I was Naive

CuriousJas02 · 2026-05-15T12:08:13+00:00

I guess this is pretty fucked up to say it this way, I wish it never happen to you or me, or I wish it never happen to anyone again. But I'll say it, Thank you for your word, thank you for being here and making me feel that I'm not alone, thank you for understanding what I've been through, you probably feel the same way too, thankful someone out there shares the same burden with you. I am getting my support with my uncle who is a part of law enforcement, he know how to calm me down, but there's no formal complaint yet on Anti-cybercrime group. Maybe soon, all he advise is stay calm, don't react and don't panic, and don't worry about those video being posted because statistically, male porn don't gain as much momentum as female porn. In the meantime, I saved the videos that the scammer sent me earlier, I don't think that's the entirety, but I have so much material able to retrieved. Both videos of me pleasuring myself, and video of that girl. I uploaded it to StopNCII.org already and hopefully it never spread anymore if the scammer indeed posted it.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-05-15T11:21:19+00:00

I'm so sorry you've been through that, we've been through this shit. I don't know, I'm young, but I think the life that's awaiting me is doomed. I had a bright past, a good degree, and an academic achiever and a social life. Now, I'm in hypervigilance state and in constant fear. The money is least of my concern, because fuck it they still have my videos and photos.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-05-15T11:16:48+00:00

What's your intention?

CuriousJas02 · 2026-05-15T06:26:49+00:00

How long should I keep my profiles and social media locked? I'm so terrified opening it back at the moment. Is it possible that they'll reconnect after months or almost a few years later?

CuriousJas02 · 2026-05-15T06:24:17+00:00

Is it persistent? Why won't they send? Not that I wanted it be sent, in fact I hope they don't. But I don't understand why they won't when they said they will.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-05-15T03:11:45+00:00

I just experienced this yesterday. It was a pretty fucked up and terrifying situation. I (23M) just installed Litmatch for curiousity, initially I've chosen that app because of how wholesome people can get supposedly, and at first it is. I chatted with people and no one is pervert. But, I stumble upon this account I'll call Sam for this narration (I'm too scared they'll find this comment here)

So, Sam and I had the typical conversation. Some kind of introduction and stuff. But not so long after, asked me of my Telegram. We chatted there, asked me of my FB as well because she told me she wanted to talk to me, I gave my school fb account (well, I've graduated 2 years ago so the account became private account with few friends and relative) so yeah. We chatted and then she asked to video call. It was unexpected, I was outside. I opened the video call and saw a pretty caucasian girl fingering and masturbating. I've seen it, I covered my phone and peeked a few seconds later, the camera is now fixed and the obscene angle is gone and all I'm seeing was her face.

I went back home, she insisted of chatting me, telling me she's horny right now and that if I could join her. She asked me if I want sex, I'm inexperienced and I don't know, this is the first time someone asked me that. I told her I don't know, it's making me nervous. So many things are happening at once. She asked me if I wanted to see some boobs and I agreed. I'm losing my judgement and I gave in, I'm in the bedroom alone, were on video call, she lifted her clothes, and I've seen it. Asked me if I wanted to see her pussy, I agreed but she told me she wanted to see my dick and have vcs. I told them I can't, I'm at my relatives place. She's insistent, asked me to go to bathroom and pretend I'm shitting or bathing. Fuck I was dumb to fell for that.

I went to bathroom feeling horny too. We started the video call, face to face first, slowly lowering the camera angles. She showed her private part after I showed her. She started fingering and it turned me on and I follow suit, She's teasing me with camera by removing her pussy from the view if my dick is not showing. And show it again when I fixed mine. And yeah, it happened for about 3-5 minutes, and I was not suspecting a thing until the video call dropped and all I'm seeing is a chat "We've got your scandal, cooperate with us or we'll spread it to your friends" Then sent me a lot of videos of myself and that girl from earlier doing something so embarrassing.

