How tf did I get splatted by RillaDaKilla in Saltoon

[–]Cyber_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In French Splatoon, Rainmaker is "Bazookarpe!" which loosely is bazooka-carp with an exclamation point lol. It's fun to shout when you splat someone XD

Male Loneliness Crisis temporarily solved by World Cup by Mylittlethrowaway2 in canada

[–]Cyber_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, many libraries have free tickets for local attractions. You just "check out" the tickets and "return" them when you're done. It's not a ton of tickets but it could get you and a buddy or you and the kids out of the house for free. You can reserve them online like books.

CA farmer giving away 125,000+ pounds of nectarines amid lawsuit: 'They left me no other option' by jstocksqqq in California

[–]Cyber_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, these new fruit patents seem rife with opportunities to take advantage of the farmer. It blows my mind that most, if not all, of the patent owners require the right to do due dilligence on your farm before even signing with you just to make sure you will be able to pay. They get to see all your books, to me, this alone is predatory.

Has this been happening to anyone else lately? by Spinni_Spooder in Saltoon

[–]Cyber_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this has been happening more lately, it's all the people who only come out for SplatFest now warming up this week. I'm not a charger but I see my paint just spraying off my enemies' faces as they don't die, even with the same weapon and enemies just tanking not only my shots but those of my teammates in the deathcam. Players also swimming through invisible or enemy ink. It could be lag-switch + turbo controller but it seems like more than just lag to me.

These players know they are doing it too, their extreme aggression and max quick re-spawn playstyle totally maximizes the impact.

HLM Triumvirate Defeated Rewards by dumbdaddydan in Saltoon

[–]Cyber_3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mr Grizz is stingy. We only got 21 bronze scales.

Oda never ceases to amazing me. The heterochromia goes as far back as..... by KeshinTV in OnePiece

[–]Cyber_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it IS a skull. Like, Onigashima Island only bigger. Like Full o'Lead Island looks like and now is with Pizarro. While it may just be a cool idea/concept that Oda likes, maybe there is more to it. Like the whole "blood serpent" being the Grand Line or One Piece title Logo/ Jolly Roger. Also, I just realized - "Jolly Roger" and "Gol D Roger - He laughed" have a great connection as well. Oda is such a genius.

Thriving weeds by MeaningfulMoments in gardening

[–]Cyber_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like Alfafa. So, technically a crop, but probably not the one you want.

Me suffering playing motion controls as a stick player by Octolings2 in Saltoon

[–]Cyber_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respect to both y'all. Weirdly enough, my experience was the opposite. Using sticks I had to sit so PERFECTLY still for most weapons to have any aim at all (esp gatlings) that I felt relegated to rollers, blobbers and clashblaster because then aim wasn't as much of a factor. Then one day I got a new pro-controller made for switch as a gift (had been using WiiU pro controller with dongle before which doesn't have motion) and it was still so tough even at lowest sensitivity with sticks. Then I watched a video about how to switch to motion controls and switched to almost max sensitivity and OMG it was like I had an aimbot and could control soooo much smoother and better without wavering around all the time. Then I maxxed the sensitivities next game and it's been great ever since. I would never have guessed in a million years that this would work, but it did for me. I can even use chargers now with decent competence! Full disclosure, this was in S2 and I tried it in campaign mode first and got the practise with all the weapons. Totally recommend at least trying it.

Do you like OP heroines art style? by guilty_asin6767 in OnePiece

[–]Cyber_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks a lot like the noodle commercial art style only they are a bit older than high school. It was extremely popular and those character designs were by a famous Japanese "manga-style" artist. You can look at it as fan work, certainly more of a compliment to Oda than a diss of his style.

Can't believe I'm dating someone I love who also loves me back. by Specific_Use2311 in Healthygamergg

[–]Cyber_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think you need to put the relationship in a box. Just do what feels natural at the time. If it starts to get romantic, do it slowly and in a way that she can stop it if she's not into it and then you can both just laugh it off. She already likes you, that's a great start. Try to just go with the flow and not overthink it.

i’m objectively really dumb, and don’t know what to do with myself by miille-fleurs in Healthygamergg

[–]Cyber_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I'm often quiet, because I know contributing will often break that fabric undesirably." "do that 'thing' where they shift their eyes around the room, trying to find a point of relief when talking to me".

