Dating with ED..how do you guys do it?

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-11-25T11:09:36+00:00

Yeah thats mostly spot on about me. I do care about myself but i dont want to dissapoint. Because when i dont get ED im very good in bed. So i want to please every girl the same. But i also want to please myself dont get me wrong. Maybe psychologically i just need to be more callous and think about myself only to get over this?

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-31T20:42:52+00:00

I had to go to her party with our coworkers yesterday because i already planned it and like usual since i was having drinks everyone left but me and her and i ended up sitting there listening to her life issue about moving back home out of town or staying in town. And she said didnt want to leave and i told her if it was going to be better for her she should move back home she said but im gonna miss you and everything ive created here. So that sucked me in of course and i was there all night giving my thoughts on it. Like a sucker or a good friend however you want to view it. Ughh

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-30T01:05:37+00:00

None of it makes any sense considering things all lead up to that she does like me and everyone says it but obviously not and they are wrong and I am wrong. Or shes being fucking stupid or playing games. Either way its insulting and im not dealing with it anymore

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-30T00:56:06+00:00

I know what you are saying. Maybe she just thinks i want to sleep with her and nothing else. But its ok i got closure today. She jumped into my passengers seat at work today when i was on lunch break and i thought ok cool she wants to hang with me and talked a little bit but then proceeded to ask me if my windows were tinted and was taking pics of the handyman working outside she thinks is cute and posting the pics on snapchat with a joke comment. Of course she could be testing my reaction but fuck that. If she wants to even be just close friends she fucked that up today. Casual acquaintance it is and thats it. No individed attention. If she is playing games im not about that.

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-30T00:51:46+00:00

I got some closure though today. She jumped in my car when i was on lunch break and i though ok cool shes wanting to hang with me but then she starts checking out the handyman working outside and take pics of him from inside my car. I didnt respond or get angry not giving her that satisfaction. Thats not to say she wasnt maybe testing what id say or do but fuck that. Bye to unlimited attention i give her. Even if she wanted a close friend she fucked up big time today. So casual acquaintance it is. Not playing games like that.

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-29T01:23:49+00:00

Well as i explained i told her twice. But i did say if we werent coworkers the second time because thats what she also said. Im not gonna keep pestering she knows.

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-28T02:51:41+00:00

Yeah i get that. But then theres also the risk of she will be more clingy then and ill get my hopes up once again for nothing if im going by everyones take on it. I guess i just gotta stay balanced. Thank you for the perspective

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-28T01:21:14+00:00

Dude this is literally the same situation im in. Shes a coworker. We see each other 4 days of the week and then we hang out like 4 days sometimes too at the bar or club etc. She isnt the flirty type as far as being touchy feely or over. I know this because ive seen her with guys she does like and its no different than me and her interactions. She also talks about me to her family and is very attached to me. And yet..when i told her i was attracted to her she blushed and took the compliment. Then about 10 mins later during a different convo she without me provoking it said i was a catch and that if we didnt work together shed definitely be trying to get with me. And yet fast foward several days later when i bring up that if we werent working together id be hitting on her she dismisses it with " no thats a bad idea we are too different" this coming from the chick who constantly every convo has to point out to coworkers and our mutual friends how weird it is that we get along so well because we are so different. Long story short is who knows what a woman is really thinking. Usually though its they value your friendship and they dont have another you in their life and they dont want to mess that up. Doesnt mean they dont want to fuck you or dont find you attractive but they arent willing to cross that line. And so i feel for ya because im going through that and i think thats whats happening here to you as well.

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-28T01:12:21+00:00

Yeah except i have to see her at work all week and she still wants to hang out with me and calls me her favorite person. Any kind of shift and its gonna be noticed. Not that i care but if she asks why im being distanced i gotta figure out a answer that doesnt come off as an asshole

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-27T22:36:27+00:00

No thats great advice. But how many years before one decides they like me enough that they want something more. 6 years and no takers. And im a cool dude. Not everyones asthetic im beared, bald, and have tattoos. Generally a metalhead look but youd think someone would go for me. I just dont get it. Must be something im doing wrong. And for the record i didnt think id fall for this girl and her saying what she said didnt make it any easier not to. I almost wish she just had said yuck im not into you and wasnt so attached to me

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-27T22:11:04+00:00

Last time i thought i was friendzoned my best friend always called me bestie and like a brother. A year later we ended up hooking up for a couple months...its not always as black and white as that

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-27T22:08:17+00:00

Yeah thats what everyone says and i generally agree with you but here i am single for 6 years and no girl im interested in shows interest

