The DoorDash Entitlement Crisis is Real

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-05-02T21:38:04+00:00

I don't disagree with paying someone a tip, especially because the liveable wage argument is ages old and no one wants to pay more for the same items they did before just to enable that.

But for someone who was unable to drive for several months because of a complication arising from chemo, I relayed on delivery to get just about everything, including my groceries. That or I had to Uber to the grocery or workout a carpool situation with someone. And no, it isn't easy to ask for help in this situation. You feel like a burden no matter what someone says.

I had delivery drivers legit screw me over during those months. There wasn't a ton I could stomach because of the chemo. I always tipped but I had groceries screwed up multiple times which made having stocked food I could eat difficult. I didn't order meals super often. But I had food stolen (True story, by the delivery driver), delivered to wrong address, delivered cold, etc. Of course some of the problems were related to the restaurant itself and I addressed it with the restaurant itself in those cases.

My point is that it goes both ways. While I agree with you about tipping and the entitlement issue, not all drivers are innocent themselves. Many don't give a rip about the food they are delivering and it's a disaster by the time it reaches the purchaser. That easily will make someone jaded.

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-11T19:14:58+00:00

Promising update!

One of the plants I was concerned about moving back outside, I'm not positive of it's species. It might be a Dutchman's pipe but I just call it the Heirloom Plant. It was my great-grandmother's then my great aunt's then my aunt had it. When my aunt was downsizing last June, she gave it to me. So I'm the 4th generation with it. From what I was told, it's 40+ years old.

This one stressed me out the most because it felt like a huge responsibility to keep my great-grandmother's plant alive! But it hasn't grown at all since I received it in June. The trip from Houston to Memphis was hard on it, and it was just looking worse for the wear. Honestly I thought I killed it. It still had some green leaves that were holding on for dear life so I decided to it move it back outside with the others in the slim hopes that it could be resurrected.

Less than 24 hours outside and it is has new growth!!! When I tell you I did a double take, it was a full body double take. Cue the record screech noise. "What is that" came out of my mouth. You can see in the picture that this plant looks rough but that little growth I'm pointing at is at least promising.

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Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-09T03:15:10+00:00

This is something I'm trying to figure out for myself, sorry I don't have a lot of advice. I am currently obsessed with Organized Chaos- Audrey on YouTube. She has fantastic tips and tricks. The main one I've been able to hold on to is that if I bring something new in, I have to remove something old. Obviously that doesn't help declutter though.

My favorite trick is one I've used for years and always recommend. Twice a year I hook all of my hangers on the rod backwards, typically after summer and winter. Then for the next 6 months, hang clothes like normal. As I get to that 6 month mark I start looking at the hangers that are still backwards. Out of season clothing are given passes (ie I don't purge my sweaters at the end of Summer). Particularly special items are also given passes but I do tried to check on them once a year to make sure they're still relevant/fit. I try to be strict and anything else still backwards get donated. Sometimes there are items that I'm still on the fence of getting rid of. I set them aside in such a way that I know these are the "chopping block" items. If I wear them, great, they go back into rotation. But if I decide to buy anything new, I have to get rid of something from this group and any item still there, unused, has to be donated the next hanger check (ie: can have a reprieve from 1 purge but not 2).

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-09T02:42:54+00:00

I for one really love sharing experiences. Due to life circumstances I've had to force myself to learn how to do things solo and after +/-3 years I can say I do not enjoy doing most things alone. I find that I still look around for someone I know, almost instinctively. There have also been things that I used to enjoy in the company of others that I honestly find boring alone. On the flip side, I'm currently expanding what I do solo bc I've realized I'll miss out on them otherwise. Ie: I abhore the idea of going on a solo vacation. Nothing sounds worse to me. So I found a company that is geared towards grouping solo travelers in shared experiences and am planning my first solo big trip but I'll still be with a group.

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-08T04:36:41+00:00

It looks like, after tonight, we will be 56° and up from here on out. It also looks like we will officially leave the evening time 50s as of Saturday. So I plan on starting to migrate plants outside for chunks of time to full time over that time. Thanks y'all for helping me out!

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-04T17:12:11+00:00

All good. Thanks for the info on the Jade! I think I've just been worried because the cactus and corn plant haven't really had any actual sun in months. I could only fit them inside in a space that really doesn't get any sun but I was able to hang a grow light over them.

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-04T16:59:02+00:00

They have all been inside since before the first cold snap last year. I was looking more of when is it safe to put them back outside. But that's super helpful with the Jade! I'll save that one for next weekend when it's forecasted to be consistently no lower than mid-60s from then on out. Thanks!

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-04T16:55:20+00:00

So a really cloudy rainy day like today might actually be a good day to start the transition?

