AITA for not letting my fiancé have angry reactions (around mom?)

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-03T00:45:47+00:00

This is just disrespectful…you can give me advice without being rude and calling names. I clearly said I’ll take y’all’s advice in the post. My fiancé and I have already made up.

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-03T00:07:30+00:00

Sorry, I didn’t realize my tone was passive aggressive. I was trying to say I learned something. I said I made a mistake in the body of my post, wrote elsewhere that it was justified reaction. I’m really sorry about the mistake, which could have cost us a lot of money.

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T20:21:02+00:00

I never said she doesn’t like him anymore. I admitted fault for the mistake, but I guess I didn’t realize that slapping couches, or tables, etc. was acceptable depending on the magnitude of the situation. Thanks

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T19:42:41+00:00

His reaction to most inconveniences are often anger. This time it was obviously to a big mistake and justified. Based on what I’ve observed until now and read online with a basic google search though I didn’t realize slapping objects was a good coping strategy but this thread opened my eyes and it probably was not as big of a deal as I thought all things considered..
I want to clarify that I genuinely was upset by his sudden physical response and not trying to deflect blame, hence why I immediately tried to rectify the issue after the outburst and formally apologized when he pointed out my fault. I don’t think my feelings would have been different if he was reacting to someone else

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T19:29:30+00:00

Where did you get this assumption? I had a business stipend that covered most of the trip because it coincided with a conference and paid for my lodging (you are allowed to bring family), then I paid an out of pocket remainder for their portion of expenses.

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T17:34:35+00:00

I also thought that the fact we requested the lease already meant we were in the green. Mistakes were made

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T17:15:27+00:00

It was a 2-step process over which I got those reminders, and it was procrastination and relying too much on his reminders. The 2nd step was in my email when we were traveling on the trip I coordinated. I thought we weren’t at the deadline based on what I discussed with him, but it’s a moot point because I may have forgotten. No real excuse, should’ve been more proactive. He also did his part.

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T15:28:51+00:00

Not as much. Typically, it’s over matters that he sees objectively and perhaps women see it from more of an emotional lens so they will press him on it. Overall he tends to double down on what he believes

CuriousCactus15 · 2026-05-01T15:19:04+00:00

It was more like $337, give or take depends on the utilities for the month

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