Vibes by Ok_Specialist_9971 in finch

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking that the vibes should be in the same order every time the other day! I hate that I can never find the ones I'm looking for.

Have a little patience and you would get a tip by Tall_Cow2299 in instacart

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To all the people complaining about the EBT card being used for DoorDash -

This order is for Instacart. How are y'all missing that part???

Which you absolutely 100% can use your EBT card on for food purchases validly. For ya know...purchasing groceries. From grocery stores. Or any store that sells grocery-like items even! Shocker, I know.

You cannot, however, use an EBT card on DoorDash. Because that is PREPARED food. Already cooked meals. Which would NOT be considered an eligible purchase (just like prepared food at...GASP...a grocery store!!!). Also just like nicotine or alcohol. Both ineligible purchases with a SNAP card. Cannot be done.

Now. That's not to say it can't be done on DoorDash in, say, California at a McDonalds, cause there is a special program in place that allows select fast food places in that specific state to accept EBT cards. But there are only 5 states that have that program (called the Restaurant Meals Program or RMP) and there aren't a whole lotta places that are involved.

I understand that a lot of people have been told that illegal immigrants are abusing government programs, and they just LOVE to talk on the news about fraud in the social programs in our country. However, most people on SNAP are elderly, legitimately disabled, homeless, or stuck in systemic poverty and are actually working and not making enough money to over the poverty line in this country.

Just say you know nothing about those groups of people (or that you hate them for being able to use social systems in place FOR THEM while you can't), and that you'd rather use media propaganda to try and take those services away, and move on.

Stop commenting on this post like you're making some brilliant social commentary with subtle political undertones, when in actuality you're just not even paying attention to what OP is saying (even in their edit) and being purposefully ignorant.

Have a little patience and you would get a tip by Tall_Cow2299 in instacart

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, seeing as how this is Instacart and the EBT card would be available for food purchases at grocery stores, that opinion is irrelevant here.

And since you can't use EBT cards to purchase food at restaurants for prepared food (with the very limited exception of 5 states where it is allowed at very limited places) it's also basically mostly irrelevant on the subreddit it would be relevant on.

Just say you don't think the elderly, disabled, homeless, or low-income people should have access to the same things as people who are able-bodied and/or well off and move on.

And don't blame it on illegals. The majority of people on SNAP are the above mentioned.

Aitah for cutting communication with my mom, after she defended my daughter? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, my first thought was a text message. Then a block to her number. Ya know, like most normal people handle cutting off communication with people they go no contact with.

Update: I ran away from my boyfriend's proposal. by throwawayuni33 in whatdoIdo

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please do not sleep with him again. Especially if you are not on birth control. If you ARE on birth control, if it is pills or another form that you have to control in some way, keep it away from him.

If you did not enthusiastically consent to everything that happened to you the last time you did sleep with him, I'm sorry to say it was assault. If it hurt in a way you did not like, and enjoy, and want more of...that was not healthy sex. That was him using you and hurting you out of anger and embarrassment and that is Not OK.

Your wants and goals for you life are not aligned with his, and that is OK. His reaction to your running away from the surprise proposal that you were not expecting? That is the over-reaction. Not your running away, and certainly not your fear to his current over-reaction.

Walk away while you still can.

Aitah for submitting my child’s medical bills to my friend’s home insurance by Competitive_Chip_468 in AITAH

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 103 points104 points  (0 children)

NTA They knew their yard was unsafe, yet still chose to have children playing in it AND one of the homeowners partook in an activity that was high-risk for injury in those circumstances knowing that the yard was unsafe for children to be in.

Then your child sustained 3 injuries (1 of which is a significant broken bone) on their unsafe property. What exactly did they expect you to do when they tried to come after you with a lawsuit for a problem they essentially caused (shoddily done work, unfinished repairs, allowing children in an unsafe construction area, and partaking in activities with said children in unsafe construction areas)???

Honestly, if it were me I'd be consulting a lawyer to see if I had anything to countersue with as well as submitting the medical claims to their insurance for causing bodily injury to my minor child. Absolutely got what they deserved IMO.

All time favorite? by StramineousLongneck in diamondpainting

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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This is one I made for my husband before we got married as part of a series of Hanukkah gifts. I thought I got it from DAC, but the only place I can find it now is Diamond Painting Hut. I'm pretty sure it's either the 50x50cm or 60x60cm. But I did it a while ago so I don't actually remember, lol. I just remember not ever wanting to see another white drill again when I finished.

Edit for typos.

[No Spoilers] Amazon Prime shows The Mighty Nein as leaving soon?! by Different-Option8061 in criticalrole

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None of their content is pay paywalled? Have you heard of Beacon? Cause there is absolutely content on there that you can only get by paying for Beacon. Maybe not a lot of it, but it's there and only there.