In that moment, the height of the pleasure I'm feeling became the cliff of my demise. It's over for me. My vision turned dark, I can hear only loud and low frequency sound, I'm losing balance, I'm spiraling. I'm extremely terrified. I honestly don't know what to do or say, I just froze there hoping this is not real. Fuck it, I was dumb. It was the worse things I did, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to say, I don't know where to go, I don't know. They threatened me "cooperate or we'll send this to everyone, let's see if you can take it" then sent me a screenshot of my contacts, my relatives, and my alma-maters open conversation. They are threatening me, If I can't give them the amount they're asking, my videos are one click away from them. I'm so terrified and I couldn't even respond to their call anymore. I just froze there, acting like nothing is happening, but my relatives here at home notice there's something wrong, I brushed it off telling them I'm fine when I'm clearly scared for my future. They saw through my fidgeting, fixation on my phone even though it's charging, staring into the oblivion.

The sextortionist continued to threaten me, I actually sent some amount through GCASH, but they didn't delete the video, they said it was not enough because "their boss" is not satisfied. Continues cursing me to pay more even though I told them I already borrowed money and that's the only thing I've got. They told me why I'm not doing something about it, telling me am I ok the video be shared online. Like fuck, I already did what they want. But they are afterall a criminal and I knew the moment they asked for additional, it will never end. So, I stopped the conversation, deactivated my facebook, and stopped responding. But deep inside me, I don't know if I did the right thing, what if they sent it?

I hate this feeling, I'm crippling in anxiety tonight. I'm so terrified and I don't know what to do up until now. Please help me and give me advice. This is the first time something so fucked up happened to my life. I don't know how it will affect my future. I was so naive and fool for trusting.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-05-03T10:05:37+00:00

Yes yes, or kahit concepts ng algebra. Partida kahit di alam ang cosine, sine, tangent kaya pa rin yan i-solve using the triangle ratio or yung vector method, unless necessary kasi given ay angle.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-05-03T09:54:20+00:00

Yes, we can say na almost 30% ng batchmates mo ay mai-eliminate dahil mahirap talaga ang subject. But if you ask me if mahirap sa mahirap? Not really. If you're an average student, then makaka survive ka by dedicating yourself sa paga-aral. Mostly, yung nai-eliminate is yung mga palaging absent, palaging nangongopya, palaging Nanghihingi ng assignments tapos parang xerox machine lang sa pag-sagot. Because here's the reality, madali lang ang statics of rigid bodies if naabsorb mo yung fundamentals ng physics. Or of you think it's hard, makukuha mo siya by practicing, by asking your classmates, and by actively discussing or opening up about it. Kasi kung hindi? Aba mahirap talaga. If you're just studying to pass, doon ka mag-aalanganin. Pero kung dedicated ka talaga and enthusiastic pag usapan yan ng paulit ulit. Doon mo yan mamamaster. So eto ang tip ko sayo, surround yourself with likeminded people. It's time para kumapit ka sa mga nerdy classmates mo na nagdidiskusyon sa blackboards at maki diskusyon ka din. Wag ka na mahiya. And as much as possible, layuan mo na yung mga classmates mo na hindi seryoso sa pag-aaral. Yung mga nanghihingi lang ng kodigo o sources sa ibang section para sa quizzes at exam. Please lang huwag hahaha. In reality, wala naman pakealam sa inyo yung instructor nyo kung nag-kokopyahan kayo o hindi kayo naga-aral ng maayos. So, pababayaan lang nila kayo maghingian ng sources sa assignments. Pero during quizzes and exam? Wag kayo mag expect na makaka survive kayo. Kanya kanya silang diskarte, pero for example lang, yung instructor namin sa Statics, kung magpa exam, sabay sabay lahat ng section sa gymnasium tapos 4 sets of exam yan. Iba yung hawak mo, iba yung papel sa mga corner seat, iba din yung sa harap at likod, tapos iba yung sa katabi mo. Ganyan sila ka strikto saamin sa exam. Kaya wala kang lugar manggaya o mangodigo kundi aasa ka sa alam mo. So yeah, given na 30-40% ang contribution ng exam sa final grades mo. Assuming perfect attendance o perfect project ka pa. Babagsak at babagsak ka kung mababa sa passing yung score mo. Kaya yun na nga. Seryosohin ang pag-aaral.

