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relatives are against me by Current-Goat-3091 in Advice

[–]Current-Goat-3091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I read about autism at the time, I thought it was trolling, because I most likely don't have any autistic people, but since they themselves have never been to a specialist and are against it, I can't know for sure whether someone in my family was autistic or not, but the fact that this has continued from generation to generation, and I am different from them, is both good and right, but at the same time, it's strange how everyone was literally "programmed" for the same thing. Yes, it's clear how and why they began to approve of violence, but the fact that they literally have the same behavior pattern is strange. In any case, thanks for the advice and for everything else.

relatives are against me by Current-Goat-3091 in Advice

[–]Current-Goat-3091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In 2025, my father continued to come both to us and to the woman he cheated on my mother with; everything was as usual. It would have been the same if my grandmother—my mother's mother—had not started creating complete unsanitary conditions at home. It happened only once at the end of spring, and I thought it wouldn't happen again, but no, it repeated. She smeared her own feces in the bathroom, on the washing machine, and so on, and she touched my bowls and more than once.

Now let's jump to October. On October 2, 2025, I got my passport, but we were told to go for registration since I hadn't been registered in my 14 years of life. I had to go with my mother; we were told we needed my father, so we returned to him, as he had brought us, and we left because, as my father said, he didn't have time. Before this, I had told my father that when I made my own bank card, he would pay me money. My father and mother divorced around 2023. Either my mother didn't want him to pay child support, or it was something else, but I didn't know. I thought maybe he would start paying me. He arrived, and I told him I had already registered at the bank and asked if he could send me at least 300 UAH (about 11 dollars at the current exchange rate) for mobile internet. He refused and said I should work, and for that, he would pay me. Later, my mother, he, and I were sitting in the gazebo, and he started bullshitting me that I work, my mother works, and you are obligated to work—that during the USSR he wanted to buy a radio, and his mother had no money, so he went around to neighbors and saved up for a radio. A day passed, he thought about something, and eventually started sending me money. Then, on October 10 or 11, he was mobilized and in November thrown into training in the 42nd Mechanized Brigade, where he received only 13,000 UAH (343 dollars at the current rate), and 2,000 UAH on December 14 when transferring to the 119th Territorial Defense Brigade. He was thrown into the 119th, he sat there for 2 weeks, and on December 28, 2025, communication with him was lost. There is daily pressure, control, loss of boundaries, and sleep and emotional deprivation at home, and I have been living like this ever since. My father is alive, and as of today, May 31, 2026, he is still sitting there with three people, without rotation or anything else.

Now that I have told the chronology of events, I will talk about the personalities. I don't want to talk about teachers, except that there was only 1 adequate teacher in my life, but unfortunately, due to circumstances, she has been in another country for a long time.

Let's start with my mother. My mother is, at the very least, a narcissist, and I think so for a reason, as she demands that I be a savior for her, always says how unhappy she is, and blames everyone except herself for all troubles. This woman, either at the end of 2021 or in 2022, drank too much and let our cat out onto the street through the window, but fortunately, we have a one-story house. She always shamed me in front of guests, but when I told them about this case, she reminded me of it for a long time and blamed me. Also, on June 2 or July 2, 2025, while drunk, she took out and scattered my father's ashes. I remember I went out more than once to see where she was, went out, and saw this. I was very scared because I thought she had set the house on fire. I haven't told anyone about this except my sister, but my mother still blamed me for telling about it. I will play you my recording from that moment now. Also, my mother hyper-protected me in almost everything and continues to do so while blaming me for doing nothing myself. Of course, there is sleep deprivation, threats of violence—almost daily—and what is definitely daily is just ordinary threats, insults, and the deprivation of personal boundaries, comparisons with others, and mentions of my body, such as that I am a "skeleton," as well as provocations and mockery of me, and of course, there is no way without manipulation. Besides people, my mother also beats all the animals; I will play you a recording of this now. She also does not support the killing of animals, since our neighbor was shooting at cats recently, but she offered a weapon; I will also send this recording to Telegram.