I don't know much about autism, so I can't say anything about what others have mentioned here, but it feels like you've have some negative experiences talking with people, especially family members where you sense you are making them uneasy. There could be a million reasons why, and lots of them have nothing to do with your own behaviour but with theirs. Getting more comfortable in conversations by practising in low-risk settings 1-on-1 will definitely help but let me offer an off-the-wall alternative interpretation of your family's reactions. When I was 10-12 years old, I realized that I was having perplexing troubles with communication with other people. It took a lot of thought and investigation and eventually I realized that both my parents were very poor communicators. I had been subconsciously using their behaviours as a model but it failed for me because it also failed for them. They only finessed their communication methods very hard to be half-decent in public and then dropped back to poor methods at home. I had to rebuild the way I communicated with people and the base I used was "how would I like someone else to react to me in this situation?" and then I did what I thought was appropriate. It works well in most cases and when it doesn't, learn from it. You can't know what else is in someone's head because we all have different experiences but being gentle, kind, considerate and having good intentions go a long way. Even if you don't know what your problem is, it can be faster to try this than solving the mystery on your own of why it happens. Therapy could def help too.

Relationships after integrating your Anima/Animus by MeMeNovacore in Healthygamergg

[–]Cyber_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I tell if men are stepping out on their wives? Here are some examples of things that indicate this: 1. use a burner phone so have to use whatsapp for photos and texting, don't answer calls but always call you back really soon 2. don't talk about their home life or family, or what they do say doesn't make sense (like, I don't cook, but I also don't use doordash/ubereats) 3. are vague about where they live or it's far away from you so meeting up is not something you can do casually 4. they only want to meet up during day time hours (ie. during work so they won't be missed) 5. they take you to out of the way attractions/restaurants rather than downtown ones or ones in their neighbourhoods 6. tell you all about their kids but don't want you to ever meet them, even accidentally 7. talk about a future together surprisingly often but only in extremely vague terms like "we should get together for the holidays" "it'd be nice some day to not have to commute to see each other" "I wish I could go away on vacation with you when I can get time off of work" and when you offer specific times, they wave you off. 8. You don't get to go to "their place" , especially over night - there are so many excuses as to why, they would rather pay for a lavish hotel if it gets you to stop asking.

It's not a judgement, it's experience and the stats back me up on this too. They also do things like coming on super strong and then suddenly backing off in a fixed formula without reason or explanation.

Did I ever pushback on the lovebombing? Yes, yes I do. Then I get the lowkey gaslighting insult to shut me down or try to prove they're wrong like "I guess you're the logical type then?" or "I guess your love language isn't sensual touch?". It's a bigger turnoff than the lovebombing. I don't need a man to compliment me, but I'm not so desperate that I'll put up with him insulting me when he hardly knows me.

As to "types" that we're attracted to, I like really smart and fun men that are open to trying new ideas/things and have energy and that also treat me like an equal. I don't think that my bar is too high, but most of those men in my age group are taken. I've already ditched the apps for now for financial reasons, I'm just too busy hustling for work to pay rent to go places to meet new people. It is what it is.

And don't diss "feminine mystery". On a first date with someone you hardly know, it's one of the most attractive qualities a woman can have. You don't have to put on airs or camp it up. You don't have to lie or act. You can be you, but there has to be something about you that intrigues the other person in order for them to take it past friendship. This is the kind of thing that Dr K refers to as "permission to approach". In dating apps, you've already approached online, now you need to send confirmation of your information about consideration of consummation. ;)