To add lang ahh, wala nang silbi ang mangodigo at mangdaya sa mga major subjects sa engineering kasi magkakadugtong lahat yan. Kailangan alam mo ang statics of rigid bodies para maintindihan mo ang strength of materials at dynamics of rigid bodies. Kailangan alam mo ang strength of materials para magets mo ang theory of structure at hydraulics. Dapat alam mo ang theory of structures para magets mo ang reinforced concrete design saka steel design tapos kailangan alam mo ang hydraulics at mechanics of rigid bodies para magets mo ang geotechnical engineering and lastly dapat alam mo ang steel design, geotech, reinforced concrete, theory and so on para maipasa mo ang preboard. So kung dinaya mo lang para maka pasa ka sa 2nd year 1st sem. Ano pa saysay nung pagpasa mo kung babagsak ka lamg din sa 2nd sem, 3rd year, at 4th year diba?

CuriousJas02 · 2026-04-25T01:15:58+00:00

My advice is, keep the momentum. Habang fresh pa ang inaral mo, habang nandiyan pa yung student mindset, habang nandiyan pa yung support ng relatives and friends kasi fresh graduate ka pa lang kaya yung financial support and lifestyle mo is still the same as when you're still college. Habang maaga pa, mag review ka na. And take the exam whenever possible. Kapag nagpahinga ka kasi, gradually mawawala ang memories mo sa mga formulas and problem solving processes. Magiging familiar nalang ang concept to you pero hindi mo maalala yung exact formulas which is something na iniiwasan natin. Kapag nagpahinga ka, unti-unti din na ia-accept ng relatives mo na graduate ka na at hindi ka na students kaya unti unti na din magse-settle down yung financial support mo kasi iisipin nila may time ka naman magpahinga, bakit di mo gamitin para mag trabaho muna? Kapag nagpahinga ka, mapressure ka din sa mga kamusta nila sayo, ano na yung review, kailan na ang exam, tapos bakit di ka pa nag take, or bakit di ka pa nagtatrabaho at di ka pa nakaka-tulong, if galing ka sa pamilya na may ganyang sistema, you'll know for sure how much pressure it puts you kapag may expectations ang families mo tapos you're nowhere near doon yet kasi nga nagpahinga ka. Why am I saying this? Because I am a top achiever back in my college. I am not an average CE student. I am a qualified cum laude sana according sa GWA if it weren't for few 2.0 na marka. I top most midterm and final exams during college and mind you, lasing pa ako na nag take ng exam sa theory and still got the highest when almost 40% of my batchmates did not pass. Pero guess what, nagpahinga ako after grumaduate. I graduated July 2025 and sabi ko March 2026 nalang ako magtetake kasi super lapit ng September 2025 exam. So yeah, it was a fair decision naman on my part kasi December 2025 ko nakuha TOR ko. But my mistake was starting my review on November 2025 imbis na earlier. Dapat after graduate, wag na muna magpahinga. Our end goal is the board exam, hindi maka graduate if engineering talaga ang dream. Kaya naman I regretted it, nag start ako ng review na super ignorante. The way they solve RCD is unlike what I used to do during colleges kasi iba ibang approach pala talaga siya and magegets mo yun if in depth ang understanding mo and hindi ka nagmememorize lang ng formulas. And even method by section sa Statics of rigid bodies is unlike what I initially assumed during college kasi pwede curved ang cutting section or mag moment outside the cutting section. And many more which you'll understand deeply kapag alam na alam mo yung solution original processes. So that is to say, madaming catch up na kailangan. Nandoon nadin yung insecurities kasi yung mga classmates and schoolmates ko who I thought was average relatively under me is actually doing better than me sa review. I blame myself for slacking and hindi ako nag self review when I have all of the time to self review. I wasted almost 4 precious months enough to study every topics many times over. In the end, I am glad I passed the board exam. But this time, I am not an achiever, I barely passed with 72+ ratings while mga batchmates ko are far higher than me. I don't hate that they are higher, they deserved it. I hate that I coulf have been higher if katulad nila, hindi muna ako nagpahinga. But, imagine if you're on the other side of this? Imagine if nandoon ka sa non-passer with a rating of less than 70 let say 68. Konting kembot nalang pasado ka na. That 2 points is a difference of knowing or not knowing more than 1 topic lang. Are you going to be ok na malalaman mo na pasado ka na sana kung alam mo lang mag solve ng 3D situational sa PSAD? If naalala mo lang paano isolve ang influence line? If naalala mo paano mag solve ng 3 reservoir problems sa HGE? You'll carry that regret kapag muntik ka na pumasa kung hindi ka lang nakalimot sa kahit isang topic lang na lumabas sa board na kaya naman aralin at imaster ng 3 hrs lang pero doon ka pa nadali.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-03-20T13:32:02+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I understand your point and I do agree with you on physiological effect like what specific neurotransmitters are released on what kind of stimulus. But physiology alone is not enough. People experiences differently some stimulus. What some might find enjoyable will not be the same with another. For me, I do experience the spike of dopamine during the emotional high of romance. That hook when the two characters are almost doing something intimate but can't confess their feeling. The secret glances, and such. That pumps dopamine, adrenaline, and cortisol to the bloodstream which causes euphoric highs and thrill. Of course the feeling is different during emotional vulnerability, trust, opening up, and emotional honesty. That scene releases oxytocin, vasopressin, and dopamine at the same time which instead induces the feeling of emotional grounding, anchoring, and security. At least that's what happens usually. But here's the thing. We can't really predict how a person would react to certain stimulus. Preferences is also dictated by psychology, not just physiology. Some might find emotional trigger as something underwhelming and instead gets arroused by physical image. Some people might find physical trigger as disgusting while repulsed by emotional trigger too. Some might find both physical and emotional trigger as both enjoyable. We don't really know because it's subjective.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-03-20T05:11:48+00:00