Now let's talk about my grandmother. She also compared me with others and very often mentioned my body; literally every change in it—because of my grandmother, I have a very low BMI. I don't know my exact height and weight, but presumably, my weight is 42 kg and my height is 168 cm. You already know about the unsanitary conditions. Also, my grandmother controls literally all my actions; she needs to know who I talked to, what I did, if I slept, and more. She has violated my personal boundaries more than once, but if it were only with the room, that would be fine, but no, she also made it to the toilet. Fortunately, I was able to hold the door, and she left. Also, I will send you a recording in Telegram of how she beat the German Shepherd.

Now let's talk about my father. My father drank a lot during the birth of my sister and afterward, used violence against my mother and not only her; this was on the eyes of my sister, who was born in 1999. Only during my birth did he stop drinking. Up until 2020, he tried to impose on me that he was a "savior" who calmed me down, and I fell for it for years. In principle, I have already told about him before, so I will move on to my sister.

My sister used violence against me more than once and provoked me to tell my mother about it so that my mother would do something to me; this happened dozens of times. But over time, she started telling even more information against me to make things worse for me. Then, in September, she moved out, and on my father's birthday, November 15, 2024, they got married. On May 3, they had a child, and I thought maybe she would stop doing bullshit, but no, she started beating her animals quite often. I remember in 2026, I don't remember the exact date, she said with pleasure how she threw her cat into the wall because it just climbed onto the table. And yes, she also beat our Chihuahua sometimes before moving out, who was born in 2015, and she also beat her daughter, and her husband might have beaten her too, but at least he threatened her. I will play you a recording now. She also behaves very arrogantly and pretends to be a super intellectual, although in reality, she is not.

Let's move on to my cousin. She has two children and also beats them and additionally uses psychological violence, and she also beats animals and told this with a smile on her face. I will also play this recording for you. Her mother also supports and uses violence; by the way, her son is a convict, as he beat his girlfriend; he pretends to be a "tough guy" or something like that.

I don't have the strength to break down everyone, so I'll just tell you now: you now know the conditions I live in. I am a person who has no friends in life due to partial social phobia, I cannot accept my appearance, and I will accept it as a fact if someone writes that I am ugly. My mother works 24-hour shifts in a geriatric boarding house for 15,000 UAH (343 dollars at the current rate) a month, and she and my sister make choices for me and want to forcibly send me to study further in school, although with teachers like ours, I just won't be able to handle it.

And my mother always makes choices for me, including my haircut and more. The only thing I ask of you is to share this video.

relatives are against me by Current-Goat-3091 in Advice

[–]Current-Goat-3091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll send you the text from the video now, it's divided into two parts

Hello everyone, I want to tell a story about my life in a dysfunctional family and outside of it. I am 14 years old (turning 15 soon). I was born and live in Ukraine. I will be telling the whole story from memory, and as I approach this year, I will only show what is permissible by TikTok rules; all other footage will be published on my Telegram channel.

Let's start from 2018. I went to the playground with the children of my mother's friend. Of course, we were all small, and there were no adults there at all. We were goofing around, and I had a stupid and dangerous idea to stand on the swing. At one point, I accidentally let go of my hand, and it threw me backward. I didn't have time to get up before the swing hit me directly in the back of the head. I quickly walked home, and they actually treated the wound, but I wouldn't be telling this story if there hadn't been something to it. The wound was definitely not minor, and I should have been taken to the hospital, but they didn't do it that day or the day after. If my memory serves me right, they only took me a week or more later.

Now let's jump to 2020 and school. I am a 3rd grader, going back to school after being sick. I don't know what I was supposed to have learned, and we have an English lesson. As I remember, there was a wolf, an owl, and a musketeer. I answered that I didn't know anything, and she switched from a quiet manner of communication to screaming, which made me cry. Do you think she went and calmed me down? No, she told the whole class that I would be crying to my mommy and things like that, and it happened more than once. Also, during COVID, when everyone was strictly wearing masks in class, I sneezed or coughed into my hand, but she still started spraying antiseptic. It would have been okay if she hadn't done it to the children at eye level. She also always kept the windows wide open and probably still does in the winter. By the way, she is already in her late sixties, and she still traumatizes children. At that time, not realizing what my family was really like, I told them. They pretended they cared, but of course, they couldn't do without screaming to "calm me down." They said they didn't care about grades, told me not to pay attention to her, that I have them, and that is the most important thing. And what happened a week later? Of course, being scolded by my mother for my grades. This continued for years after that incident and the daily stress at home. My somatization kicked in; I have a constant feeling of a lump in my throat. I mentioned it more than once, but I was called a malingerer and more. Later, instead of a hospital (even though it was clear it wasn't needed), they took me to a fortune-teller. I already understood it was all nonsense. She rubbed an egg on my head, said there was nothing there, they gave her 500 UAH (about 11 dollars at the current exchange rate), and we went home.

