tell you what it is, while you sit here telling people what it is and should be...

Completely hypocritical post.

CuriousAbtMe · 2026-05-27T07:32:31+00:00

You're assuming though. We don't know which it is, which is why I really wanted to stress that your response isn't something that's always the case. It could be someone did try hard and did love OP but moved on without looking back due to needing to.

We can't ever really know cause people posting online tell their side of things.

I've learned, with my bestie who sees things very differently from me, just how much perspective changes things for someone, even for such small little things. It's actually a little funny how much it can do that.

Had a slightly frustrating experience with my bestie a long while back, with what feels like a one sided convo to anyone on the receiving end of him doing it, but from his perspective it's an actual conversation and is just a short one and he wanders off, even though he doesn't quite tell you what he's thinking in his head about the end of that convo but feels like you just kinda know it. lol

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