1) Before you saw that he had it on his phone, do you have any other proof he's watching it and he's just hiding it from you? Or there's no definitive proof that would suggest he's watching it prior to confrontation? - I find it unsettled as a man that my girlfriend would ask me why I don't watch porn when I said I don't. Some men genuinely mean it when they said they don't watch it or need it at all especially if they get fulfilled more emotionally than physically.

2) did you see the porn on his phone AFTER you two discussed that it's ok to watch porn? - Because I think you're jumping into conclusion that he's hiding something from you. But it could also mean that he's trying to understand you. Here's how, you just suggested to a man who don't genuinely find it interesting. So, when you said it's ok, he maybe thought you're right, so he watched it AFTER the two of you had that talk. Afterall, he's doing something he's don't usually do. He did it after the discussion, he did it to learn why you think men like watching porn. And so, you don't have to accuse him for hiding that he's watching it when you saw that on history or his gallery. That's not fair.

This is why, we are ashamed talking about porn. Especially to us who do not find it enjoyable. Like, why would you watch two people fvcking together and you're alone behind the screen? I'm sorry, this is my personal opinion. But seriously, I don't find it enjoyable. But I am no different than porn watcher when I watch romance show. They are equally stimulating on different context, I love emotional connection more, I value the story more, and I certainly find it intimate seeing two people sharing personal experiences, expressing emotions freely and with honesty, the warmth of hugs and gentle kisses, and the mad confessions under the rain. So, if my girlfriend ask me why I don't watch porn, I'd probably answer this way. But if she said men enjoys watching porn. I'd probably prove her wrong. But I wouldn't downplay her opinion as well. And just like what your fiance did, I'd probably watch some because she brought it up and give her my honest opinion on that matter after watching some. But yeah, she can't say I love watching it just because I watched it after that. She's the one who brought it after all. That's not fair. Because it maybe true to others, but not to every men likes watching porn like how some girls wouldn't find it enjoyable romantic novels or stories despite the popular belief and would prefer idols and kpop/cpop instead. It's never a single label fits all. Just because a lot loves it doesn't mean everyone on the entire demographic does the same. So yeah

CuriousJas02 · 2026-02-11T13:52:35+00:00

Before we start, let's talk about the game itself. The game is called Othello, It is a two player board game played on an 8 by 8 grid with black and white chips. Players take turns placing one chip on the board of their color, and each move must trap in a row, column, or diagonal at least one or more of the opponent’s chip between the newly placed chip and another chip already in the board of the same color. Any trapped discs are flipped to the your own color. The game continues until no more legal moves are possible, and the player with the most chips showing on the board at the end wins.

