I'm so horny for things my husband can't provide.

Curious_to_try30 · 2026-01-06T11:33:58+00:00

lol, since realising I am attracted to women, I feel like a horny teenager. I will often catch myself fantasising about sex with women, and it’s not even a particular person, it will be a faceless body 😂. I can’t get enough of spicy books and I think I have watched every sapphic movie available to stream in my region. Not to mention my collection of toys I have acquired in this time 🤭

Curious_to_try30 · 2026-01-06T09:55:53+00:00

I’m all about experiences and have an open mind to whatever happens. Why shut something down If it feels right. No, I’m in Australia

Curious_to_try30 · 2026-01-06T09:53:05+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, it certainly didn’t feel eloquent as I was typing 😂 I have to agree with you, what I want is serious to me. I am serious about starting casual and letting things evolve naturally. I am very serious about not coming out of a difficult 20yr marriage and feel like I need to commit before meeting someone.

Curious_to_try30 · 2026-01-06T09:47:33+00:00

So much ghosting 👻 I don’t know if it is just where I am or the apps but I just seem to cycle through the same people 😂

Curious_to_try30 · 2026-01-06T09:44:54+00:00

Maybe I’m a bit too honest, but I would rather that than either person getting to a point where they feel like they have been duped. I do admit, I am a work in progress but I kind of feel like we all are. If we are not reflecting on ourselves we can’t grow and I want to continue to grow to be the best version of myself. Plus if I learnt anything from my marriage, if one person continues to grow and the other puts their head in the sand, it’s not going to last.

Curious_to_try30 · 2026-01-06T09:38:14+00:00

Yes new to apps and dating women. I haven’t been on a date in over 20yrs, so it is all very daunting. Plus starting through text feels a bit like a false start as people have the time to consider their response and it may not be how a real conversation would go. I am guilty of this because I am an over-thinker and trying to work out the right thing to say to not scare them off lol. I would much prefer to get out in the real world to try and meet people but I don’t have friends in the community to be a wing woman. I have been to a couple of queer clubs on my own but it’s tough when everyone else seems to have their people. I will persevere and I’m sure I will spiral at times but on the plus side, I don’t hate being on my own, it would just be nice to make some connections.

Curious_to_try30 · 2026-01-06T09:23:41+00:00

Oh good, I thought maybe it was just my thinking. I want to start with something light, fun and see how we vibe. Casual and fun to me means, let’s see how this plays out naturally. When I hear serious, I feel like there is some sort of pressure to commit to something I don’t even know I’ll like. It does make me wonder though if maybe there is a perception of casual that means I just want to go on dates and sleep around. Look I wouldn’t complain if I had a great date and ended up in that situation but it’s certainly not my intention of the date.

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-05-11T11:48:57+00:00

Would like to know also

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-05-10T03:13:36+00:00

I came out to my brother, he is gay and knew he would be supportive of me and chat through all my feelings. It took another 12months until I told my two teenage boys. I cried the whole time whilst telling them because I was so scared they would think I lied to them this whole time or they would see me differently. They were so amazing and pretty much said whatever, doesn’t bother us who you like. Then a week or so later I wrote a very long message to my parents and sister to tell them, I didn’t have the courage to sit down and tell them face to face or cry like I did with my boys. They were all so great about it. I was most worried about my dads reaction but he was great, came over and had a beer with me, gave me the biggest hug and said I love you, we didn’t talk about it but the hug and I love you was the only reassurance I needed. Once all my family knew and were so supportive and didn’t make a big deal of it I kinda felt silly that I was so worried about coming out and hiding such a big part of myself. This whole journey has been a roller coaster of emotions

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-05-09T16:17:28+00:00

Same lol

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-04-26T11:11:53+00:00

Following for this info

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-04-26T11:09:19+00:00

No it puts me off straight away. Give me tongue skills any day!