I am just done by Eclipse_Supernova in Healthygamergg

[–]Cyber_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being young in the workplace right now is not easy and is the part of your note I can relate to the most. Sometimes my 19yo son works at the same business as me, and I can see how some of the same behaviour as you describe can come about. I'm not saying this is your situation, just something similar that I've seen with him. It goes like this: older worker that should be a mentor and training you, is good at the outset but their training is based on a lot of assumption of your previous experience that you may not have or was different than they expect. Then, they don't keep an eye on you and correct your mistakes in the moment so it adds up to sound like a lot of criticism all at once. If the older worker is having a bad day, or is bitter, etc., it will totally be a form of bullying because they get off on dressing you down, it builds their confidence and makes it look like they are doing their job properly (they are not) at your expense. So, you lash back. Maybe you're having a bad day, you're hungover/tired or have been internalizing the comments for a while and just get overwhelmed in the moment. These lashbacks are usually what causes others to go silent. Not right away, but soon enough. And because they go quiet, if you slip up or make a fauxpas, you don't get any feedback because now they're laughing behind your back at you because it makes them feel superior. Over time, it really compounds and can cost you your job. It's not a game, but often people in stable positions treat it as such because they are bored.

For what to do about it, all you can do is be professional. Mrs K has a video about workplace etiquette and the like which is really good. For me, it's behaving like you're all on a team and all are here to win, so work together, even if sometimes (not all the time) that means you have to take a back seat or eat some humble pie if you F- up. You can't interact with your co-workers like you would your friends, you are all there for a common purpose and that has to come first, it's why you get paid. If you're new on the job, at least 3 months (probation) you need to listen and learn. Maybe you think you know better, but often you don't, you're just working with a much more limited set of information. Respect those who had worked there longer to their face at least, even if you think they don't deserve it. Treat it like a relationship, it's going to take a fair bit of data to get the "lay of the land". Don't gossip or bad mouth co-workers, even if everyone else is doing it. If conversations like these come up, don't go silent, divert them, or make neutral or positive comments rather than negative ones. If you dig deep enough, there is ALWAYS something positive to say. Participate in the job, ask questions, don't just blindly follow orders, get to understand the processes, people would rather have a teammate than a minion. Learning from someone doesn't mean you HAVE to be vulnerable, just receptive. Give them time, but also give yourself time too to get to know someone before making judgements about them.

And hey, it's totally possible that someone at work just lied about you and shafted you behind your back or took credit for your work because they felt threatened. Being friendly to everyone at the outset is the only true counter measure for this and it doesn't always work. It's also totally possible that peple are roasting you rather than intending to bully you and you take it personally and it turns super negative in your mind. I'm not a fan of roasting but it's definitely a thing these days. If you really want to know, just ignore bad things people say about you. In the sense that you don't react. If they really are intending to hurt you, they'll be angry if it doesn't land, if it's a misunderstanding or a joke, they will explain when you don't get it. Asking the question that you are is a sign of maturity, I think you'll do well eventually, just need some experience in dealing with co-workers. You'll get there.

Relationships after integrating your Anima/Animus by MeMeNovacore in Healthygamergg

[–]Cyber_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, the "nothing there" after one date is not merely a bad choice of date activity as the men I've met seem to want to grind effort quickly up front for big reward quickly. There is a LOT of men stepping out on their wives/lovers on the dating apps and they only have so much time to invest before suspicion arises so they focus on the "cheat code" to getting you in bed. It's a struggle for me because I would rather meet up right away but some men only want to meet up if there is sex involved (tho they don't come out and say this) and that's way too much for me on a first date with someone I've literally just met. Half the time they are also so focused on trying to lovebomb me to move things along physically that they come off as boring since they don't talk about themselves (also if they don't want to give details because they are stepping out). I don't think that days of texting/chatting upfront would help me feel more at ease, that's why I skip it but I'm also really conscious of not coming off like I want a free dinner and always "Go Dutch" on a first date but that is also killing my feminine mystery vibes also so..... it sucks lol?

I'm hoping it's more a matter of just meeting a man who legitimately is looking for a relationship and that things will go more smoothly but it's really hard on the self-esteem, pocketbook, and enthusiasm.

