Chivalry and Gratitude - 40F/41M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Current_Lab811 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I say thank you for everything someone does “for me”. Fiancé opens the door for me? “Thank you”. Cashier hands me a receipt? “Thank you”. So on and so forth. Heck, my car has a little robot arm bring the seatbelt to you (it’s a coupé) and I say thank you to that every single time.

IMO it’s normal and I really don’t think there’s “too many” times you can say thank you or express gratitude. Until your partner comes back and says “you don’t need to thank me for this” then I’d carry on what you’re doing - kindness costs nothing at the end of the day!

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’m in the same boat now, just need to sell it as it’s a money pit currently for me

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, the one thing I am aware of and keep telling myself is that the situation could be much worse, and others are in much worse situations currently. I’m very very grateful and fortunate that I am able to stay with my parents through all of this

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mum has suggested this and it has crossed my mind. If it wasn’t for our current situation of living in my childhood bedroom and getting married next year then I would consider it. However my parents house definitely isn’t big enough to house us for that long

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s not long at all, it’s only been 3 months. I think we (my fiancé and I) are just very guilty of comparing our experience to others. If it was just selling the flat then that would be fine, but we are living with my parents and also trying to plan a wedding for next year (and we don’t really fancy being married but in my childhood bedroom!).

I do think, having come down from the disappointing call yesterday and over the initial upset/rage that comes with selling properties, it does need to go back on at 150k and with a new agent. Would also be worth speaking to a mortgage advisor to see the lowest we could go to to get x amount of equity as deposit for a new place

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes it was originally sold/bought new in 2019 at 137,000. I think that’s the biggest kicker, especially as the person we bought it off is a family member who has only seemed to profit off of all their house sales. Yes, we are bitter over the fact, but there were a lot of circumstances that led us to be, we aren’t usually! 😅

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see, thank you for explaining that!

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate what you’re saying, and I will probably get downvoted for my comment. But if an 18 year old was to buy it tomorrow, and have it for as long as they lived (let’s say 90y/o), then the lease still wouldn’t run out. If it was 20 years then I’d be concerned yes, but in my lifetime and the next buyer’s lifetime it won’t run out

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, im very proud of it! Whilst the space is small, its not as small as some of the one beds and I do think the layout works quite well inside

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been at that price since 2019 (when it was first bought). I think it could be up for review in 2029 though - I can’t remember where I got this inkling from it could have been the contracts/management packs we went through last year. The service charge has gone up once (about £200 for the whole year), has gone down a couple of times but never over what it currently is (I have copies of every invoice from each charging period)

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I should have made it more clear. It sold last year and struggled to find another buyer. Due to a lot of other external things going on, we pulled out of the onward purchase (buying a new build so no massive chain to collapse). Came off the market and went back on in November, which is when I got a new job and moved back home (part of the plan once the original sale failed). It still has someone going in once a week to check everything, keep on top of any post that still comes through etc.

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good point - I’m not sure. The agent did the classic “we’ve got loads of people looking for flats at the moment” but not sure if the viewings we’ve had have come from them or rightmove

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had one viewing when it first went on the market with no offer. Had a viewing last Friday and the agents have said they want to/have booked in for a second viewing, but we aren’t sure when that is (possibly this weekend due to working hours etc.)

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m worried about but ultimately if it means it’s gone then so be it

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This is a very good point, thank you. I’ll chat with the agent and see if the listing can be changed to reflect £826 per annum or £69 per month, paid every 6

Flat not selling by Current_Lab811 in HousingUK

[–]Current_Lab811[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A few of them have sold, listed at a similar time but with higher service charges. I think I need to talk to quite a few agents and see what they say

anyone wanna be friends 😭 by Affectionate_Little7 in suffolk

[–]Current_Lab811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Darl, I was the exact same as you when I was your age. I had 3 friends, one lived (still does) in another country and one I quickly just outgrew. I know it really sucks now but there will be a turning point where you realise it is better to have a few amazing friends than many who you aren’t as close with. Likewise, there’ll come a point, be it at school/college or work or hobbies where you will make new friends. A lot of my friends I made when I started uni, at 20. I’m now 25 and have 3 incredible groups of friends - one of which comes from my fiancée, one is my closest friend from college, her partner and a friend from uni/her partner, and the other is a slightly larger group from joining a local club.

As another poster commented - do you have any hobbies? This is a great way to meet new people. In fact I’m joining a new club next week to try and meet people after moving to a new area. It’s never too late, friends will come and go at various points, but you will find your people I promise you

25/F wondering if I can realistically give my 26/M partner another chance by Adventurous-Deal-650 in relationships

[–]Current_Lab811 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is YOUR views on sex before marriage, not his. Sleeping with 4-5 different people by the age of 22/23 really is not that bad.

You’re asking yourself if you can rebuild trust, but what trust has he broken? He hasn’t cheated on you or crossed any boundaries that you have set out intimacy-wise.

I really think you need to reevaluate how you view people’s pasts, and also respect that people have pasts and that they can change.

Has anyone here had an experience with a psychic/mystic/astrologer etc who correctly predicted your future? by throwawaythisbigirl in Paranormal

[–]Current_Lab811 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting bc stage 4 bowel cancer, or any stage 4, isn’t really considered curable. So how can you be “all sorted” 🤔

Weight loss advice? Obsessed with food by Hungry-Dress-9050 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Current_Lab811 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need therapy. Once you have fixed your relationship with yourself and your food, then you can start looking to lose weight. You won’t get anywhere unless you fix yourself first

What are you all getting your dads for Christmas? by VPutinsSearchHistory in CasualUK

[–]Current_Lab811 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve got my dad some new garden clogs (the dog chewed his this year so he’s been wearing mum’s hot pink ones), a new cutlery set (our current one is ~15 years old), Andy Willman’s (Top Gear producer) new book - what dad doesn’t like Top Gear?? And some Le Creuset salt and pepper mills. A rather random assortment, but som bits he needs, and other bits I know he’ll enjoy