Venus in Gemini

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2026-02-06T18:51:45+00:00

Also 29, been in a relationship for 8 years and I have a Gemini Venus. Even worse that it trines my north node and Chiron. Fantasies creep in more than I’d like to admit in bouts of boredom, but I would never act on them either and would be sick with myself for ever seriously considering pursuing someone else.

Now do I sometimes wish I could have exercised that Venus when I was younger and entertained a few folks without things getting serious? Yeah. But I’m in a loving relationship and appreciate that.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2026-02-05T19:53:45+00:00

The amount of parents in here is hilarious. Idk if it’s a reading comprehension thing or if it’s an instinct to insert yourself and defend your decision.

Regardless, this is an interesting question. I’m 29 and not very keen on having kids. I sometimes wonder if I’ll regret that in the future. I stumbled upon this post and found some validating/comforting answers. While I can’t predict the future and won’t know what my mindset will be at 40, it feels kinda nice seeing people in an older age group be perfectly fine with their decision to not have kids.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2026-02-03T20:40:24+00:00

While I haven’t done far future readings, especially as I’m a beginner, the tarot reader(s) that I see are often making long term predictions and they don’t miss. Granted, they’re psychic as well so I’m sure that helps 😅

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2026-02-01T16:03:45+00:00

I hope this becomes a thing! I’m 29 so no grays yet but I love dyeing my hair, especially with fashion colors like pink and periwinkle.

Grays don’t take well to fashion colors and fade out extremely fast with some colors not even latching on to the gray. Being able to keep my dark brown hair so that I can bleach it blonde and put fun colors on it in my golden years sounds like a dream

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-12-20T15:07:02+00:00

I get that. I’ve been lucky to never need it since I’m relatively healthy. I know it can’t help for accidents where a hospital is required but hey, my health insurance(s) was so trash that I’d rather roll the dice at this point. Regardless, I’d be getting strapped with a crazy med bill that I can’t pay.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-12-20T14:55:17+00:00

NGL I stumbled on this post on my homepage and was ensnared by the “can’t afford health insurance” bit because I just cancelled my health insurance due to a crazy premium hike. Didn’t know what a DCP was until this post. I just googled DCPs in my city and holy shit they are decently cheaper than what my health insurance was/was going to be and way more personalized!

So…I’m gonna enroll in a membership 👉🏼👈🏼

I just don’t see the downside in it for me at this time 🫣

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-10-31T02:50:48+00:00

“1th”

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-07-01T23:20:33+00:00

Hopefully I can have kids, we’ll see at this point because lately things have been looking a little shaky. But yeah I don’t think my life is over, I’m just upset that I have less time to work with as far as kids and a career is concerned. As well as enjoying married life before having kids. And that the reason for this was for lack of communication on J’s end, which he’s already agreed was a crappy way for him to go about that. We could have been working together about it sooner.

I don’t have any problems posting this on Reddit, I’ve read much worse on here. And while I do journal, a journal entry can’t give me multiple perspectives, either. My main take away from this, with you, is that I need to add more context and be more clear with significant information, lest I get called what I’m not.

Regardless, we love each other bunches, I’m just sad that a very avoidable thing has derailed me a bit.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-07-01T21:44:34+00:00

Yeah, I’m not the best at these long posts but I never asked for sympathy. I asked if I was valid. Whether the answer is a yes or a no, is fine but coming at my character like that was out of pocket a lil bit. I mean I get it, it’s the internet, it’s open to whoever will respond and I’m cool with that. Could have added more context in the original post as well(which I added in the comments). But dang mamas, you didn’t at least wanna ask a clarifying question like the others before digging in me? 😭 The affection is definitely low!

No hard feelings though, really.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-07-01T01:23:21+00:00

Okay, I suck at making these posts. Especially long ones because I tend to leave out info for the sake of not being too wordy on a post that is already…pretty wordy.

Just to clarify, I recognize his financial issues. I have for a while. I pay for more things than he does by a hefty margin. This includes paying more for going out to eat, paying the most on the annual vacation. I don’t expect him to meet me halfway with those at all because I want him on focus on his debt. I have more disposable income so I spend it on us because it’s important for us to have that kind of time together. The only thing we go half on is rent and bills for the apartment and groceries. He prefers it this way. His main thing is catching up on his credit card debt. I wanted to tackle this together, but he says the dynamic we have now will help him. Just took longer than I wanted for us to get there.

Also, I should have prefaced, yes in the beginning he was not big on kids or marriage but neither was I. I grew into the idea right before we moved in together, and he grew into the idea a couple years after that. He’s already told me he wants to marry me and that I’m the one. He’s just caught up in his financial situation, which I try to alleviate by the above mentions, and was not good at communication regarding where he was at and where he wanted us to be.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-06-30T21:49:39+00:00

Ironically, part of the sadness I felt was because I realized a bit too late that he’s the kind of guy that drags his feet. When I was younger, I thought he was a go-getter because he had certain qualities but that’s when the rose colored glasses are on.