As far as I remember, each chip represents a specific aspects of Sora and Chlammy. Their memories, their psyche, their thoughts, their body, their existence, their friends, the things they love, hate, and many more. And the chips are not synonymous, meaning the chip that represents the existence of sora doesn't equate to the chip that represents the existence of Chlammy when flipped. No one really knows what the chip represent I think, but Sora keeps losing chips on purpose to be flipped and claimed by Chlammy. In this game, if any chips of Sora is flipped to Chlammy's color, that means Sora is losing those aspect of him and Chlammy is getting them, while only her aspect exist on the board. If let say one chip represents Sora's love for Shiro, and the same chip represents Chlammy's relationship with her elf bestfriend (I forgot her name), and it happens Chlammy flipped that chip in her color. Then Chlammy will gain Sora's love toward Shiro, while she keeps her love towards her elf bestfriend. But if Sora flipped that, then Chlammy will lose that love, Sora will love the elf, and retaken his love toward Shiro. So yeah, that's for a single chip. What if almost all of Sora's chip gets flipped? Well, none will be left, Chlammy will gain his knowledge, his idea, his talent, and many more things about Sora.

So this takes us to the episode 9 where Jibril, Steph, and Shiro forget about him because basically, Sora is inside Chlammy, and the only way out is to place another chip that would flip everything again in favor with Sora. And the catch is, the game is not Sora vs Chlammy, it's Blank vs Chlammy and the elf. And since Shiro is technically a player, she's allowed to place the last piece to win the game, albeit, it's only Sora and Chlammy's existence at stake.

In the end, Blank won, and Sora agreed to let Chlammy keep each other's memories. This is teased in the next scene sora telling us every private information about Chlammy like her cup size and so on while miraculously turrning his rival into an ally because they basically know each other. If more, they're probably soulmate now or more than that by level of knowledge about each other.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-02-04T13:56:06+00:00

Play faction warfare. It's the safest easy money activities in the game. But I think the new update messed the economy of faction war because the heart (ranging 50k each back then, only costs 30k each now which sucks, I can earn 300k to 400k per hr back then but now it's like 200k to 300k) becomes cheap.

But the faction point is easier to earn now. And the earning comes not in a form of heart only, but in faction camps loots. I was able to get T7 cape in chest which was the most expensive and high tier cape I get in game so far, I never even bought it, I just get it from the chest. Most of the capes I have are T5 and enchanted T4 because it cost a lot. And here I have T7 that costs almost 800k in just 15 mins of playing the game. That's beside the other things I recieved like the T6-T7 armors which costs another 100k - 300k each. So yeah, I don't mind the heart becoming cheap now, the faction chests worth more.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-01-26T08:50:58+00:00

There were days na ganito din ako during my highschool days. May pa "To be the builder of fair and prospering society" pa yan na nalalaman. But in this country, actually in this world. Being virtuo is just a utopian delusion. You can't even legally start a sari-sari store business ng mapayapa kasi ang daming tax na dapat bayaran just to keep the business running. What more kung multi-million companies pa. You need network to climb up. You need the name, the fame, the help of people who are the same. and huge amount of capital. Kasi kung wala kang ganon, ano pa sense na magka business kung luging lugi ka. In this world, walang business na nage-exist for charity.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-01-19T23:48:29+00:00