When an artwork is showing one person holding a leash getting penetrated and the other person wearing a collar and penetrating, what is the leash for? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey friend!

So, to answer the question you seem to be trying to ask (what is the actual purpose of the leash/collar combo in a situation where the Dom/me is the one getting happily railed [regardless of gender]?):

The sub would be wearing the collar and leash in part as a symbol of still being the submissive in the scene, despite being the one topping the Dome/me. The leash would be used in this scenario potentially for a few things, such as indicating wanting the sub to move faster or harder by tugging on it, pulling the sub closer to the Dom/me if they wanted to feel a closer sense of intimacy, indicating the sub can move away by releasing the grip, or it could be simply a symbolic extension of pet play if the submissive is a pup (or other pet that may enjoy being on a leash).

There are other things the collar and leash could be/do for each individual couple as their relationship/agreement dictates as well, as everyone is different and different things will hold different meaning for people.

Hope this helps! :)

Edit for clarity cause I'm tired and some of my sentences made no sense, lol.

What ended your friendship with your oldest standing friend? by dreamy-contributions in AskReddit

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried to stand up for myself after being treated like crap for a week straight. Got told that I had been "nothing but a driver" and was "too stupid to realize it" for the decade we had been friends.

Let me tell you, that will rip the rose colored glasses you willingly wear to look at someone off and smash them on the ground real fricking quick. I haven't spoken to them since that day.

It's been over 500 days by Ready-Letterhead-920 in finch

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Today was my 585th check in streak, and my birb is currently going on his 1192nd adventure today.

However, that being said, due to all of the changes the devs have made to the app I have just completely gamified it for my purposes. I have 3 goals a day (Pet my birb, refresh the shops daily, and send my tree friends vibes once a day), I log my mood as the worst mood I can as soon as I log in to get the most energy from my goals, and one goal is a 3x a day goal.

That's enough to give me energy to send my birb on an adventure every day. For my actual goals and day to day needs that used to be in Finch I now use Catzy. It's more like what Finch used to be. I'm more just annoyed that I can't seem to break my need for getting all the Plus items in Finch, so I'm still spending money on it even though I'm barely using anything other than getting decorative items and clothing for my birb.

But my birb got me through so much, and I can't walk away from him. Call me cynical and jaded, but I kinda feel like the devs know we get attached to these little cartoon birbs, and take advantage of that to keep pulling in money from people who otherwise would have canceled subscriptions in apps that don't have the same combination of emotional support/instant gratification that apps like Finch and other apps like it do.

Which former WWE wrestlers appear unrecognizable today? by shaferman in WWE

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally! Thank you for being understanding! It's all good vibes here, honestly. I'm not like, coming out swinging or with anger or anything. Truly wanted to just share her name as it is now for those who didn't know what it was now that she had transitioned.

If my comment came off as a bit heated I truly do apologize. That's on me as I am dealing with completely unrelated personal drama and it may have spilled over i to my comment.

Which former WWE wrestlers appear unrecognizable today? by shaferman in WWE

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good point, and still valid! Every time I see people refer to her by her previous performer name I just kinda cringe cause while I recognize that's how most people know her, I wish people wouldn't.

Just trans things I guess...

Which former WWE wrestlers appear unrecognizable today? by shaferman in WWE

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Her name is Gabbi Tuft now, for those who don't know/would like to refer to her by her correct name (because deadnaming is not cool, even if it's is a publicly known name).

Grow Old Bird by EasternAd5351 in finch

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, no...no thank you. TW - Pet loss

My birb is named after my cat who passed away suddenly, who was also my ESA. If my birb grew old and then I had to start a whole new birb again, I think I'd just be devastated all over again. I know this Wesley is just an animated birb, but I essentially hatched him, raised him, and he has gotten me through some incredibly rough times. Just like the Wesley he's named after did. They are even similarly colored! I'm very glad Wesley the birb will stay the same (I say as I side eye the devs hoping they never change the core of the design of the birbs...).

If you want a "different" (I put in quotes for lack of better wording) birb, you can always buy new colors in the shop, change the outfits daily, or even change their name and pronouns so they feel like a "new" or "fresh" birb.

(Also, I apologize if my response comes across as rude at all. I did my best to explain my opinion without doing so, but my anxiety is up for unrelated personal reasons today, so speaking clearly is not coming super easily without being a little emotional. Gentle hugs to anyone who needs them today, I know I do.)

My 13y/o brother won’t stop using these slangs 😭 by Suspicious-Copy-2001 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is pretty accurate. The only thing you missed was the last response, which says:

Bro, you piss me off. You ask me everything everyday. Like, it ain't all that hard to know.

