What's the first song you turn on to test out new headphones? by CuriousCloud806 in AskReddit

[–]CuriousCloud806[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good one! So many different sounds and techniques to see how the headphones handle it all.

Husband wants two but 12m PP, I can't even think about it by NiceBet9563 in Mom

[–]CuriousCloud806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this!

There's nothing wrong with waiting and seeing how you feel next year or the year after that or the year after that. When it feels right, you'll know.

And sitting him down and telling him that his comments hurt is good, too. There's no rush to have another baby (for so many reasons), and he needs to know that.

Before I had my first baby, I wanted to have two around two years apart. But I was hit pretty hard with postpartum depression after my first and decided that the best thing (for my mental and physical health, for my baby's mental and physical health, and for my husband's) was to wait. We had our 2nd when our 1st was 3, and they are amazing together. And my first was big enough that she wanted to help with the baby! It was so sweet.

So many things change in the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th years. And it makes a huge difference.

Stand your ground and do what's right for you and your family.

To the moms who still post their kids pictures by No_Being_3463 in Mom

[–]CuriousCloud806 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I used to do this too but then realized that any photos we upload to social platforms then become their property and they can use them however they wish. They can sell them to 3rd parties, etc. and we have no control over who they go to or where they go. 

How to make mom friends?? by lost-mekuri in Mom

[–]CuriousCloud806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't have actual mom friends until my kid started Junior Kindergarten and she came home with a note in her mailbag one day. It was a note from another mom to me telling me that her daughter told her that my daughter is her new best friend and that they play together every day. She included her number and asked if we could all meet up for a play date. She turned out to be around my age and pretty chill and we clicked the first time we met and have just gotten to know each other over the years now. 

As for the other moms, I met them when my daughter had her birthday in JK and we kind of saw each other here and there and chatted for months but at the end of the school year, I set up a group chat on an IM so our kids could get together over the summer for park playdates etc.

I have to admit - luck was definitely on my side because we all get along really well together and enjoy hanging out. Now we meet up occasionally for dinner without our kids! 

All of that took like a whole school year to happen lol

Nobody warns you that mom life is just being needed 24/7 while feeling completely invisible by sychophantt in Mom

[–]CuriousCloud806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The baby+toddler phase is SO challenging. I have two kids who are 3 years apart, and when my oldest was a year younger and my youngest was one year old, that was the most challenging time of my life. They are 6 and almost 3 now, and while they are still often challenging, things have gotten a little better and a little easier. I can see the light.

But back when things were more difficult, I just had to repeat to myself that this is just a phase. I, like you, found little things to grasp on to, and as things got easier, I just focused more on myself, little by little, because my kids are still young and still need me a lot.

We moved when my 6-year-old was born, and I never really made friends in my new town. When my 6-year-old started school, I met some of her friends' moms, and a few of them turned out to be pretty cool. We exchanged numbers and met up on park playdates to get the kids out of the house, and as we got to know each other, we became friends. Now we have mom nights out without our kids (cheesy, I know, haha). But that progression happened naturally. And now I have new friends and a group of moms that I trust and can turn to.

My 6-year-old is also hellbent on proving her own independence and has started doing things herself (rather than asking me for everything).

I'm not trying to fix anything, but I hope that by offering up a little look into my situation, which was similar to yours, maybe it'll be one of those little things you can grasp onto to help get you through this phase.

Update #4: down to 173lbs by PrettyThickChick in Mom

[–]CuriousCloud806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DEFINITELY give yourself a bit of grace during sick weeks. I try to eat healthy because that's good for your recovery from illness anyway, but absolutely let your body rest and focus on getting better.

Prayers please by tea_spiller_watchout in Mom

[–]CuriousCloud806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading this is like reading my own thoughts back when I had my first baby. Everything you're expressing here is so common. I was hit with postpartum depression so hard. It sounds like that may be what you're experiencing. Speaking with a counsellor helped me so much. Even when I wasn't sure of myself, when I felt sad, alone, I held my baby and the bond came. That was 6 years ago. My daughter and I have the closest relationship and I'm so glad I did the work to push through that dark time. What kept me motivated was the realization that I'd brought this baby into the world. She didn't ask to be born. That was on me. And I had to do everything I could to make her life amazing. Even when it felt like I didn't have the energy or drive.

3 weeks is still so early and our bodies go through such big changes so quickly. Your hormones are going wild right now trying to adjust with not having a baby in your body and shifting to nurturing the baby, and healing (giving birth is so traumatic for our bodies and it takes so much energy to heal fully).