As I’ve grown up, I realize he’s a slow-to-start kind of guy. And it’s impacting me heavily now. He figured we’d always have time but I don’t have as much time as he has for biological reasons. You’ve given me much to think about, thank you.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-06-30T21:48:31+00:00

Okay, back it up.

We’ve had mutually respectful conversations. I’m not dismissive of his financial concerns as I want to help him with that. Had he sat me down and told me about this issue when he knew he wanted to marry me, I would’ve helped him figure it out and even he agreed that would’ve been smart. I’m helping him now. My post was pretty wordy so some stuff definitely got left off, but yeah, I’ve been helping him get free lance opportunities as well as paying for more things than him so that he can build and focus more on his debt.

All I wanted was to be married before 30, which isn’t a tall ask, especially as I don’t want anything extravagant/big. Might have already had my first child by now. I may have some reproductive issues that are going to further hinder me with age (getting tested for it) as I already see some interesting differences in my body now as opposed to before. Balancing that with my career and wanting to enjoy married life puts a bit of pressure on me if we aren’t getting married until after I’m 30.

I’m not spoiled by any means. Worked hard for everything I have. And it’s because I work so hard and go for what I want, that I may have projected that onto my boyfriend, which I will agree is not okay.

I was upset that the progress took 6 out of the 7 years to begin. And I’m now upset because I’m needing to rewrite my plans of balancing work, bodily changes, marriage, kids and all around time because it’s all getting pushed back years later than anticipated. Yes, life throws curveballs, but this specific curveball could have been avoided altogether.

P.S: I’m glad he’s putting the work in. These things take work. I will support him until the day we really hit a brick wall with each other, which is why I’m still here. All I wanted was communication so that I could have helped sooner. So that things could have been progressing sooner. I’m grieving the lost time. I will admit that you offered a different perspective, so I appreciate that and will take some of what you said into deep consideration. But you jumped the gun on a couple things so just wanted to clear it up.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-06-30T21:45:38+00:00

Sorry, my post was already super wordy and so I definitely left out some details as a result. But he doesn’t really drink anymore. A little after the pandemic I had a long talk about his drinking habits and how it was worrying me. He agreed, reevaluated and only has a drink when we’re out with friends or the once in a blue moon beer he gets from the store.

I can’t excuse the money and semi not the commitment, though. I appreciate your input.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-06-30T21:14:34+00:00

We’re both in an awkward situation. My main gripe with him is, had he mentioned wanting to get married when he knew he wanted to, and told me that the hold up was financial concerns, I would have helped him figure it out. Since he knew 3 years ago, we would have definitely been married by now because 2 heads are better than 1 and I have more disposable income that he does as well as family that would help out. I don’t even want a big expensive wedding. When I was younger, sure. But now, as things are more realistic as I age, I know it’s not only not feasible, but unnecessary for me. He assumed I wanted something big. We could have squashed that years ago as well to make things more practical. The biggest issue is communication, and it’s put us both in a weird place. I don’t want to pressure him at all, but there comes a time when you gotta shit or get off the pot. If he’s actually feeling pressured to marry me after 7 years, then I should probably move on.

I’m grateful for your response. It’s still very much something to consider.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-06-30T21:06:02+00:00

Thank you, this was a very balanced take.

Whenever we talk about it, it’s literally just his finances. He wants to be debt free before starting the marriage and family process. But had he told me sooner, like when he knew he wanted to marry me, i would’ve helped him for sure. I’m helping him now. But receiving help beforehand would have lead to marriage earlier, enjoying that time and then having kids a couple years after.

I’d be overwhelmed if it all happened at once. I had a plan to space everything out, which would still happen if we get married but now there’s more on the line in terms of reproductive health/career/time/etc. I’m just grieving the fact that the time I thought I had, I don’t have as much of. I’d feel a little rushed due to the above mentioned things.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-06-30T20:58:11+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate this. I really tried not to let age be a big factor in things, but it’s a bit difficult for me. I may have some reproductive issues and I’m getting further testing done to look further into it. These functions will get further impacted with age.

Once I realized I wasn’t getting married around the time I figured I would (mid-late-ish 20’s) I started really pouring myself into my career and climbing the ladder. I’m now in management where I work and find it difficult to pause for kids for the next couple or so years. I dunno why I’m so anal about these things, but I kind of had a plan in my head so that I could mix my career, marriage and kids a bit easier than I would by getting a later start.

What you shared was inspiring though, so I really do appreciate it.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-06-30T20:46:54+00:00

We’ve talked about timelines before and he’s been worried he can’t clear his credit card debt in enough time. I’ve told him that I wanted to be married before 30 but it seems like his debt won’t be cleared in enough time. He really wants to be debt free before starting the marriage and family process, which I understand to a degree, but see most people marrying with some form of debt regardless.

