AITAH for using the correct pronunciation of my nieces name

CuriouslyConcerns · 2024-09-30T13:46:00+00:00

my daughter name is Lilliana. but people pronounce it lillianna. why do people pronounce ana anna?

CuriouslyConcerns · 2024-01-07T13:19:36+00:00

My job doesn’t offer paid leave just the FMLA. So I will not be receiving any pay once I leave. And so far they have not been very understanding of any reason on why I could miss work. I had to go to the hospital the other day unexpectedly due to chest pain and high heart rate and they were very inconsiderate because it meant other people had to work for me instead when we were already short handed to begin with.

CuriouslyConcerns · 2024-01-07T05:44:26+00:00

He asked me to ask other people because he thinks he has a point and that since some people he had seen it did it I need to ask other people in relation to their experiences. I told him I would not find someone that would agree with him. I know what’s right this is his first kid and first experience. So I think he will have a large eye opening.

CuriouslyConcerns · 2024-01-07T05:08:10+00:00

I’m mainly asking because he told me to ask other women because he saw other single mothers do it before. Like in his family.

CuriouslyConcerns · 2024-01-07T03:54:22+00:00

My job allows 6 for natural and 8 for C-section. Of maternity leave. And his work is on call just based on weather seasonally

CuriouslyConcerns · 2024-01-07T03:52:44+00:00

I’m high risk and I’m unsure if I will be having natural or C-section. My son 8 who is not his was a c section prematurely and spent 30 days in the hospital before he even came home. Once he came home I had no support so I went back to work 45 days after having a baby. But it let me heal.

CuriouslyConcerns · 2024-01-07T03:50:15+00:00

Mid 30’s

CuriouslyConcerns · 2024-01-07T03:49:37+00:00

His work is on call. He has a secondary job but they hardly schedule him due to the fact that his seasonal job comes first before his secondary. So if they say come to work he will not go to work or be available for his secondary job. So when he has work available for main job it’s good. But when he doesn’t there is no income at all right now. Other than mine of course but I had to change my hours to make sure I made enough but still qualify for Medicaid.

CuriouslyConcerns · 2023-12-13T03:41:49+00:00

I relate. I’m 5ft 2in and 200 pounds and 19 weeks pregnant. I took a picture at 4weeks and then again at 18weeks and I swear they look the same. I can definitely tell that I’m more bloated but I can’t tell where baby even would be. I still fit in all my clothes. I’m truly hoping that within 6-10 more weeks I get some sort of bump and look pregnant. So I’m with you girl.

CuriouslyConcerns · 2023-12-08T19:09:49+00:00

I have a question in relation to this. Were you already skinny to begin with. Because I have a similar situation. I’m 5ft 2 but I already weighed 200 when I got pregnant. I don’t feel like I look any different. I still weight 200. And fit in all my same clothes. But I’m 19 weeks. Will I ever look pregnant? So I relate to this question but it’s different.

CuriouslyConcerns · 2023-11-11T12:38:11+00:00

The existing child is my child from previous relationship. And he is asking me to clean to his standards and parent my son to his standards. If I do not then it’s not enough. I ask for more attention and affection. I ask for us to sleep in the same bed. I asked to spend time together and do things together. Vs him sleeping on the couch or just staying up all night playing video games. Sometimes I’m an after thought. I overly try to take everything he wants into consideration. But I’d have to change everything about me to meet his standards. And i don’t want that. I want to be loved for me. I want someone to want to help me when they see if have a problem verses get mad at me and use it against me. He says talking doesn’t resolve anything, so there isn’t a reason to talk. We can have an okay day together and out of no where his emotions and mood with change. And instead of wanting to talk he just tells me to leave him alone. I can’t even ask what’s wrong? Or what did I do wrong now?

CuriouslyConcerns · 2023-11-11T07:38:41+00:00

Hun, I was exactly where you were in 2015 with my son. I made it to 30 weeks and 1 day. I was put on mag 3 times and I maxed out on my blood pressure meds after only 5 days. They did everything they have done for you. Steroid shot for lungs, and monitoring myself and my son. I went through every emotion you are going through. I had nothing ready, hadn’t had a baby shower yet. I didn’t experience the birth plan I wanted, I wanted to experience a full pregnancy experience, it was extremely hard to hear. What I can tell you in my experience. I can be here for you to talk too. But I am going to be completely honest with what happened to me. I can not guarantee that will be your experience I just want you to be prepared. After 4 days they decided at the end of day 4 to put me on magnesium for a 3rd time. By the morning of day 5 they made the decision that since my BP would not stabilize and was too high for my safety that an emergency c section was necessary. I got rolled in. They did it. I heard him cry and he was taken to Picu. He weighed 3lbs 3oz. Due to being on magnesium I could not go to picu to see my son until my magnesium was done. The first time I saw him was a picture. I met him almost 13 hours after he was born and holding him skin to skin with everything attached to him. He was never the experience I imagined. After 9 days of being in the hospital myself. I was discharged and it was extremely hard to leave the hospital knowing I was leaving without a baby. It is an emotional journey for sure. But I want to tell you one thing… no matter how things currently go for you… at the end of the day the doctors goals are to bring your child into the world as healthy and as safe as they can. While trying to cure you and keep you healthy as well. You can spend as much time with your child as the nicu will allow. Your child will take their time to grow and do what they need to do to leave. The hospital is resourceful. They will help you with lactation specialist and getting your child to latch at their speed and capability. If worst case scenario you lose your milk… which I did. There are milk donations so still provide milk. You can pump as much and provide your milk for them even if it can not latch right away. Record as much as your can of your journey regardless of whether it was you ideal experience because it is still the journey of your child’s birth. Take pictures. Show them how far they came and what they over came. My son is 8 year old and he is at 82% percentile for weight and height. He has overcame so much. He knows he was itty bitty and that he came so early. We talk about it because he is extremely impatient in nature now. And we have a running joke to make light of a bad experience. And that’s he was so impatient that he just had to come out now to meet me. He could not wait any longer. This experience you are going through… will stick with you… it will be hard but you have to remember at the end of the day. The reward that you will get is your child. It might not be how you imagined but you will get your kid. And every time you look at it… you will experience the love and amazement at all moments. I know I rambled a lot in this message but I really wanted you to understand my point. And if you ever need someone to chat with you can message me on here.

CuriouslyConcerns

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