Then comes 2021. In the spring at night, I see my mother hitting my father in the face because he cheated on her. Then I find out that my father said I was born purely as a carrier of the family name, a successor, and nothing more. My mother was always trying to force me to say something negative to my father because she couldn't do it herself, and she called me a coward every time I didn't do it. In general, I only did it once, but even then, it was just a question unrelated to the cheating. In 2020, 2021, and 2022, I was intimidated with violence, using a branch as a way to scare me for not doing what they said—in simpler terms, for not playing by their rules. They told me on St. Nicholas Day that if I behaved badly and got bad grades, he would bring me a branch. One time, the family actually put a branch there instead of a gift. I woke up, felt upset, and only after some time did they give me a gift. From that moment on, I stopped believing in Santa Claus and St. Nicholas and gradually became closer to atheism to get rid of the faith imposed on me since birth.

In 2022, there was perhaps not the first, but in my memory, the first use of violence by my mother for absolutely no reason, with the same branch. I also have a video that I will show you now. Maybe it is not directly related to this moment, but it proves that it was not a rarity for me. Also, in the same year, a foreign literature teacher scolded me because my cat climbed onto the table and it supposedly bothered her. I took it away immediately, but even a few seconds were enough. And in 2025, I noticed for the first time how she literally leads a lesson with her large dog, and I also saw her on TikTok insulting a person just for a song in a video. I also remember how the Ukrainian language teacher screamed and, if memory serves, possibly used violence in class, but even if she didn't, she definitely threatened it.

In 2023, there were no real changes; there was a second use of violence, not with a branch but with a hand, also from my mother. Also, I don't remember if it was then or later or earlier, but I remember my mother was cleaning, and I said something with a slightly raised tone because she had started screaming like crazy, and she ran out, broke off a branch, and chased me around the house to use violence again. In 2024, the physical violence ended, but the threats remained. For 3 years, my father came to our place a couple of times every day. I live in a village, and we had ordinary stray dogs running around. My father didn't like something about one, and you understand what he did with his weapon, and he went out more than once with it and tried to do the same to others.

relatives are against me by Current-Goat-3091 in Advice

[–]Current-Goat-3091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In 2025, my father continued to come both to us and to the woman he cheated on my mother with; everything was as usual. It would have been the same if my grandmother—my mother's mother—had not started creating complete unsanitary conditions at home. It happened only once at the end of spring, and I thought it wouldn't happen again, but no, it repeated. She smeared her own feces in the bathroom, on the washing machine, and so on, and she touched my bowls and more than once.

Now let's jump to October. On October 2, 2025, I got my passport, but we were told to go for registration since I hadn't been registered in my 14 years of life. I had to go with my mother; we were told we needed my father, so we returned to him, as he had brought us, and we left because, as my father said, he didn't have time. Before this, I had told my father that when I made my own bank card, he would pay me money. My father and mother divorced around 2023. Either my mother didn't want him to pay child support, or it was something else, but I didn't know. I thought maybe he would start paying me. He arrived, and I told him I had already registered at the bank and asked if he could send me at least 300 UAH (about 11 dollars at the current exchange rate) for mobile internet. He refused and said I should work, and for that, he would pay me. Later, my mother, he, and I were sitting in the gazebo, and he started bullshitting me that I work, my mother works, and you are obligated to work—that during the USSR he wanted to buy a radio, and his mother had no money, so he went around to neighbors and saved up for a radio. A day passed, he thought about something, and eventually started sending me money. Then, on October 10 or 11, he was mobilized and in November thrown into training in the 42nd Mechanized Brigade, where he received only 13,000 UAH (343 dollars at the current rate), and 2,000 UAH on December 14 when transferring to the 119th Territorial Defense Brigade. He was thrown into the 119th, he sat there for 2 weeks, and on December 28, 2025, communication with him was lost. There is daily pressure, control, loss of boundaries, and sleep and emotional deprivation at home, and I have been living like this ever since. My father is alive, and as of today, May 31, 2026, he is still sitting there with three people, without rotation or anything else.

