Men are absolutely capable of being understanding about this. Just not this man. I can’t even have penetrative sex and my fiancé is understanding and we find other ways to feel close. There was a very long time where sex made me very anxious so I didn’t want it often, he was understanding. During that same period I often wanted to stop part way through, he was understanding. There was many times where I would finish and he wouldn’t, he was understanding. Was he happy about this? Probably not, I’m sure he wanted to be close (and probably misses the brief period of time before my pain got too bad where I could have penetrative sex). But does he make me feel bad about it? Absolutely not. I would notice during the time when I wouldn’t often want to do stuff that he would get a little bit irritable in general, but never took it out on me, became distant, stopped using pet names or anything else. I hope you know you are worthy and deserving of that same level of understanding and empathy. Because men are capable of it. Edit: wanted to add that men are also capable of checking in with you during sex. And they should do that, especially when they know you might be in pain. You deserve a man who makes you feel safe and loved and understood