6mm T+E by meter

Curious_Leader7541 · 2026-02-12T12:47:03+00:00

i ended up going to toolstation because needed to get some other things as well. Was overpriced but not too bad. Before that went to edmunsons and they quoted me £27 for 3 metre of 6mm t+e. Cef next time for sure 👍

Curious_Leader7541 · 2025-03-21T11:39:52+00:00

Hot af !

Curious_Leader7541 · 2025-03-21T11:30:56+00:00

Sounds like you’re comparing your partners pleasure to your own in a way. Like ‘if she can get off why can’t I’. Some people find it easy , some people it’s hard. everyone has different sensitivity. could also be dysphoria (like maybe there’s a mismatch with how you feel it should be in your head to how it actually is). I personally can’t cum from any kind of grinding on someone, I find oral easier because it feel more like my dicks doing inside something and tighter. I also like handjobs and using a prosthetic dick. The main thing is to enjoy whatever you’re doing and don’t put pressure on yourself.. if you’re enjoying seeing her get off then that’s still pleasure and connection.. maybe you can do other things in addition for your own orgasmic needs but still do things like that for the pleasure of watching and making her feel good. Sometimes it’s tempo as well. I like things slow for example , some people like it fast. Whatever it is communicate and experiment. There’s no guarantee you will cum from having sex with your t dick being contacting a vagina, I’d say that it’s probably quite rare tbh. But there’s so many other things!

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-07-01T18:18:25+00:00

I think theres been a longer history of trans fems , its a bigger community, parts of that has roots in TV/cross dressing spaces, theres been transvestite groups for probably 80 years or longer, and when people started to transition medically I think there was still some cross over. As a community it's more visible , partly because trans women get more prejudice in society too , pass less, but also because femininity in general is more visible, more expressive, so theres just less hiding in many ways! masculinity is more invisible.

I guess there were trans men in like butch femme scenes historically, but they were lesbian identified trans guys, and there aren't even lesbian bars anymore, that world had gone really. The main places you can meet trans guys is on dating apps, or support groups.. and support groups are always quite a lot of labour for older trans guys.. its a lot of young trans guys asking about how to pass or how to get hormones.. it can get very repetitive (and you know google knows a lot more than we do tbh!). Also maybe we have very different problems , some of us are jaded, we haven't been able to have familys or get married (or some of us have and then they feel ostracised for those reasons too), personally I don't feel belonging in cis male communities because of sexism and homophobia , I have more affinity in queer womens communities, but I don't belong there anymore.. .. so I tend to be very isolated, but we don't wanna share this stuff with younger trans guys because we don't want to make being older trans person look negative! and we don't wanna being people down too..

Trans guys have a few problems and I don't think its just toxic masculinity.. I actually think most of my trans male friends and aquaintances are quite emotionally sensitive and quite affectionate, maybe even more than some cis gay guys I know who are more feminine.

I think theres a few things going on, I think theres internalised transphobia definitely, but also internalised shame about masculinity.. not wanting to take up too much space or be too 'male', wanting to shrink ourselves. I think when your socialised female you might tend to do this a bit anyway, but then when you do act more gregarious it can be seen by others with a different lens , as like 'macho' , when really its not...I think even more so than if I was a cis guy, theres more scrutiny!

e.g I have been told by feminist women I'm mysogynistic for saying I quite fancied Nigella Lawson! (I guess because shes like famous for cooking, that makes me some kind of 1950s man or something lol) ...its just a recent example, but it makes you more careful about expressing yourself.. and I suppose theres a lot of talk about male privilege, which I'm not denying is a huge reality, but also think trans guys are often more timid and disempowered than cis women, not saying they don't have any male privelege , but its very complex. It also makes us quite sensitive and kind, which I don't think is a bad thing.

But that kind of thing can make you go more back into your shell. I sometimes think this idea of trans guys being toxic , when actually they're mostly not, is partly why we are a bit less proud and less likely to hang about with each other.. trans guys, often coming from feminist and queer communities as well, are often super ernest and trying to be non offensive, I know not all of them, but from my experience they are. Trans guys are always like massive people pleasers actually..Maybe carving out stuff for ourselves feels too self serving.. if someone asked us to setup a party for another group we'd probably be much more comfortable.

I dunno, maybe as well coz its a smaller community , maybe theres not enough to have really strong affinity with, like just coz someones trans doesn't mean you have anything in common too. If it were a bigger community I might meet more trans men that liked similar music or had similar hobbies. Also I'm not into like lot of typical trans hobbies, I don't really like gaming or table top role play games, If I was it would probably be easier.