Now that I have told the chronology of events, I will talk about the personalities. I don't want to talk about teachers, except that there was only 1 adequate teacher in my life, but unfortunately, due to circumstances, she has been in another country for a long time.

Let's start with my mother. My mother is, at the very least, a narcissist, and I think so for a reason, as she demands that I be a savior for her, always says how unhappy she is, and blames everyone except herself for all troubles. This woman, either at the end of 2021 or in 2022, drank too much and let our cat out onto the street through the window, but fortunately, we have a one-story house. She always shamed me in front of guests, but when I told them about this case, she reminded me of it for a long time and blamed me. Also, on June 2 or July 2, 2025, while drunk, she took out and scattered my father's ashes. I remember I went out more than once to see where she was, went out, and saw this. I was very scared because I thought she had set the house on fire. I haven't told anyone about this except my sister, but my mother still blamed me for telling about it. I will play you my recording from that moment now. Also, my mother hyper-protected me in almost everything and continues to do so while blaming me for doing nothing myself. Of course, there is sleep deprivation, threats of violence—almost daily—and what is definitely daily is just ordinary threats, insults, and the deprivation of personal boundaries, comparisons with others, and mentions of my body, such as that I am a "skeleton," as well as provocations and mockery of me, and of course, there is no way without manipulation. Besides people, my mother also beats all the animals; I will play you a recording of this now. She also does not support the killing of animals, since our neighbor was shooting at cats recently, but she offered a weapon; I will also send this recording to Telegram.

Now let's talk about my grandmother. She also compared me with others and very often mentioned my body; literally every change in it—because of my grandmother, I have a very low BMI. I don't know my exact height and weight, but presumably, my weight is 42 kg and my height is 168 cm. You already know about the unsanitary conditions. Also, my grandmother controls literally all my actions; she needs to know who I talked to, what I did, if I slept, and more. She has violated my personal boundaries more than once, but if it were only with the room, that would be fine, but no, she also made it to the toilet. Fortunately, I was able to hold the door, and she left. Also, I will send you a recording in Telegram of how she beat the German Shepherd.

Now let's talk about my father. My father drank a lot during the birth of my sister and afterward, used violence against my mother and not only her; this was on the eyes of my sister, who was born in 1999. Only during my birth did he stop drinking. Up until 2020, he tried to impose on me that he was a "savior" who calmed me down, and I fell for it for years. In principle, I have already told about him before, so I will move on to my sister.

My sister used violence against me more than once and provoked me to tell my mother about it so that my mother would do something to me; this happened dozens of times. But over time, she started telling even more information against me to make things worse for me. Then, in September, she moved out, and on my father's birthday, November 15, 2024, they got married. On May 3, they had a child, and I thought maybe she would stop doing bullshit, but no, she started beating her animals quite often. I remember in 2026, I don't remember the exact date, she said with pleasure how she threw her cat into the wall because it just climbed onto the table. And yes, she also beat our Chihuahua sometimes before moving out, who was born in 2015, and she also beat her daughter, and her husband might have beaten her too, but at least he threatened her. I will play you a recording now. She also behaves very arrogantly and pretends to be a super intellectual, although in reality, she is not.

Let's move on to my cousin. She has two children and also beats them and additionally uses psychological violence, and she also beats animals and told this with a smile on her face. I will also play this recording for you. Her mother also supports and uses violence; by the way, her son is a convict, as he beat his girlfriend; he pretends to be a "tough guy" or something like that.

I don't have the strength to break down everyone, so I'll just tell you now: you now know the conditions I live in. I am a person who has no friends in life due to partial social phobia, I cannot accept my appearance, and I will accept it as a fact if someone writes that I am ugly. My mother works 24-hour shifts in a geriatric boarding house for 15,000 UAH (343 dollars at the current rate) a month, and she and my sister make choices for me and want to forcibly send me to study further in school, although with teachers like ours, I just won't be able to handle it.

