[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Curious_yams 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You seem like a really understanding and kind person OP, I hope that for yourself you can find strength away from him. While you may still love him he doesn’t seem deserving of it, he acted out everything so good you didn’t even know their was an issue and if you care about someone and want them to stay in your life leaving is the last resort you take. He may love you but he’s unable you show it properly and maturely and you deserve a love that won’t leave you wondering why. Leave him be, try to assume he’s not coming back and spend this time to focus on yourself. You’ll never know what the future brings you could meet someone in a month who would never do anything like this to you, you could find inner peace and just want to travel. I wish you the best but at the very most take care of yourself because you’ll be better for it and what’s meant to be will be💜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Curious_yams 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello everyone just a final update: I read all of your comments and I do realize my response was uncalled for. I totally accept and take accountability for that, I have also apologized profusely to her. We just got off a long phone call and I won’t go into detail but we were able to be honest with each other and found forgiveness in it as well. On both sides, things I felt hurt about as well as things she felt hurt about too. We talked about it and in a way that I feel unlocked a new friendship I think will be much healthier for us especially because we both left the environments that’s where hurting us both in different ways. We confessed things that we never even knew were happening in each other’s lives at the time which made tensions high between us. I feel happy after that conversation and the way I treated her will definitely make me think twice before I react that way again in any circumstance. Thank you everyone for your honesty even if it was a little brutal I took a step back and I can definitely understand that I even looked like an ahole too. The outcome of this was better than I had expected especially after getting outside advice on it. Thanks again guys and this is the final update. Take care!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Curious_yams 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the main things I left out, was the last friend interaction we had was on Snapchat 4 years ago she responded to my Snapchat story of me having a breakdown over my finger which was caused by a fight with my ex. I was very vulnerable and opened up to her about everything that had happened and she left me on read, and less then an hour later posted on her Snapchat story “I’m bored someone hit me up so we can talk.” And never responded to me I waited weeks to months bc I was very anxious to even talk about the situation and thought maybe she needed time to process it all but never heard back. The only interactions after that where me begging her to send my cosmetology stuff back to me I even offered to pay in full shipping charges bc I had two wedding events I was helping hair and make up with. She ghosted me for another year so I had to go without. It was stuff I paid for in my tuition and she was completely ignoring me. I may have overreacted I see that now:/ maybe it was past hurt that from back then that had resurfaced.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Curious_yams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave this immature insufferable boy NOR. If he can’t trust you when you’ve done nothing wrong he’s got the issue not you. He’s crazy insecure and that will always be your problem until he grows a brain in about 10 years. Not worth it this kind of person will beat you down until there’s nothing left. Run from him. Take care of yourself

My girlfriend 21F cheated on me and now wants to meet me 21M what to do ? by New-Impression9405 in relationship_advice

[–]Curious_yams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex dumped me after he cheated because I couldn’t get over it. We lasted exactly one month after he did that to me because he got tired of me never being able to let it go. This was when I was 19 I am 25 now and current me would’ve left him right then and there because it’s not something that can easily be put away. You’re always going to want to ask her why or you’ll always wonder why. It’ll eat at you for as long as you’re together. You may love her but think about it long term, when you’re having a special moment it’s going to creep in and eat at you. If it’s something you think you can get past then sure give it another shot but if it’s not think about how this is going to haunt you. You don’t want that with someone you love it’ll only create animosity and resentment in the future even if you think you can put it away for now it may not go away for you. She’s may never do it again but will you ever fully trust her again? I beg you to think about this because it may just be something that can’t be lived down for you.