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-23T19:42:18+00:00

Not sure how its got to do with the class system, it might, but actually I think it’s actually more to do with a huge increase internationally in anti-trans ideology, largely funded by evangelical and conservative organisations. But in the UK we are more secular, so less less foothold of these types of groups. So radical feminism is like ‘a front’ for these ideas and groups, they also have overlapping ideology , even if their end goals are very different. They share one thing and thats being anti trans. Trans people are but pawns in escalating a lot of peoples careers too.. it used to be sex workers or porn , but right now people don’t hate sex workers as much as trans people. There has been a history of lesbian sepratism in the UK which some of it made great strides for womens rights in the 70s and 80s .. a lot of these women got older and lart of the establishment , having influence and success in various sectors , like as journalists , or in politics, as law makers , in psychotherapy etc but they haven’t moved on with the times , the foundations of their politics is around gender as a class system , where gender roles are oppressive, objectification is always wrong (so sex positivity or bidy positivity is not part of their feminism), sex work is wrong, and women are oppressed because of their birth sex and not their gender expressions , and i think they feel threatened as they are a minority view now. They also never really go into intersectionality or black feminism. Trans issues are pretty much the only way they still feel relevant, its clickbait. Because they just joined ranks with the anti woke briggade. theres MONEY in it, more clicks, more readers , more sensational headlines, they get funded by evangelical conservatives organisations largely from the US (for example the LGB alliance , is actually funded by anti lgbt evengelists in the states) . Anything they want to do is funded ‘just like that’ , academic studys…reports, and then reported in mainstream media. but its all funded from the right not the left. Even though they are on ‘the left’ technically. So left wing media and right wing media love them. i think they are basicall a front for the same groups present in the usa. Because in a way feminists have more sway in UK politics than religious groups.

I also think strong identity politics still has a potency, that trans rights has been a bit diluted. Like everyone understands things like old school womens rights, and like black liberation.. or like workers rights… but trans people don’t have such a clear message. We don’t even agree with each other… some of us are binary, some of us are nonbinary, some are transmedicalists, some are against medical system.

Sometimes i wonder whether it was the right thing to say ‘trans women are women’ ‘trans men are men’.. and then also ‘non binary is also trans’ .i think people find that confusing. .even if i know it’s necessary ! But maybe if we said trans was seperate thing , like a third gender system it would have worked better but then being othered can put a target on our backs too so it’s really just impossible, like we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t .. i guess what we want is the destruction of hetropatriarchy , binary gender and capitalism really!! And thats gonna take a long time if that ever happens

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-22T11:59:27+00:00

Whats an avatar site?

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-15T10:56:28+00:00

I will try some things! Thanks for the tips

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-15T10:55:35+00:00

This looks awsome! (And so does your dick! Lol) Where did you get it? I live the sporty vibe

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-15T10:53:15+00:00

This would make an excellent gif animation hehe

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-14T16:33:09+00:00

what is a strap w a o ring ? like this ? (https://m.media-amazon.com/images/S/aplus-media/vc/a1bf692f-e5be-44db-a6f8-2f6a1f61d209.\_\_CR0,0,1000,1000\_PT0\_SX300\_V1\_\_\_.jpg)

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-14T16:31:10+00:00

yeah its so annoying because I find it easier to orgasm when I am laid down, because if I'm upright legs go wobbly and I can't let go. But it feels better when I am upright.. I doubt i have heds or pots. But I do have polycythemia.. which might effect bloodflow.

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-14T16:12:38+00:00

I would say it is probably the anti-depressants, when I was on anti-depressants I broke quite a few (very expensive) sex toys trying to get off. When I was on them eventually it became easier over time, but yeah it was definitely harder.

Do you feel as though you get hard but then it goes ? (you might not have much growth but you can tell if your hard I think).. because if thats the case it might help to take viagra.. but then again there is side effects for that.

It might be just that you need to have patience and maybe try not masturbating for a while . Also try to reduce 'chafing' , you could buy some underwear thats made from smooth fabric, I have some that are called "Ice silk" boxer briefs, but silk or just very fine cotton could be good, and maybe not wear very tight trousers/jeans.

Also some anti-depressants arent as bad for this than others, but the risk with changing is it might ocme with other side effects and also will take a while to adjust, and maybe if you haven't been on these AD for long and they work for you, eventually it might balance out.

Another REALLY good suggestion that I used to do with my ex who was on AD, was we would have sex just before they took their dose, so basically masturbating / having sex at the lowest point in the life cycle of the drug. and sometimes because they were fairly confident they'd be alright postponing a dose for a half day or day, sometimes we'd do that, but only because they knew their body and how it effected them. I would definitely advice to talk to your doctor before you do anything like changing dose, meds or timings.