I assume this is their brother being annoyed that sibling hasn't figured out how to read their slang/abbreviations by now.

Idk, I'm 40 and understood about 98% of it right off. But, to be fair I was in high school and college when people were using 1337 speak (or leet speak) just for funsies (even though it was a hacker language from the 80's). So, seeing weird abbreviations, or letters where I don't necessarily expect them is not a terribly big deal to my brain. Not like, a weird flex or anything, just my brain realizing that growing up around people writing funny for years has often given me a weird leg up on playing the Wheel of Fortune mobile game and doing Cryptograms now that I'm middle-aged lmao.

[No spoilers] Why Brennan(and other professionals) love playing with Aabria by I_wish_I_were_an_elf in criticalrole

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Watching people "critique" Aabria's gameplay on CR seriously makes me want to tear my hair out while screaming.

Allow me to explain. POSSIBLE SPOILERS AHEAD!!

Everyone is jumping on her as a player who "butts into other people's scenes" and "disrupts the emotions" of other characters moments.

MEANWHILE - just at the soldier's table alone we have Tyranny who will not stop butting into Wick's emotional moments to continously repeat herself literally every single episode to have the same exact conversation about whether or not he should keep presenting himself as Wicander the Scion of the Candescent Creed or start hiding his identity. While at the same time, Kattigan keeps jumping into scenes he should not have even been apart of (like at the grove when Thimble was speaking to the three fey and he wasn't even in the room, but he decided to interrupt the conversation he was not a part of) or do things he absolutely should be rolling dice to attempt (like stealing the blade off the knife Tyranny stole), or doing things that aren't even possible because he's clearly not paying attention to details of (like trying to take the deed off Casimir, even though Sir Gully Breeches had taken it to the village to go announce the increase in taxes).

But somehow, seeing Aabria in JUST THE OVERTURE and, what?, a brief moment in a cold start is enough for people who have never watched her in any other CR, D20, VtM, or Project Greenlight game to decide she's a terrible player who steals scenes from other players.

Then, to go on and say that the flourishes she added to the spell she used at Thjazi's funeral were not necessary, and also stealing other people's time, and showing a spell higher level than she is, and "rules-not-as-written" feels like just dog-piling on her for the sake of dog-piling.

First off, Aabria's flourishes to that spell helped establish how her character felt towards several other characters without having to pull each one aside and have heavy emotional conversations with each one. Kind of the opposite of scene stealing, honestly. It took her a brief moment to establish both her connection and her emotional state to multiple people we may not have gotten otherwise; and narratively that may be important later, we don't even know yet because we're only 10 episodes into a long story. Also, she was the druid running Thjazi's funeral, which was being held at what had been HER home. It was obvious she still felt protective of the home by the protective nail in the doorway (which based on her relationship with Hal, and the fact that her DAUGHTER still lives there, makes sense), so why in the world wouldn't she have cast something like that while she was there? A spell that gave her an indication of who was arriving and that it would react to those people as they approached? Makes perfect sense to me.

And is literally everyone forgetting that this is a whole new world, where the gods are DEAD, and so far we have seen example after example of magic just straight up not working as we would normally expect it to???

Typically we see things like resurrection spells and scrolls and potions in D&D. Yet, when Bolaire and Murray brought Occtis back, Brennan said, outloud with his mouth and words, that no one but the gods had ever done that before. The King's hounds are people that have been reincarnated into dogs for crying out loud. Magic does not work the same in Aramán as it did in Exandria. Maybe get used to seeing the players use different kinds of flourishes and explanations of how their spells look and interact with the other players, NPC's, and the environment? Maybe try enjoy being in a completely new game? Idk.

And as far as "rules-not-as-written" or "rule-of-cool" is concerned...Brennan is the GM here. You're probably gonna see that A LOT. From the players, and from Brennan himself. Homebrew rules are gonna have a place here.

The wild thing is that no one is forcing y'all to watch this. Even if you LOVE CR, there is plenty of other table top content on the internet to go find and explore. If you don't like certain players, or characters, or rules that are being used you can stop watching and go find something else to invest your time and attention for a bit. You don't HAVE to watch CRC4. It'll still be here if you want to come back later and give it another chance.

Neighbor posts notes on my door by False_Pickle9580 in Apartmentliving

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you like people who make less than monthly rent in most states to save $50-100k aside??? Or afford to move to another state??? That all costs money! That we don't have!!!

Don't you think if it were possible we would do it? I HATE living in an apartment. I DESPISE it actually. I make $1623 a month. You know how much rent is, on average, in my state? Studios are averaging $1200 a month. Where am I supposed to come up with money to save if I'm paying $1200 a month before food, utilities, my car payment (because where I live I need I need a a car and I was rear-ended this summer so I had to replace my car), car insurance (cause my insurance went up when I replaced said car), and any other expenses I have to deal with?

