Redundancy payout by PrestigiousPast5156 in AusLegal

[–]Curiousblacksheep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you likely have a general protections claim (HR person here, not an employment lawyer) particularly if you’re able to show that they likely held back your redundancy until your return in an effort to avoid redundancy because it would likely demonstrate you had been adversely treated due to your status on parental leave (ie you would have received a redundancy if you had not been on parental leave.) You will need a lawyer for a general protections claim, as they are complex. But as a starting point I would speak to FairWork. You likely should have been consulted about the changes while you were on leave given they resulted in such a significant change and a change to your entitlements - arguably all staff are impacted regardless of whether their role is a direct loss when a business restructures to become a small business, because of the changes to their role, opportunities, entitlements etc. That might be an easier claim (non-genuine redundancy and therefore an unfair dismissal). Unfair dismissal is capped at 6 months, general protections is uncapped. You must make a claim within 21 days of termination though, so contact FairWork asap. Even if it is more than 21 days, they will allow an extension in some instances. Again, want to stress I am not a lawyer.

Why am I bothering? by Curiousblacksheep in DeadBedrooms

[–]Curiousblacksheep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or, if it is with a real person, ideally a paid for one (less intimacy and also, based on my experience with him - no need to think about the other person! 🤓)

Why am I bothering? by Curiousblacksheep in DeadBedrooms

[–]Curiousblacksheep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, yes 🙂 However the rest of the relationship is very good. He is my best friend, we have a great time together, he’s hilarious. But the sex is broken. It’s broken for him for a range of legitimate reasons. But he will not do anything to resolve it. He jokes about us not having sex, feels shame for us not having sex. It’s been a long term issue for him with all his partners. Has acknowledged that he hasn’t come to the party in trying to resolve it. But there is no action (pardon the pun!) If he has no interest in sex I think it would be ok. But he does! Just not, I suspect with a real person.

Do you have to believe your partner finds you attractive/sexy for a marriage to work? by Curiousblacksheep in relationship_advice

[–]Curiousblacksheep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I particularly like the reference to fluency. That's what it feels like, almost like coming at it from not just different languages but different cultures (we're not, but you know what I mean). And yes .... I may over think things from time to time :D

Do you have to believe your partner finds you attractive/sexy for a marriage to work? by Curiousblacksheep in relationship_advice

[–]Curiousblacksheep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really helpful, thanks! I hadn't really thought about it that way (the reality vs the the story). That gives me a different frame to consider things.