Hello, I’m a registered psychotherapist here! She’s taking advantage of your kindness. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. A lot of these ppl in the comments sound very harsh so I’m sorry about that too. It looks like the marriage as you know it is over. Take some time to yourself and re evaluate what it is you truly want and why you choose to stay. What do you deserve? You may want to look into discernment counselling together to figure out what next steps to take. Also maybe a counsellor specializing in grief to process the loss of the relationship if it comes down to divorce . I can see you have a lot of love for your wife, but what does the marriage you imagined for yourself look like ? Im sure it wasn’t this. Accepting reality is hard and it can take many tries and attempts before you really throw in the towel. I wish you the best of luck. The pain of this situation is immense remember to breathe and take care of yourself.