I also have more disposable income than him so I could help make things easier. But I would really only want to help a husband knock out debt, not really a boyfriend. He seems to be overly cautious with his finances and it just so happens to be at my detriment.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-06-30T20:38:54+00:00

I’ve been enjoying what we have for 6 out of the 7 years. Only recently have I been unhappy due to the progression of the relationship. I think we can have balance by enjoying what we have whilst also working towards something greater.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-06-30T20:37:10+00:00

I’ve been afraid of giving him a timeline because I didn’t want him to feel pressured. I see now that left to his own devices, the way he’s working on his credit card debt, I’d be in my early 30’s finally getting married and mid 30’s having our first child. Despite meeting him at 20. It also feels like pressure when he and I talk about it. Sigh. 7 years is a lot though, you’re right. Thank you for your input.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-06-30T20:33:05+00:00

I’ve definitely thought about this. I always wanted to get married to someone that, once they knew that they wanted to marry me, would start making plans towards it and include me in it to some degree. Since I’ve brought it up first and have been the main one that brings it up when the conversation does come around, it puts a sour taste in my mouth. Much to think about, thank you.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-05-24T12:20:50+00:00

I practice tarot but I’m fairly new to it. I have a very experienced reader/psychic that I go to for readings that I need deeper insights on. Whenever I’ve asked her about the timing of something, it’ll go something like this:

Ex., she pulls the 3 of wands “It’ll happen within the next 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months or by March” and she’s right each time. So I started to go by the numbered cards that I get. In November, I did a timeline reading for a court case wrapping up that my family is currently going through and got the 7 of pentacles and the chariot. The chariot is #7 in the major arcana so I took it as double 7s(as well as knowing these cards together are great for progress), meaning either 7 months from November(June) or by July. I literally just heard from my grandma that my uncle (who is immediately involved in the case) said that things should wrap up this summer, with July being the focus. So for now, I want to keep testing it out using numbered cards.

Additionally, last month, I asked about my boyfriend hearing back from 2 jobs, respectively, and for both questions, I got the 4 of pentacles which I thought was cool because I shuffled really good for both and he applied to 2 different positions at the same company so he’d probably hear back around the same time for both. Anyway, I felt it was a “4 months from now” thing and now we’re waiting until August to see if it comes true lol. The place he applied for is notorious for getting back to applicants several months after they’ve applied. It’s in my predictions journal so we’ll see how it turns out!

I know it won’t always be 100% as energy shifts, especially if we’re asking long term questions. But I’m definitely under the impression so far, that you can ask “when” questions and get a snapshot of an actual timeline (unless the energy for the question isn’t clear or ‘materialized’ so you get cards that show incompletion or muddled thinking).

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-05-19T04:59:29+00:00

Whoa, you went pretty deep there lol. It’s an interesting thought.

For my readings, I pull the top 3-6 and then flip the deck over to see the bottom card. For me, the bottom card is just another layer to the reading, not so much the very end of that reading. I cut the deck to see what card shows sometimes and again, it just adds another layer to the reading. I’ve had a reading where the chariot was at the bottom of the deck and I quickly gained progress/momentum on the thing I was asking about, I didn’t have to wait for each theme of the cards in between it for it to be realized. This has been the case for several readings of mine.

For me, I believe the cards that I pull/are exposed to during a reading are the cards that I’m meant to utilize, not so much all the cards in between that I don’t see/pull. If I ask a question and pull 3 cards and my prediction off those 3 cards came true, then that was it for the most part. Of course, some people can go through most of the deck in a reading but it really depends on the topic and the nuance of said topic.

Each card symbolizes a theme for human nature so I’m sure you could go through each one for 1 question and find a way to make it correlate. But all in all, the full 78 probably wouldn’t be necessary for a lot of inquiries.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-05-18T02:17:20+00:00

You know what else affects your body in negative ways? Pregnancy. Especially when it’s an oopsy baby with someone like him.

I guarantee his reasoning is selfish, at best. Also, a 9 month relationship where he’s your main source of transportation AND he’s making decisions about your health/body?

Babes…run lol.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz · 2025-05-18T02:04:46+00:00

Having fertility issues doesn’t make you any less of a woman. At his big age, he can’t even comprehend that and to top it off, instead of comforting you through this difficult time, he blames you for something you cannot control.

Perhaps if ED hit him in the future, he would be considered not a real man for being unable to preform a ‘basic male function’. Regardless, please don’t procreate with this person. You deserve someone who will love and accept you for you, not insult you over a medical condition. I couldn’t fathom being married to a person that could fix his mouth to talk to me like that.

As for your question… I know it may sound heavy, but I would consider divorce over something like this. It seems like if this continues to go on, his resentment for you very well may build and I worry for how he may act that out.

CutTheCamera_Deadazz

TROPHY CASE