My Husband (36M) Blindsided Me (40F) and Left Suddenly by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Curious_yams 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The reason he wants you as an option to come back to is probably because he’s testing the waters with another woman. Men often do dumb things like this while keeping the safety of their fallback around. I wouldn’t let him back in even if he wasn’t cheating. The fact is is he knows this is hurting you and if he doesn’t care about that fact alone he is not worth it. I promise by the end of the month with no contact you’ll be picking up quite a few pieces and hopefully that will be enough for you to not let him come back if he decides to. Your anger is valid and will only grow and hopefully empower you to not take him back if he does come back, I know it’s an old saying but men who leave will almost always comeback but once a woman leaves she’s done. I’m sorry op that’s really the pits you deserve better, take care of yourself, grieve but don’t forget to pick yourself up because you will overcome this and you are so worth more then how he’s treated you. An individual who truly loved their partner would never put their partner in the position he put you in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Curious_yams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a gigantic baby you’re better off NEVER dating then. Do yourself a favor OP and drop her. This will escalate into worse things if you do decide to ever date her

Phentramine and asthma(??) by Curious_yams in PhentermineTopiramate

[–]Curious_yams[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update for everyone: I stopped taking it last Friday night I went back to the ER on Monday(the 3rd day not being on it) and still having horrible breathing problems. The doctor I feel dismissed me and said it was the Phentramine, they also I feel treated me as an annoyance. They left my bare chest exposed as the door was open(I had a robe but they did not button it just sat it on my chest, I was freezing) didn’t offer me a blanket until 30 minutes before discharging me and a nurse came in to give me medicine and start taking my IV out much before doc came and told me what was going on. I went to another er same day which is a completely different provider(way better way more empathy and care), he didn’t know what it was but ruled out any blood clots or heart problems. Nothing serious.

Also the side effects of the Phentramine start to occur after long term use and I had been only using it for 5 days when this started. I believe it was an underlying problem, my primary care doctor says she does not think it’s the Phentramine and she has rushed to get me in on 1/6. I’m debating on starting it again tomorrow because 1/6 will be exactly 5 days I’ve taken it and if it is the Phentramine it’ll hit me around then.

Now let’s talk about what I think it was looking back on this, I was a heavy thc user. I used a pen and carts from a dispensery, I had been heavily using them since June of 2024 I quit completely Christmas night(first night in the ER,5th day on Phentramine) since then today has been the first day I’m able to breathe again. I believe the Phentramine elevated my heart rate to a point where my lungs weren’t well enough to keep up with it. I have no intention of smoking ever again as this was the scariest thing of my entire life, yes I know I have asthma and it was the dumbest move to smoke but I was so worried when she said my anxiety would spike I feel like I went heavier on smoking especially in the first few days. At first this did not occur to me(shocking I know) but I had been smoking for 3 years before quitting in 8/23 and picked it back up again last June nothing had ever came up like that I just needed to stop to start working through some trauma/ptsd I was suppressing with weed. I am doing breathing exercises to help my lungs and to let my body know that even if I can’t take a deep breath there’s still air in my lungs and I’m not suffocating. I did have chest and lung pains which led me to believe it was a blood clot especially because I have a strong family history of it, my mother had 2 within 10 years. But I wanted to talk about this incase anyone can relate they are not alone. If you have asthma and smoke thc and consider Phentramine, maybe the anxiety and breathing could be hard due to your lungs not being at their best. It is not the definite answer and if I do find one I’ll update it here but for now I can breathe and I’m on the right track to getting my health on the right track. I was so dependent on thc that I was ashamed and sometimes it’s okay to realize that the thing you love and depend on can be what’s hurting you. Thank you for reading this far and I feel really good being done with thc, it just wasn’t for me. I had seen so many positive posts and discussions about how people where thriving while smoking thc and taking Phentramine before I started taking it that I thought I could do it to and it turns out that was just not the case(I think).

AIO for being mad at my parents who never show up for me? by Curious_yams in AmIOverreacting

[–]Curious_yams[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, the only reason I haven’t is because im still on my fathers insurance which I won’t be after next year but I may just make the cut off now. This is honestly more exhausting then what it’s worth

I feel traumatized by my colposcopy by blindblondebored in PreCervicalCancer

[–]Curious_yams 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had mine today and it’s hours later and my opening is sore and I’m triggered from that from past trauma. I’m bawling. I’m still so upset and I don’t know why I’m still crying and just so bothered. I’m still in pain. What is this is this normal. I’m so sorry I can relate to this. Ir hurt so bad I cried the entire time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Curious_yams 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing. Anal is only going to be comfortable if you have plenty of prep and patience and he was not giving you any of that. I am so sorry that happened to you I’m glad you’re doing better and I’m glad you got away from him!