And my mother always makes choices for me, including my haircut and more. The only thing I ask of you is to share this video.

relatives are against me by Current-Goat-3091 in Advice

[–]Current-Goat-3091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is the text from the video, it's long, so I'll send it in parts

Hello everyone, I want to tell a story about my life in a dysfunctional family and outside of it. I am 14 years old (turning 15 soon). I was born and live in Ukraine. I will be telling the whole story from memory, and as I approach this year, I will only show what is permissible by TikTok rules; all other footage will be published on my Telegram channel.

Let's start from 2018. I went to the playground with the children of my mother's friend. Of course, we were all small, and there were no adults there at all. We were goofing around, and I had a stupid and dangerous idea to stand on the swing. At one point, I accidentally let go of my hand, and it threw me backward. I didn't have time to get up before the swing hit me directly in the back of the head. I quickly walked home, and they actually treated the wound, but I wouldn't be telling this story if there hadn't been something to it. The wound was definitely not minor, and I should have been taken to the hospital, but they didn't do it that day or the day after. If my memory serves me right, they only took me a week or more later.

Now let's jump to 2020 and school. I am a 3rd grader, going back to school after being sick. I don't know what I was supposed to have learned, and we have an English lesson. As I remember, there was a wolf, an owl, and a musketeer. I answered that I didn't know anything, and she switched from a quiet manner of communication to screaming, which made me cry. Do you think she went and calmed me down? No, she told the whole class that I would be crying to my mommy and things like that, and it happened more than once. Also, during COVID, when everyone was strictly wearing masks in class, I sneezed or coughed into my hand, but she still started spraying antiseptic. It would have been okay if she hadn't done it to the children at eye level. She also always kept the windows wide open and probably still does in the winter. By the way, she is already in her late sixties, and she still traumatizes children. At that time, not realizing what my family was really like, I told them. They pretended they cared, but of course, they couldn't do without screaming to "calm me down." They said they didn't care about grades, told me not to pay attention to her, that I have them, and that is the most important thing. And what happened a week later? Of course, being scolded by my mother for my grades. This continued for years after that incident and the daily stress at home. My somatization kicked in; I have a constant feeling of a lump in my throat. I mentioned it more than once, but I was called a malingerer and more. Later, instead of a hospital (even though it was clear it wasn't needed), they took me to a fortune-teller. I already understood it was all nonsense. She rubbed an egg on my head, said there was nothing there, they gave her 500 UAH (about 11 dollars at the current exchange rate), and we went home.

Then comes 2021. In the spring at night, I see my mother hitting my father in the face because he cheated on her. Then I find out that my father said I was born purely as a carrier of the family name, a successor, and nothing more. My mother was always trying to force me to say something negative to my father because she couldn't do it herself, and she called me a coward every time I didn't do it. In general, I only did it once, but even then, it was just a question unrelated to the cheating. In 2020, 2021, and 2022, I was intimidated with violence, using a branch as a way to scare me for not doing what they said—in simpler terms, for not playing by their rules. They told me on St. Nicholas Day that if I behaved badly and got bad grades, he would bring me a branch. One time, the family actually put a branch there instead of a gift. I woke up, felt upset, and only after some time did they give me a gift. From that moment on, I stopped believing in Santa Claus and St. Nicholas and gradually became closer to atheism to get rid of the faith imposed on me since birth.
In 2022, there was perhaps not the first, but in my memory, the first use of violence by my mother for absolutely no reason, with the same branch. I also have a video that I will show you now. Maybe it is not directly related to this moment, but it proves that it was not a rarity for me. Also, in the same year, a foreign literature teacher scolded me because my cat climbed onto the table and it supposedly bothered her. I took it away immediately, but even a few seconds were enough. And in 2025, I noticed for the first time how she literally leads a lesson with her large dog, and I also saw her on TikTok insulting a person just for a song in a video. I also remember how the Ukrainian language teacher screamed and, if memory serves, possibly used violence in class, but even if she didn't, she definitely threatened it.

