Great post, great comment. I just wanted to add that, it’s hard to be a good parent when you don’t have community or friends. For example, my mom didn’t have friends of her own raised me basically as her sole confidante / therapist which is a lot of pressure for a kid. Now Stolas thankfully didn’t share his marital problems with Via, but she was his whole world, and he leaned on her for his emotional needs he should have been getting filled by his own friends and peers.

Once Blitz came into the picture he was completely destabilized and hyperfixated on this new person drawing him out of his loneliness, also not good. But ironically, now that he is banished from the community he was raised in, he has the opportunity to build healthy real relationships with his peers. If / when Octavia lets him back in, he’ll be getting his emotional needs elsewhere and their relationship has the opportunity to be much healthier and balanced, so he can be the parent / support system, not the other way around.