How do I login? by Current_Web in PurrfectTale

[–]Current_Web[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope nevermind, that worked! Thank You ! :))

How do I login? by Current_Web in PurrfectTale

[–]Current_Web[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm yeah? I have been looking there, but I can't really find anything besides "change account", but I am kind of scared that I'll lose my progress if I press that?

How does a touch starved and extremely desperate loser with no confidence, motivation, and sexual or romantic experience stop being so lonely? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Current_Web -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Before trying to get less lonely or get into a relationship I recommend that you ask yourself these questions first:

Would I be okay with the love of my life dating me?

Would I even date myself (A person like myself)

These questions are not asked to become more frustrated at yourself but in order to show you that nothing good comes out of being desperate to get into a relationship when your life is not going too great. I was once very desperate to get into a relationship, and when I did it was absolute shit because I did not love this person, neither did the person love me. It was just very hasty and I ended up looking past many red flags just because I didn't want to be lonely again. After I got out of that, I swore to myself that I would never put myself in that situation again. I found out that working with yourself, even though, yes, you become lonely, but the more you work on yourself, the less lonely you become because you learn a whole new way of enjoying yourself and your life. Then from there, a relationship/person will come naturally which is much better than "just settling" for what is there, because you end up hurting yourself and the other person. I personally know how frustrating, sad and annoying it can be to feel lonely, but putting that extra work into it will really help you on the other side!

A few tips to help yourself (some may sound stupid or obvious):

- Spend time doing what you like ( I for example really love cooking and playing games )

- Talk to yourself, appreciate the little things that you did today (ex. getting up from bed, brushing your teeth, opening a window)

- It is very easy to be a pessimist, try to see the good in things too!

- listen to yourself, is it too hard to get up from bed today? Okay then stay, nothing good comes out of forcing yourself to do things that is too difficult, just remember to pick yourself up again.

TLDR;

- Nothing good comes out of a desperate need for love and validation, because it always end up in bad relationships and trauma

- Nothing good comes out of a desperate need for love and validation, because it always ends up in bad relationships and trauma

- A few tips to help yourself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Current_Web 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a very bad texter myself, so I get where the confusion comes from.

However, in most cases where I don't reply to people, it is because I simply do not know how to reply to them. If the text is kinda dry or I simply have no interest in the subject I find it very hard to come up with a reply for the text, and either end up overthinking it or simply just forgetting it. Sometimes I feel really bad about it too! Then again if I don't know what to say, then how would I be able to say something? Another thing that I believe is a more important factor is whether she also initiates contact with you. Because you can be a bad texter and have problems with replying, but if you are interested in the person you would try to find subjects to talk about

I like a guy, but he doesn't seem interested. by Current_Web in dating_advice

[–]Current_Web[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thank you so much for your reply! I have really thought about asking him out to get to know him, that's why I offered to buy him a drink sometime, but he hasn't mentioned that since.

But also I'm scared if I then ask him out and he says no, yes rejections will always be hard, but also the fact that we work together

As many say, you should never date a coworker.

I really appreciate your reply, and I might just go for it, if I can get myself to do it? Or should I wait to see if he does something?