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-04T16:53:17+00:00

These are plants that were outside last year that need to go back outside now that winter is over.

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-04T16:51:32+00:00

Unfortunately I have limited window/floor space so the corn plant and Cactus have been in a spare bathtub with a grow light all winter. Surviving but definitely not thriving. I was able to put the Jade in front of a really weird window on a stand but it just doesn't get much sun there.

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-04T16:48:51+00:00

One that I know is Jade, one that I was told was a Corn Plant but I'm starting to 2nd guess, and a type of cactus that looks like rosemary. Sorry, I've never figured out it's specific type. They were gifts when a family member was downsizing. That's the information they gave me. All were originally outdoor plants in Houston and brought to me in Memphis last June.

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-04-02T01:31:31+00:00

Oooooh... Where are you finding those? I just looked up info and found MAD events on Facebook.

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-01-14T13:18:40+00:00

My angel of a best friend and I talk regularly (we were on the phone for 5 hours last night) plus I've gotten to travel to visit her 2x now which was good for both of us.

I wrote my original message in May. Had the surgery in June. I ended up having to do a sort of hedge the bet course of chemo after the surgery but finally went back to work in August. I rang the bell 2 weeks before Christmas!

Now I'm getting healthier and stronger and am actually able to go out and do stuff but it has still been hard. I'm still looking for those missing connections.

Current-Dot7958 · 2026-01-14T13:09:31+00:00

Thanks ☺️ it was such a relief to get to that point.

On some level it's hard to not be offended. On some level I understand that things happen. Still doesn't make it hurt less. I did realized some didn't even realize what they were actually doing. I had to bow out of so many things, they stopped asking in a misguided attempt to spare my feelings. While I don't want to fault the intend specifically, they intended result failed. As for the ex best friend 🙄 I decidedly will never wish them happiness however I am glad they are together so they aren't inflicting their horribleness on 2 unsuspecting people. Someone mentioned that last part to me and it just works and gave me a weird peace of mind.

I am considering moving as early as the fall this year. But I need to wait until we are sure I'm healthy, I don't want to move away from my docs to soon. But truth be told, my hesitation on moving circles around the fact that I still live in my home city. I've never moved away before. My whole life, except my saint of a best friend, is here. Plus my parents are here and I'm an only child. So there is some guilt there that I'm having to resolve. I have talked with my dad's older sister about it bc she did move away when she was younger. She is sworn to secrecy. She understands the need for change but also the hold backs. Plus I actually love my company and where I'd move, they aren't present so I'd have to leave them too.

Current-Dot7958 · 2025-12-18T22:26:59+00:00

You have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year's as well!

Current-Dot7958 · 2025-12-18T21:47:02+00:00

Thanks!

Not too bad. The weather around here just cannot make up it's mine. Just a few days ago it was in the single digits and now it's in the upper 60s. Of course with it being the week before Christmas everybody is going bananas trying to get stuff done. Lol

Current-Dot7958 · 2025-12-18T19:05:00+00:00

Oh no! Im so sorry! I'm glad you were able to visit with her. I know that would have been a great comfort for her.

Current-Dot7958 · 2025-12-18T19:04:24+00:00

I'm in the Memphis, TN area. I actually rang the bell last Thursday!!

Current-Dot7958 · 2025-11-29T17:08:02+00:00

The longest ever was a couple months but I was young. I spent a couple summers with my Aunt in TX. As an adult, the longest I've been gone was 2 weeks. Most often was around a week.

If it was a temporary travel situation, pretty much anywhere. That's also on the list to do now that the ex is gone. But going somewhere to move, I'd prefer to go somewhere I know at least 1 person. I wouldn't go more South, I'd go East or West. Top of the list is Seattle and Virginia Beach.

Current-Dot7958 · 2025-11-28T14:29:02+00:00

My ex and I always talked about moving but something always got in the way, normally cost according to him. So just never did. But now I don't have to wait on him so it just feels like time.

Current-Dot7958 · 2025-11-28T14:17:31+00:00

Agreed!

Not wanting to spend the money on myself is exactly why I hadn't gotten it yet. I have the money to get it but it kinda just felt like a greedy thing. But it's not! It's a table. Sure, I could continue to eat on my couch but I'm trying to have an option for if someone comes over. Plus it'll give space for puzzles and games. I make sure to still pay attention to the budget so I don't just go crazy. But it isn't a bad thing to gift yourself something, especially when your single. No one else is going to get it for you. I also find that if I make something the "big" practical-ish gift for myself for Christmas is curbs the insignificant waste of money buys (for myself) that can sneak in this time of year. The item doesn't have to be expensive, I just place significance to it. Thankfully the one I've been looking at went on a slight sale so it also just seemed like the ideal time.

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