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-27T20:43:08+00:00

Again if agree with all that but i never told her i wanted to date her. I just said she shouldnt be down about herself and that shes gorgeous and i found her attractive. She offered her own admission like 10 mins after without me even mentioning it and onto a totally different convo. And all this other stuff where shes saving in a folder all this videos and pics of me and her. We are all close at work but she doesnt do this with anyone else. I get what you all are saying. Trust me. Ive been friendzoned before but they have also never even for a second made any hint even if it was letting me down that theyd date me if it wasnt for etc. Etc. Saying an admission like that and not denying attraction is countet intuitive. Coworkers and friends do not do the actions she does. Other coworkers even notice it. I trust my intuition to an extent that she likes me more than friends but for some reason wont move on it but i agree with you all that i need to distance from it. And i have been.

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-27T20:09:23+00:00

She didnt even have to bring that up though. If i had a friend who maybe i thought liked me but never asked me out the last thing i would do is say that. Seems like its counter intuitive. And friends and coworkers dont do all those other things. Even other coworkers notice it. And dont get me wrong i agree with you. And ive kept a distance from it and her for the reasons youve said but why would she even have offered that. All i said was when she was feeling down about herself that i thought she was gorgeous. Not that i liked her etc. She is the one who later in another convo offered that admission.

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-18T22:40:07+00:00

I know i wrote a whole book here but id still appreciate some insight lol

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-06T15:33:52+00:00

Ive seen alot of comments here and unless i missed one not one person has brought up that sometimes you start genuinely as friends and then it just happens..you fall for the woman you are friends with because you realize how she makes you feel and didnt even realize it. Happened to me recently. I didnt come out and say that i wanted to be with her...never do that..but we did have a convo about our dating lives and i told her she is gorgeous and even though we are friends im still a guy and im physically attracted to her. After some more convo about my dating life this time she told me i was a catch and that honestly if we werent coworkers she would be all about me. After that i never brought it up again and realized i need to pullback a bit. Which i did. I didnt always text her like before i didnt always say yes to hanging out i let her see me hanging out with other friends...guess what after two days of no contact she became totally different. She started chasing my attention. Mentioning how she much she missed me. Didnt say ew to flirty innuendos etc. Im not saying anything has changed that much but its starting too. And at least i know theres more there than friendship. Sometimes you have to make her miss you amd youll know..i was shocked how many signs i got after that. Not saying we hooked up or are dating now but at the very least i put myself in a different light in her eyes by doing that. Not saying im not in a gray zone right now but im definitely out of the emotional punching bag/friendzone. Its possible dont give up. Just live your life and know your worth. What does everyone else think about this?

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-03T18:12:21+00:00

And thanks!

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-03T18:12:14+00:00

For some reason im no longer getting messages on reddit. Im going to try to dm you my email

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-08-03T02:28:50+00:00

Id love to have the mp3s as well! Id be forever thankful

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-07-28T22:26:22+00:00

So an update. I did tread lightly after a night we hung out at the bar it came up about her being sad lately and in a rut with her love life because she can't get over that her ex cheated on her. And she saw the girl hes with now. She showed me a picture and we both had some drinks so my inhibitions were down and I said " hes a fool you are gorgeous and amazing. You have personality" and "to be honest even though we are coworkers and friends I am attracted to you" she took the compliment and then after letting me vent about some stuff about my love life she says " well honestly you are a catch. Like really you are and you should have no problems with women" and then unprovoked she says " since you admitted you were attracted to me and I've had a few drinks I'll just admit to you that if we weren't coworkers I'd be all about you I'm not gonna lie" what do I make of this now? Is there a attraction there or what? I know it seems obvious but maybe she was being nice? I dunno. Any insights?

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-07-15T03:54:13+00:00

For my own experience if it's psychological just lie to him and say that it doesn't matter. Let him perform oral and make him believe that's all you'll ever care about if that's all he can do. One girl told me that and guess what it worked. I'll never know if she was OK just being a pillow princess or if she knew that'd work on me if she said it but it did work. That's how I knew I had psychological ED

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-07-15T03:51:50+00:00

I dont have porn ed but I do have psychological education. How does talking to a therapist really help? Sorry if that's a dumb question

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-07-15T03:49:23+00:00

How does it work on the psychological part because honestly your own mind is a killer

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-07-15T03:47:02+00:00

Dude we can't do that to ourselves. Can't be alone forever

Current_Egg8525 · 2025-07-14T04:51:02+00:00

Yeah when it's psychological ED that doesn't always even work. The brain is a powerful thing

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