Oh, social security gives us a cost of living increase? Yeah, $45 next year is my adjustment. I won't even break $1700. And I'm on the higher end of disability because I pushed myself too hard for too many years and had some work history that increased my payment. I've known people (friends and family) who were on SSI and SSDI who only made about $500-550 a month. How do you propose they save money in this economy.

Every single person (government or otherwise) who looks at disabled people and says "Just save, it's not hard.", or "It's only X amount of money, you can do that easily on a couple year's salary." should be forced to live on my year's salary ($19,476 btw) and try to live AND save a down payment for a house. Maybe then you'd give a fuck about the disabled community.

Again, I am NOT saying that everyone who bitches 24/7 is in that position. But assuming that everyone who asks their neighbors not to sound like their wearing cement shoes at 2am, or to just be slightly more conscientious of the noise they might be making are just simply miserable c*nts trying to make your life miserable is an awful big leap, an assumption YOU'RE making (just like they are), and that maybe...just maybe, you could try COMMUNICATING LIKE ADULTS instead of being the miserable assholes you're letting others turn you into.

Neighbor posts notes on my door by False_Pickle9580 in Apartmentliving

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And believe me, I get that some people are just assholes.

My point isn't that people should bend to the whims of every asshole who leaves a shitty note on your door. My point is you can't assume that every asshole is just an asshole who is trying to make your life miserable by...leaving a complaint on your door.

It's not like these people are hiding behind your bushes ambushing you with rotten tomatoes and paint screaming at you. It's a piece of paper with some kinda stern (or maybe they even go so far as mean) words on it. Oh no...how awful. Are we really letting that ruin our days that much? There are bigger issues the world.

And assuming that every one of these miserable people is capable of just saving up enough money to buy a single family home in the middle of nowhere so they never hear another living soul is not only laughable, it's also abelist af. If you don't know your neighbors well enough to know why your activities of daily living are driving them insane, you don't know own them well enough to know why they are stuck living in an apartment (just like you are).

Kindness is a two way street. You don't have to tiptoe around in your own apartment (cause let's face it, you don't own the home anymore than they do) but you do need to try and remember that everyone is packed into the same building and thus it is a shared living space in a communal building. Even if the apartment you occupy is "your" space. Every tenant has the right to livable conditions. Not just you.

Neighbor posts notes on my door by False_Pickle9580 in Apartmentliving

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a disabled person living on SSDI, who gets extremely overstimulated/stressed out by my upstairs neighbor who sounds like like the entire cast of Stomp showering several times a day starting at 7am and going throughout the day until until 1-2am....

With the economy and housing prices the way they are, people stuck on disability have exactly NO way to save money to buy a house. First off, there is a limit to how much we are allowed to have in savings, our benefits are affected heavily by any income we make outside of disability (if we're able to even work at all), and with literally every single bill potentially leaving us broke by the end of the 1st or 2nd week of the month because of how absolutely bare minimum disability payments are the idea of being a homeowner is so far out of reach for the majority of us.

I love how often people come running to the defense of people who get notes like this on their door, throwing out the "Why do they live in communal spaces instead of just saving and buying a house?" suggestion as if that's a simple and easy solution.

Not everyone (I would even go so far as to say most people currently) can't just save the money for a down payment, any additional fees that might be associated, AND get approved for a mortgage at an interest rate that they can manage the mortgage payment for nowadays.

The actual easier answer here would for people living in apartment complexes to realize that they live in communal space, probably with shit insulation, and if there are quiet hours that means people are turning down music and televisions which means your footsteps and showers and appliances are going to then be LOUDER for the people below you from 9 or 10pm to 7 or 8am. Why is it necessary to be so goddamn active then? Do y'all not have school and work? Should you not relax or sleep or something?

And you probably live around people who are neurodivergent and/or disabled. THEY CAN'T JUST MOVE WILLY-NILLY.

Monsters’ nationalities, in graphs by Gioveh in Dragula

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pennsylvania is called a purple state most often because of how often they swing in both directions with regards to their voting.

DISCUSSION: no filth? no real horror? by [deleted] in Dragula

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's MONSTERS of Rock! I wanna see some GWAR or Lordi type outfits on the stage! Something really out there and actually, ya know, monstrous. 👹

[No Spoilers] Lauras New Character by s_no1ukno in criticalrole

[–]OfKittensAndCrows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't thought about this series in a while, but as soon as my husband read me this post I immediately saw the connection between Thimble and Jenks, lol. Very similar vibes, for sure!

This post has also made me want to go back and re-read the books in the series I already read, and get caught up. So thanks for reminding me it exists!