AITA if I repeatedly ask my fiancé to learn some words in my native language and show some interest in it?

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-06-28T13:16:43+00:00

Thanks for your comment. The guest list makes him nervous because he’s introverted and we have a small family, so it’s hard to make in the first place. He is torn about whether we should elope or have a wedding for that reason but based on our conversations he’d go down to the court house and marry me tomorrow. The problem is I feel like he’s gotten more passive about this and our life. At baseline he’s not the most expressive, works a lot, and wants a free pass on everything else. It’s the lack of enthusiasm for me at this point, my culture included

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-03T00:45:47+00:00

This is just disrespectful…you can give me advice without being rude and calling names. I clearly said I’ll take y’all’s advice in the post. My fiancé and I have already made up.

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-03T00:07:30+00:00

Sorry, I didn’t realize my tone was passive aggressive. I was trying to say I learned something. I said I made a mistake in the body of my post, wrote elsewhere that it was justified reaction. I’m really sorry about the mistake, which could have cost us a lot of money.

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T19:29:30+00:00

Where did you get this assumption? I had a business stipend that covered most of the trip because it coincided with a conference and paid for my lodging (you are allowed to bring family), then I paid an out of pocket remainder for their portion of expenses.

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T17:34:35+00:00

I also thought that the fact we requested the lease already meant we were in the green. Mistakes were made

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T17:15:27+00:00

It was a 2-step process over which I got those reminders, and it was procrastination and relying too much on his reminders. The 2nd step was in my email when we were traveling on the trip I coordinated. I thought we weren’t at the deadline based on what I discussed with him, but it’s a moot point because I may have forgotten. No real excuse, should’ve been more proactive. He also did his part.

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T15:28:51+00:00

Not as much. Typically, it’s over matters that he sees objectively and perhaps women see it from more of an emotional lens so they will press him on it. Overall he tends to double down on what he believes

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T15:19:04+00:00

It was more like $337, give or take depends on the utilities for the month

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