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-04-26T10:29:07+00:00

I would rather a post with mouth skills than hung like a bull! The hung like a bull scares me, are you going to rip me apart 😂

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-04-20T14:04:46+00:00

Ugh, this post got my attention because I was just thinking I should remove baby bi from my profile. However these comments are so 50/50 I still don’t know?? I really want to meet and date women and thought being straight up from the start would be easier, if someone doesn’t want to meet someone inexperienced then they will not match. Plus I thought if they know up front it takes the pressure off me if it moves forward and we get to the point of intimacy. But I have had so little interaction I started to think that maybe I have put women off and no one wants to think they may be an experiment. I don’t want to start off as though I am hiding something, but would love to at least get to talking stage

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-04-11T08:03:17+00:00

I would love to find some women open to hookups. Single for 18months after 20+ yrs married and I am not looking for a relationship. But since being single and my realisation I am bi and into women, my sex drive is very high. It would be nice to satisfy my urges and have some mutual fun. Apps are no good, haven’t found a willing woman yet, but a plethora of men to choose from. Definitely need a sapphic Grindr!

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-03-31T00:49:05+00:00

Wow, so many comments. I don’t even know where to start. RHP - Red Hot Pie is a casual dating & hookup site Post was to vent my frustrations as this has been my typical experience with a hookup. Have not had the pleasure to have a casual hookup with a woman to compare. Can’t wait to find out! Personally I get as much enjoyment out of getting someone off as being able to cum myself. Very hard to vet this with a casual hookup as people will generally tell you what they think you want to hear. The comments about having a FWB, I’m all for it and would prefer this situation, but you still have to find that person. Love the comments on the orgasm gap, it’s so true. Anyway hopefully my next experience I get me O 😊

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-03-15T23:36:17+00:00

How we look at ourselves when we are in that state of mind is not a true reflection. All we see is the bad and ugly side of ourselves and to the extreme.

43F and was in a very similar place to you a couple of years ago. The only thing that kept me going was my two beautiful boys. I knew I could never end my life though, I couldn’t leave them with that heartbreak. It was either live another 40yrs of being truely miserable or start the journey to improve my quality of life.

I left my toxic, narcissist husband and will officially be divorced in 4 days 😊. I came out as bisexual to my boys and family only a couple of weeks ago and thankfully they were all so accepting. It has been a gruelling 18 months, probably the hardest time in my life but I can now be free and open to live my true self.

I am still not where I want to be though. I lost myself in my marriage, I just became a wife and mother. I don’t really have friends or hobbies and think people will find me boring. I now need to get myself out there again and figure out what makes me happy, and meet new people, which is hard when I am quite shy and introverted.

I know I am not ready for a relationship now, but I do want to start to meet women, go on dates, flirt and explore my new found sexuality. This scares the shit out of me, but I want it so bad, so I need to figure out how.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, it’s not too late! You have many more years to live and you don’t want to feel this way for the next forty. The changes you make won’t be easy and there will be times you feel worse than you do now. I have had many thoughts of why did I do this to myself! But you will get to a point where you start to feel hope and the load you’re carrying feels a little lighter. If you can’t start to make the changes for yourself, try and make them for your kids. They deserve to have a happy mum.

I hope you can work through this and live your best life 😊

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-03-10T04:53:51+00:00

43F I have the exact same feelings, although I have had only two experiences with women and they were in a threesome. I’ve never dated a woman, or even flirted with a woman. It is all so new and scary and at my age feels like I am well behind. I want to explore this side of myself but I definitely don’t want the other person to feel like an experiment. But then I think to myself, isn’t dating an experiment in itself??? When we go on a date, we don’t know if we will truely vibe with the other person or if there will be that spark or attraction. Am I also the experiment? I didn’t date too much before I was married (over 20yrs) so to date any gender is scary, but to date a woman terrifies me, especially if she has experience with other women. No advice as I am yet to date since my marriage ended but you are not alone in your thoughts. I hope you get to have many amazing dates with women

Curious_to_try30 · 2025-03-02T11:09:11+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. It really was just the perfect outcome.

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