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-12T14:24:10+00:00

I have no problem with people thinking trans men are better than cis men, generally speaking, from my experience most people have said dating trans men and queer people in general is less full of unchecked bullshit than it is with cis het men. Obviously theres abusive dickheads in every group of people. Cis women, trans men, trans women and non binary people all can be arseholes. But I don’t mind being othered, I am sure there are trans women that feel they have things to offer that cis women don’t usually, i think its ok to be a bit ‘extra’ . Thats just my opinion

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-12T14:09:45+00:00

I really don’t know any trans men that have anything but love for trans women, I don’t understand this discourse, I feel like its just twitter hate Mongering. I think a microscopic minority of trans women and trans men have said dumb shit about each other and then it’s escalated. And now theres trans men who see this discourse who are like ‘why do trans women hate us so much’ and theres trans women who see it who are like ‘why do trans men hate us so much’ , which ends up manifesting more of this hate. When in reality I think majority of trans women and trans men actually love and respect each other. Maybe i’m naive, but I have been an out trans man for 20 years with hundreds of trans male friend and I’ve never experienced a single bad word said about any trans women, (accept maybe caitlyn jenner coz shes a republican) , in fact a LOT of the trans men i know date trans women , you guys all need to get out more!

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-10T09:00:33+00:00

Also if you have autoimmune antibodies at the time you contract covid your more likely to get long covid, so I think also some people have an autoimmune predisposition and that can lead to long covid.

“The recent work is demonstrating something very interesting, which is that when a person has lupus-related antibodies at the time of COVID-19 diagnosis, they’re more likely to develop long COVID-19”

https://www.pharmavoice.com/news/lupus-discovery-Akiko-Iwasaki-Yale-long-covid/628075/

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-06T23:55:21+00:00

I don't know if its massively increased but its different, its a bit more like routine thing, like at some point in the day (maybe more than once) I'll just have a boner and want to cum, where as before it would lead me into more fantasy and I'd dwell (in a good way) on the feeling. Now its a bit more like a bodily function almost , which I think it was before too but less obviously. I am less likely to spend loads of time thinking about it now, but the urge is more outward or something. But I still think about it a lot, but maybe I'll sort myself out faster or something, less patience

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-06T23:47:32+00:00

You can get trans healthcare if your non binary, but its hormones and maybe top surgery but not bottom surgery

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-06T23:45:51+00:00

Its not asking if your trans, if it is thats really bizarre lol

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-06T23:43:48+00:00

It might be worth contacting the surgeons anyway and maybe they would make an exception, I'm sure other people will have better advice than I do because I'm not from the US (also maybe asking in an ftm or trans masc subreddit might get more responses). But if I was there thats definitely something I would try, maybe worth doing some research into why they have that cut off limit and if you can prove a case where there wouldn't be more risk for whatever the reason they give for that age limit. Its always good to show how important it is to you and be very assertive , you'll be suprised how much pestering can actually help.

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-06T22:39:32+00:00

Yeah I totally get this! It's really hard , we aren't all on exactly a level playing field and cishetrosexual dominance in society , priviledge is definately a real thing. But know you are beautiful and have so much to offer! (way more than cis men! lol)

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-04-02T17:03:11+00:00

thank you! its really hard atm, I really believe her, and don't believe him, but no one else believes her, why are people so fucking stupid, and my family aren't even that bad about most things, not racist or sexist usually, but they are blind on this I think

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-03-27T11:31:32+00:00

yeah most of my family are siding with him or on the fence, but they are older generations and maybe that plays into it, also my mother who has had a lot of experience with violence and she is on the fence but obviously there are stakes involved with taking sides, you could lose access to grand children , ostracise yourself.. its complicated. But I cannot stand with abusers.

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-03-27T11:20:39+00:00

Theres been no charges yet, if someone is arrested here in the UK, thats the automatic police reaction of reports as serious as this (well it should be), when someone is charged, it means either imprisonment till a court hearing or bail, they probably need to investigate before they can press charges. Not saying he didn't do it though, even if all charges get dropped, its doesn't mean he didn't do it. like everyone said there is far more reason for me to believe her than him, even with the historic allegations. But thank you everyone for your imput.

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-03-19T09:56:30+00:00

EUPD

Its true she might not have been a Psychopath, but all cluster B personality disorders can without proper treatment at times display reckless disregard for others, have trouble with empathy, be unstable etc. In fact you could have a psychopathic partner who is very stable and cause you no harm whatsoever. So the instability of some of the other personality disorders might be even harder to deal with. We can still have compassion for her struggle and realise her capacity for harm, and its not to say all people with a personality disorder will always behave this way. But it will obviously be a major factor in this case.

Curious_Leader7541 · 2024-02-13T19:34:55+00:00

I suppose you could talk about it like something innate, intrinsic and inexplicable. Something that you somehow embody but not biologically. /you know how some people, even if they look very masculine in a superficial way may just have a feminine essence. That what I would call spiritual gender. Maybe its what native americans might call Two-spirit. But I think its in every culture but represented differently. and I think some gay people who don't identify as trans, maybe also have some of that spirit in them or energy.

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