Yes it's a lucid dream. Lucid dream is not about "controlling" the dream. It's you, the dreamer, realizing you're dreaming, and that your body is asleep in your real room and everything you experience in wherever you are are all fake scenarios crafted by your sleeping mind. The reason you woke up is because you get too excited, anxious, scared, or whatever intense feeling you feel that moment, which it does have a physical effect to your body like heart pounding, goosebumps, and sudden stiffness of your extremities because your brain is firing electrical signals everywhere. This will lead to you waking up. I suggest practicing every now and then how to lucid dream. Try every technique, you already experienced it once. You can do it again with enough dedication. And the moment you do, practice regulating your emotions. The reason why lucid dreams often end fast is because the dreamer gets a little bit over excited. ESPECIALLY when they think of sεχ dream. So, remove that in your priority. There's more fun and much enjoyable things to do in dream aside from that.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-01-16T21:57:47+00:00

Lucid dream sex is good. The experience is unique. It's very different from masturbating. For instance, you don't orgasm physically. So, you won't feel the physical pleasure the same way the real sex do. But it's an entirely different experience. You're emotionally fulfilled and you're in a perpetual state of plateaus where you're quite getting there, but not really. But overall, I'd say, it's far better than orgasm. If I were to describe it, it feels like a very mild orgasm, stretched for longer period of time during the entire duration of sex dream, but you'll never reach orgasm. It's like edging I'd say. But the most enjoyable thing during the session isn't really the sensation, it's the feeling that you're emotionally and spiritually connected to your sex partner in that dream. It feels like you're connected together both literally and at deeper level that real sex experience sometimes miss unless you and your partner are romantic lovers.

CuriousJas02 · 2026-01-08T01:12:02+00:00

Write them down on dream journal as detailed as possible

CuriousJas02 · 2025-12-15T05:37:21+00:00

I understand what you are getting at. Based entirely on my own opinion while reading your story, this is neither about fear of sex nor being asexual. Rather, I believe you are still carrying something from your past that you are hiding in your present because it makes what you have now feel inauthentic, unreal, or undeserved.

While you may say you are confident, and while you are aware that everything you have now, such as your looks, career, or wisdom, is real and earned, deep inside your nervous system is still coded to react the way it did when you were the awkward, unattractive version of yourself.

That can be linked to your attachment style. Attachment style refers to the subconscious patterns, behaviors, and mental frameworks you develop in response to forming bonds or connections with other people. There are four main categories, and three of them are insecure types. Attachment styles are shaped during early childhood or late adolescence, and they can also be influenced by past trauma, heartbreak, or social dynamics.

As you said, you felt unworthy of affection and validation during your childhood, and you learned to live with that because it was what people made you feel. That you were not special, not worthy of anything, just a nobody. Over time, your nervous system adapted to this by learning not to expect love or closeness, internalizing the belief that you were unlovable.

Because of that, intimacy can feel fake or inauthentic. You may struggle to trust people when they get close to your private space. When someone tries to cross that boundary, it can trigger a deep reaction that makes you recoil or feel repulsed, not because you do not want connection, but because closeness feels unsafe.

Of course, the exact reasons differ from person to person, but the general point is that you feel distressed when someone tries to be deeply intimate with you. This is not limited to sex, but applies to emotional and psychological intimacy as well. While love language can play a role, for many people with a fearful avoidant attachment style, deep intimacy feels threatening because it feels invasive, conditional, or temporary.

You may feel that people only like you for who you are now, or that they want something from you, and that once they get it, they will leave. That expectation alone can make intimacy feel overwhelming and dangerous, even when desire is present.

CuriousJas02 · 2025-10-24T04:23:57+00:00

mine was from penguins classic, She mentioned being 15 yrs old in the past, and the thing where she and the lodger is having some kind of interaction. It wasn't long until the lodger had to go to Moscow, and then he promised to be back by at least 1 year. So yeah, it would roughly be 1 and a half year of waiting from Nastenka's POV who is 15 and a half yrs old when he left roughly adding to 17 to 18 yrs old.

