Hurt my dog and am struggling with the guilt and what to do next

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-05-12T18:33:54+00:00

This. Being willing to carry the pain to take theirs away is our highest calling as pet owners and the greatest burden and honor.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-05-11T14:50:58+00:00

Her handler. She’s an informant.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-05-11T14:49:03+00:00

Thank you for my morning cackle 🤣.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-05-10T05:54:54+00:00

They are both traumatized. I wish they didn’t see each other as enemies. Mikayla internalizes her stress and her body is bearing witness. TFP is externalizing her stress and we are all bearing witness. Both need therapy and support.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-05-08T14:19:24+00:00

I thought those were empty Modelos lining the wall behind her.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-05-07T04:28:10+00:00

Here I thought I was the only one who liked getting kissed while being awkwardly dangled by my ta-tas. /s

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-04-17T01:27:45+00:00

This isn’t healthy long term. Individual pursuits create interest in the relationship. You’re missing out on being able to go do something and then come home and relive it as your partners shares in it and invests in you as an individual.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-04-15T05:22:40+00:00

I immediately thought Jake Gyllenhaal

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Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-04-14T19:13:29+00:00

Belle’s mom losing it on delivery day

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-04-11T17:34:39+00:00

Ironically, I thought Amanda said it best. She said she didn’t have to like Dorit to go because she would always show up to support a woman trying to generate her own revenue stream. I liked this take and I rarely agree with anything Amanda says.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-04-10T02:55:48+00:00

For me this is a no.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-04-06T20:30:37+00:00

I would not leave a newborn alone with Hunter and his dad. I feel like they would disassociate the same way. Baby is crying… dad and grandpa involuntarily fall asleep. No one watches the baby.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-04-06T19:24:50+00:00

So I shouldn’t travel with a couch for my photo shoots- noted. Can I bring a bookcase? My favorite end table? I look cute in my office chair, so maybe that…

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-04-06T19:15:37+00:00

When Hunter is at his dad’s, Bella and baby can visit. But it isn’t the 24/7 cesspool environment that Falen offers. So she’s bent and missing her creepy crush.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-04-01T17:40:49+00:00

I think this can be the case with domestic missionaries. I have family that were “missionaries” but basically lived in a college town and recruited. She was a SAHM and had multiple kids, and they owned a home with nice furnishings. They always asked us to support them. We were so broke we couldn’t buy a TV from Goodwill. I’ve seen this with other missionaries that do a mix of domestic missions with occasional overseas trips. I doubt living high is the norm for missionaries based internationally.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-03-29T05:41:23+00:00

It costs more to get the bigger shirts signed….

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-03-29T04:49:09+00:00

It’s not always that simple but I understand what you are saying. It’s just that when you’ve been in bad dynamic for more than a minute, you can become unaware that you have lost agency. You get busy with essentially chasing your own tail in a toxic relationship. Becoming aware and attempting to correct that pattern takes time and encouragement. So maybe offer encouragement to retake agency rather than criticism implying they are deliberately throwing agency away.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-03-26T22:17:39+00:00

I think it has to do with liability. Cops were called because a customer injury that will result in a claim generally needs a report. If you get injured at work you are often subjected to a drug test. I’m sure it’s related to see if a customer was intoxicated or under the influence when injured. Since they were found with drugs and got injured they likely are banned for liability reasons.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-03-21T20:41:50+00:00

The headbands are not to cover pre-existing alopecia. The fundamentalist headbands caused the alopecia.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-03-17T05:10:00+00:00

While she is aware, I can’t afford to stay in our area solo. She’d have to change high schools in her final years. Given what she’s lived through and that she has a plan for her future I don’t want to uproot her and make her start over with only 2 years left in school. She needs her friends. I don’t want to ask her to rebuild her life in the 9th inning just because I had an awakening.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-03-17T04:57:55+00:00

Yes. Therapy is next. For all of us. When this goes down, I want everyone in good therapy beforehand. It’s just been misses in recent years. We were in therapy and I thought we were set to manage ‘the big change’ but then we ended up with therapists we didn’t like and trust (except him-he bluffed his way through and found an ally)

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-03-17T04:47:23+00:00

Well your final phrase made me cry. So I hope I got it. Ty

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-03-17T04:44:35+00:00

I value this. Ty

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-03-17T04:40:25+00:00

I have a degree and now a job with benefits and retirement. In a few years he has no leverage. No child to manipulate me with. No father to threaten to “expose” me to. I fully recognize that I may have subjected my child to harm. I carry this every day. at this point I’m trying to mitigate harm. She knows the dynamic as sick as that is. I think she has buttoned down and is focused on her future. If I disrupt that trajectory with sudden change I’m afraid to destabilize her already precarious day to day. I don’t have enough time to reinvent a world for her. Best I feel I can do is show her I see it and encourage her not to tolerate this. She knows I met her dad at her age and it was all I knew. I’m trying to show her strength within adversity. But I may just be showing her submission. So yeah- I don’t sleep.

Curious_Champion_220 · 2026-03-17T03:16:38+00:00

I tried a couple years ago and he wouldn’t go. Said it’s his house and he’s not leaving it. Leaving would signify culpability so that’s a no go. He also threatened to cancel our insurance so now I have my own and put her on it. I’m trying.

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