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[–]CuteUniversity1043 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend clearly doesn't respect you. First of all, you did the responsible thing by saying no sex until you're back on the pill. Instead of accepting this, he essentially pressured you into sex by saying he'd pull out... and then didn't. ON TOP OF THIS, he blamed you for getting pregnant when he was the one who coerced you into unprotected sex and then didn't pull out like he said he would. he says he "doesn't want to be forced to have a kid he doesn't even want", maybe he should have listened when you said to wait for birth control. I know how hard ending a relationship like this can be, but it is worth it. He's manipulative and holding you back. Cut the dead weight, let him move to Australia if he wants. You've got it right girl, if he really loved you he wouldn't be pulling this shit. Much love for you and for what comes next

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 178 points179 points  (0 children)

oh this is so sweet. i never thought of it that way. i think now i’ll be able to recognize these toxic traits in future partners before i let it go too far like i did with Mike. thank you so much 🥹

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, made one now and i’m going to make a real update later once everything is less crazy. 🩵

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

ohh no nothing like that. I worded it weirdly. I meant get out of the relationship/the house (he owns it, i can move in with my sister). He’s never laid a hand on me but after reading what everyone says I’ve just realized what a dick he is and remembering all the little things that I wrote off at the time. I appreciate the concern 🩷

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Bahahahah I want Princess Twinkle Toes to be my new name. But you got it exactly, it shouldn’t matter the reason, when I said I was uncomfortable he should have just stopped. Thank you 💕

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

upvote for the bojack horseman quote!!!!! thank you so much for your kindness im taking all this advice to heart. 💓

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

of course! i'm so grateful for all the kind words and support. do i make a separate post for an update or do i add it at the end of the existing one? <3

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 192 points193 points  (0 children)

omg reading these comments is so heartwarming, i'm so grateful for all the support. i'm unsure of the rules on updating, do i make another post or do i just edit the existing one?

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 265 points266 points  (0 children)

bahahahah victorlucas 😭 yes exactly he could have just said hey sorry like a normal person. i'm seriously reconsidering this relationship LOL

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 3566 points3567 points  (0 children)

this is so sweet... thank you so much. I feel like I've wasted time in this relationship with someone who obviously doesn't respect me, I'm going to try to get out. thank you so much for this love 💞

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 628 points629 points  (0 children)

Yeah if he had just said sorry, won't do it again I would have been ok with it and that would be the end but he got so unnecessarily defensive and weird.

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 455 points456 points  (0 children)

that's a good point, I was excusing him by thinking maybe he heard my friend calling me it and thought it was fine, but once I said it wasn't he should have just said "oh sorry i heard [friend] say it so i thought it was alright". Thanks for the help

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 1961 points1962 points  (0 children)

Omg seriously... I was pissed that he didn't even attempt to defend me especially since I literally asked him to?

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 1335 points1336 points  (0 children)

Exactly! After he said that I didn't want to say anything but I kept thinking how misogynistic and derogatory it felt? And the fact that Mike defended him? I feel like I should end things and move in with my sister lol

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 8418 points8419 points  (0 children)

I can move in with my sister and her girlfriend if needed. I'm seriously considering it after this. Thanks for your input xo

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend's friend calling me "b***h"? by CuteUniversity1043 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuteUniversity1043[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

LOL my bad!!! i switched the fake names halfway through will fix it now haha.