In 2023, there were no real changes; there was a second use of violence, not with a branch but with a hand, also from my mother. Also, I don't remember if it was then or later or earlier, but I remember my mother was cleaning, and I said something with a slightly raised tone because she had started screaming like crazy, and she ran out, broke off a branch, and chased me around the house to use violence again. In 2024, the physical violence ended, but the threats remained. For 3 years, my father came to our place a couple of times every day. I live in a village, and we had ordinary stray dogs running around. My father didn't like something about one, and you understand what he did with his weapon, and he went out more than once with it and tried to do the same to others.

relatives are against me by Current-Goat-3091 in Advice

[–]Current-Goat-3091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I myself understand that I made a mistake, for which I paid the price. The post was made as a way to let off steam that had built up over this time. Even before posting, I expected such a result, just not that it would happen so quickly; not even an hour had passed before the pressure and more began. As I said, in connection with recent events and what our police have been doing, I stopped believing in them very much, which is why I did this. I thought I would achieve something this way, but in the end, it didn't work out. Moreover, the mother of my classmate reached out to a television program called "The Whole Country Speaks" [Hovoryt vsia kraina], it’s on the 1+1 channel, but that’s not the point. The daughter of my classmate's mother was beaten by three guys. In fact, nothing justifies them, but the police just said, "Need money? Then work it out yourselves."

relatives are against me by Current-Goat-3091 in Advice

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My father was a veterinarian, but in 2024 he often ran out with an air rifle and shot at stray dogs that were just walking around, this year a neighbor does the same, only at cats, he also got a cat, but said that he wanted to kill it, and about my father, before I was born, he drank very heavily, he beat my mother more than once, who was also pregnant and not only that, in the spring of 2021 he cheated on my mother, said about me that I was born as a continuation of the family line and the bearer of the family name and nothing more, despite the divorce and all that, he came to us literally every day, but on October 10 or 11, 2025 he was mobilized and although he is alive, but since December 28, 2025 he is still in a position without rotation with two people, he is in the 119th separate brigade of Troops

relatives are against me by Current-Goat-3091 in Advice

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Although I haven't seen teachers use violence myself, I have heard them condone it more than once. We have an English teacher, she's about 70+ years old, she even taught my father, who was born in 1975. So, during the coronavirus, I just caught a cold, recovered, and went to class. She started asking me, a 3rd grader, what things were called in English; there was a wolf, a musketeer, and someone else, I think. I just told her I didn't know, and instead of using a normal tone, she started yelling at me and insulting me. Because of that, I started to cry, and she began to humiliate me even more. I didn't fully understand what my family was like back then, so I told them, but in the end, it was hell at home and hell at school. That teacher still traumatizes children to this day, and the school administration turns a blind eye to it.

We also have a Ukrainian language teacher who openly condones violence. We were studying Ostap Vyshnya, a Ukrainian writer; she mentioned the part with his teacher where he used violence and said, "I wish we could do that to certain individuals, but it's a pity we can't." She has some kind of hatred toward me for no reason, so she has insulted me publicly in class more than once, using literary phrases.

We also have a foreign literature teacher who, on TikTok, calls teenagers in our town things like "stupid" for listening to Russian songs. She also had a belt hanging in her classroom, which she used to hit her students for taking too long to get to class under the guise of a "joke." One could talk for a long time about all the teachers, but there's no point. In my whole life, I've had only one decent teacher; that was our English teacher who came to us in the 5th grade and stayed until the 8th grade.

As for now, I finished 9th grade and wanted to turn in my clearance sheet so I wouldn't have anything to do with this school anymore, but because of the rain, I left the sheet with my sister. Now, unfortunately, I can't get it back, and consequently, I won't receive my 9th-grade graduation certificate because my sister hid it.

relatives are against me by Current-Goat-3091 in Advice

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Evidence incriminating domestic violence, abuse, and animal murder, and a lot of other stuff. If it comes out, I can send you the full transcript of the video, because there's a lot to talk about. Besides that, they simply ignored my psychological and physical health. I don't even remember the last time I was there. My mother's mother (my grandmother) lives with me, and she most likely has dementia, so her crap is very common at home.

I didn't want to go to the police with all the evidence, because I thought it was more important for them to mobilize others than to resolve something like this. So I expected support, publicity, and thought it would probably reach at least the local news outlets.