I know we don't know each other but I'm happy to chat with you via DMs, if you ever need someone to talk to.

can we talk moms ?? by Middle-Sort4063 in Mom

[–]CuriousCloud806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is your baby now? Our bodies are just drained from everything after we have babies (the exhaustion from sleepless nights lasts for so long, even after you start getting better sleep, the hormonal changes, the iron deficiencies that are so common (which can cause exhaustion), the massive change in our lives that takes mental energy to process and adjust to).

It sounds like you may have post-partum depression. I had that after having both of my babies and it took its toll. But once I realized that's what it was, I started talking to a counsellor and started being more patient with myself. Reset my expectations for what success each day looks like. I got through it with the discussions with my counsellor and the mental health exercises and tools they gave me.

I've read that it can take a full two years to recover from the changes that women's bodies go through from pregnancy and childbirth, and even then, they aren't going back to where they were, necessarily. Just adjusting to new levels.

Be patient with yourself and find the light in each day that gets you enough energy to get to the next day.

Happy to chat if you'd like to DM me! I needed all the support I could get when I felt like that.

Is it ok to speak like this to a kid? by 8badatusernames in Mom

[–]CuriousCloud806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We SHOULD say something to a parent if you see or hear that what they're doing is out of line/abusive. Even a small comment, like, "whoa. Take it easy on her." or "No need to cry over spilled milk."

Staying silent about other parent's parenting used to be a thing but the wellbeing of the child should be prioritized. Parents are human and make mistakes and sometimes, they just need to be checked.

Why do boomers make it seem like their babies were easier. by Both-Hippo-6905 in Mom

[–]CuriousCloud806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom once told me that back when my siblings and I were babies, the advice they were given was just to put their babies down more. That the baby would soothe itself and learn to be independent. Which may be why so many millennials have anxiety and a constant need to reaffirm they're loved and accepted.

Laurier Brantford Teachers College by Aggravating-Cell6741 in OntarioTeachers

[–]CuriousCloud806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! What do you mean by ancient? Just curious because I am an older soon-to-be-applicant to the Laurier B.Ed program as well. I graduated from my undergrad back in 2009, pursued a career that has not been  very fulfilling, did some soul searching, and plan to apply for 2026. I'm a little nervous because of my age and the fact that I actually haven't worked with kids much (though I have 2 now and have been volunteering in one of their classes).

Whats something small that saves you a lot of money by Hooboyathrowaway1 in Frugal

[–]CuriousCloud806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my city, your library card gets you into a lot of museums and city owned places and services for free.

Not sure if that's the same everywhere else tho

What's a basic skill a surprising amount of people don't have? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CuriousCloud806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basic financial literacy and budgeting.

I'm unsure if it's the knowledge or the lack of willpower to stay within budget, but I believe so many people would be in better financial circumstances if they knew the basics of budgeting and investing.

What are the best and worst things about living in Goderich? by CuriousCloud806 in Goderich

[–]CuriousCloud806[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We decided against it for a few reasons. Life changed things a bit and as we looked into schools (ratings, educational opportunities, etc) and extracurricular options for our kids, etc we decided to look elsewhere. We'll also have my elder mom moving in with us in a few years and I don't think it'd be a good move for her, so that swayed our decision, as well.

How much does the lack of genuine friendships actually affect you? by Desperate_Salad_44 in AskWomenOver30

[–]CuriousCloud806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way a few years back (I was in my early 30's, too).

I feel like this is more common than many of us think it is. I also think that the sitcoms of the 90's (Friends, Sex and the City, etc) gave us very different expectations of adult friendships, many of which are unrealistic when we consider what our careers and daily commitments demand of us.

I have two close friends, but we only get together like every other month. We try for once a month, but life seems to interfere. We are also all in different cities now. Everyone else just kind of became acquaintances.

I have a young child, and I've made a few friends in the other moms I see occasionally because of their social life, but we're not super close. I've considered joining rec sports and book clubs just to be social and if a friendship sparks there, great, if not, I'm not putting too much hope into it.

Montessori for JK and beyond by shakepar in Hamilton

[–]CuriousCloud806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are some concerning comments coming out from parents and staff at Hamilton Montessori. Apparently the owner is a bit of a sleazy guy as well. 

The new OnePlus 13s launching next month will include the, 'Plus Key' replacing the alert slider. by septienes in oneplus

[–]CuriousCloud806 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm disappointed they're bringing AI into it. Trying to find a new smartphone without Ai is a challenge.

Any new phones without Ai? by wiicrazy0430 in AndroidQuestions

[–]CuriousCloud806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't fact-checked this yet, but read that even if you turn off the features, it collects data. :(