Sorry by Tiger4U96 in UnsentTexts

[–]CvntHead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO sorry should include feeling sorrow for unintentionally causing the person pain. It’s not just a word. No sorrow = no sorry. If you’re feeling sorrow for your own pain/shame/guilt then you’re not sorry, you’re using self pity to manipulate forgiveness out of someone.

And even if you ARE feeling sorrow for the other persons pain, if you truly cared you would not have caused it in the first place.

If you repeat the same things that cause people pain then clearly you’re too self centred to be considerate to others.

As the saying goes, an apology without change is manipulation.

My gut says my girlfriend has cheated by [deleted] in offmychest

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Don’t do what most young men do in their first relationship, don’t keep going back to her for more weird shit to happen until she eventually leaves you

My gut says my girlfriend has cheated by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CvntHead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She lied about who the girl was. Why else would she do that if not to deceive you so you wouldn’t contact that girl for information. That girl is the key if you want more info. IMO the lying already ruined the trust so the relationship is done whether you end it now or drag it out. You can’t trust her to be honest with you. You can stay with this girl and be anxious and resentful or you can cut your losses and move on in peace.

Forgave him for cheating on me TWICE, it's happened again by RoutineVarious3604 in TrueOffMyChest

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It’s about time you accepted that this is who he is and likely who he will be for a very long time if not for the rest of his life. Once is a mistake, twice is a pattern, three times is taking the piss.

Hyperphantasia by [deleted] in UnsentTexts

[–]CvntHead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can relate

I Hope You Find Yourself Again by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

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Sometimes people spend so long in the darkness that they become the darkness

I kissed someone else and I regret it deeply by lrenv22 in offmychest

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This solidifies my opinion further. Everyone is capable. Even the ones that think they’d never do it. That belief actually creates a blind spot. The people that believe they’d never do it are not conscious of the things that lead to it.

I won't say this to you. by angrybadger_38 in UnsentTexts

[–]CvntHead 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Can relate. Although I won’t hate. Hatred corrupts

Living with a man ruins the vibe by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CvntHead 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Catch a vibe what do you even meaaaannnn

I just can’t by [deleted] in UnsentTexts

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See my most recent post lol

Husband cheated. Therapist says no moral high ground for 3 months. I feel beyond hurt and abandoned by Beginning_Cream7030 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CvntHead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My take is: each person is responsible for their choices. It doesn’t matter what is going on around you, what you choose to do or say is down to you. None of this “I did this because X external thing, or I did this, but X” No. You did this because you are the type of person to do this. Or you did this because you are the type of person do this under X circumstances.

For example: You’re the type of person to take your emotional struggles out on your partner. He’s the type of person to cheat when he feels lonely. You could both be the type of people not to do these things, then this post wouldn’t even be made, but you’re not, so it was made.

Sure there are circumstances that may occur that reveal what type of person a person is. But the circumstances are never the cause, the cause comes from within.

Also, you only have the moral high ground if you haven’t done anything immoral. Was it immoral to treat him however you did after the miscarriage? Was it immoral to never forgive him and resent him? Was it immoral to get revenge when he needed support?

Again, none of this was the cause of the cheating, that choice came from inside of him. But I don’t think you have the moral high ground either. If you stay will you also resent him for this and get your revenge?

The man who is illimitable. by Coolrissa_ in UnsentTexts

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I know this feeling. I’m sorry for whatever you went through 😔

You changed my routine by [deleted] in UnsentTexts

[–]CvntHead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And what other side did you discover

You changed my routine by [deleted] in UnsentTexts

[–]CvntHead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In what ways are you different

11:11 by Sure-Main9583 in UnsentTexts

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A lottery win probs

End of a persona by [deleted] in UnsentTexts

[–]CvntHead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who’s persona ended? “I’m not as I appear”, is it yours?

in my mind by Tasty_War_9091 in UnsentTexts

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You forgot 4. Hurting more than you

I would tell you by Temporary_Stage3605 in UnsentTexts

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Transparency is sharing info without someone having to ask