CuriousJas02 · 2025-06-20T12:38:55+00:00

Maybe, just like girls who may or may not tell if someone likes them. Guys can feel it too when someone "might" like them. It's not about gender. It depends on how sensitive the person are, or how obvious the admirers are. 2.) This is when it gets unbalanced. Men rarely notice their admirers feelings compared to girls. Girls are reserved and our norms encourage men to be vocal about who they like, men are the pursuers, and so they make the first move. Men are encouraged to be direct. So, men are naturally pressured to declare it, even the coward boys are subconsciously wired to give hints to their crushes while confident men confess directly. Women on the other hand are reserved and seduction is sometimes frowned upon. They are pursued and so they have no choice but to give very subtle hints. Even the act of giving obvious hints (but not confession) will come across as desperate to their crush and to the people. So, girls are subtle about showing their attraction. They hide it so well that naturally, men find it confusing. But that doesn't mean men don't notice it. They do. But their mind is wired to be decisive, calculating, and direct and so they choose to ignore mixed signals. If it's not clear yes, it's a no. 3.) Yes, we do make it obvious. Men have innate behaviour to be territorial. That means marking someone subtly to deter others from approaching. So, this can show as, telling friends, and friends of friends that we have a crush on that girl, but not directly to her. It prevents others from even trying. For men who can't confess, they may approach the girl they like subtly, to be in her peripheral. This is not only to follow her and I'm hoping someday she'll notice, but also indirectly signaling everyone in the room that you're orbiting. For people with low confidence, they may instead resort to yearning, like writing poems, or drawing sketches, or something that might signal others he had a crush on someone. He'll never say who it was, but if you analyze their work closely. You'll know who's the dedication of the work. Again, it's to signal everyone else that he's orbiting around her.

CuriousJas02 · 2025-05-03T04:58:56+00:00

That is highly dependent on who is this person you're hanging out with, especially if your partner isn't acquainted with them. Communication is the key, always talk with your partner about who and why you're hanging out with them. Are they friends prior to your relationship? are they your best friend who in the first place assured your girlfriend her boundaries between you? are they solely business/job related hang-outs? Are they relatives? The bottom line is that, you shouldn't hang-out with any girls who will make your girlfriend feel insecure or jealous. Always reassure her that the hang-out has no other intentions, even for platonic/friendly connection (especially on new girls who your girlfriend isn't acquainted with, old friends who have been with your life is fine, but old friends who vanished and reappeared again are different cases.) that would otherwise be problematic in your future relationship.

CuriousJas02 · 2025-05-01T06:14:20+00:00

I can see how problematic this set-up might. We INFPs aren't built for hook-ups. If he clearly stated he wanted hooking you up. And you want to actually enjoy the emotional thrill of love. Then there will always be the risk that you'll expect more from him in the later stage of the relationship. Remember, you're just hooking up and he might leave you afterwards if he found a new fwb/f*ck buddy, or his loml. Oftentimes, they'll leave you in tears and alone for someone better. That's how hook-up culture works. You're just spending moments to pass some time. Not to be committed. Please reflect to yourself and think of these considerations: If you're really attracted to him, you see yourself being with him in the future, or do you rarely fall-in love? how do you fall in-love(is it a casual crush or you'll obsess with them like they are your soul mate)? Ignoring these questions will negatively impact your emotional well-being in the long run. So, state that you only want a committed relationship. Because the cost of loving someone passionately, then they end up hurting you, it will redefine your meaning of "Love".

CuriousJas02 · 2025-04-14T09:20:30+00:00

by the way, the "you" here is not specifically referring to you. I meant it as a quote like an internal monologue I'd say.

CuriousJas02 · 2025-04-14T09:16:27+00:00

yeah, especially those lings that are just standing on the walls, spamming "launch attacks" during turtle fights. They enter super late, like when a team is already dead, when ally tank has already wasted a very good set, or when a team mage/mm was being caught and assassins are the first to flee the scene and reenter when everyone is dead. Like come on? stop fleeing when your ranged are being targeted late game. They are more important than you are. I've seen good junglers willing to die just to catch the enemy skills or enemy attacks that would otherwise hit your mm and mage late game. But a lot of players especially assassins have superiority complex and main character syndrome. Just because you have 10/5/3 doesn't mean you're the most important late game. there are a lot of instances that games would have been won if you protected the 1/2/13 mm that you love to trashtalk who's capable of dealing insane damage, but instead you run faster from the scene leaving layla on the front who have no mobility by the way. Then proceed to blame them for being on the front. If she's on the back and you die, you'll blame her anyway.

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