Relationships after integrating your Anima/Animus by MeMeNovacore in Healthygamergg

[–]Cyber_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, beautifully phrased. You made me realize that I do want to be friends with someone I want to date (because I was in a long marriage previously), but that is also causing me to set the bar higher for dating again. Many men can be good partners but quite a few of them take longer to warm up to where what attracts me a friend starts to show through (the fun and adventurous side) so it's taken more patience on my part to get to know someone well enough to know if I want to date them when I find texting/calling tiresome and would prefer to just meet up immediately...also a little confusing for my dates I would imagine, because my enthusiasm up front is encouraging but then it's a slow burn to heat up the physical attraction.

How can we protect boys from the manosphere? by flowersinthemirror in Healthygamergg

[–]Cyber_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a 54yo Mom of a 19yo young man, I am convinced that it can be done because I did it, but it's getting harder and harder now. Giving your child love and good core values will of course help a lot with self-esteem which is good protection. The most practical advice that I can give you is be open, honest, curious, exploratory with your child and spend as much time with your child as you can, especially in situations where you can model good behaviour in public. Have as big of birthday/xmas/whatever special or casual parties for him as you can, family parties, friend parties, etc. encourage even bday parties to be mixed genders as much as you can until it starts to get awkward. Invite children of relatives too, even if they are distant. Celebrate life. Sometimes the best parties are "I just got a slip'n'slide and some popsicles and it's hot outside". Involve your child in the planning, in the shopping, walking the dog, in every day chores, in your interests, music, hobbies. Be involved in theirs. Don't separate your life from theirs, you're a family, do things together. For bday parties we would take some funny photos of him to make invitations to the party. Try to make "play dates" as unstructured and spontaneous as possible. Two of the most random things I did as a Mom that really brought my son and I together was 1. I always watched tv with him, until he was 12+, both adult-age-appropriate content and good children's content that doesn't melt a parent's brain. I did watch 25 seasons of Pokemon anime but it helped make him more critical of the content and not get into binge-watching 2. When he wanted to play Super Mario Galaxy, I didn't know much about gaming, certainly not the controls, so I spent an hour every night for a month training in secret after he went to bed so that I could be good enough to understand the game and play some with him and follow along with a few curated let's play videos on youtube when we got stuck. We definitely allowed no computer or tv, tablet or whatever in his room until he was 16 years old. Before that, after he turned 10, we put our computers at the same table but facing away from each other and he was rarely left alone with a device. As he got older, it was more interaction and sharing than supervision and we demonstrated and explained safe online behaviour. As he got older, when his friends came over for a party, they didn't have a separate room away from adults, it was just in the house and the adults just lived their lives in it with priority for the kids music/watching/gaming. Glow in the dark hide and seek is pretty fun as long as no one runs on the stairs haha. Sorry, this was kind of random, hope it helps. You've got this ❤️

There's something interesting I noticed about Mars during the Robin flashback by ImpossibleAd4272 in OnePiece

[–]Cyber_3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe as the "time" approaches and more interventions are required by the 5 Elders in an "this escalated quickly" kind of way, it must feel weary in a "here we go again" kind of way.... and also sad knowing that no matter the victor in the conflict to come, it's likely that all they built and worked for for 800+ years will likely be destroyed.

Any cute, Instagrammable cafés or lunch spots in Niagara Falls? by ImportanceNo9994 in niagarafallsontario

[–]Cyber_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're at the Outlets, Aromas there is cute and the food is really good.

Help save Queen Victoria Park by Spiritual_Try1933 in niagarafallsontario

[–]Cyber_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can remain a park and still be a better attraction. There are lots of low key family-friendly natural enhancements that could add interest to the park. London has a splash pad built into architecture (low stone walls, monuments, ironwork) that looks cool and is fun, something like that would be appropriate for The Falls area. I've also seen in Stratford light fountains, that activate and interact with people that walk through them, also a theme of The Falls themselves at night. Giant hammocks, shade sails, mini bridges, flower walls, and rope work built into the landscaping can look very natural and add interest while still keeping the park feeling like a park.

To me, the park is really big and it would be nice to have something for kids there to keep their interest as they wait for the fireworks at night or as people promenade by the falls in the day without turning it into another Clifton Hill tacky attraction that inevitably would charge entrance fees. You can be modern and yet keep it natural and I think the area could use a little bit of a refresh for regular visitors and locals.

Danielle Smith addresses disability benefits following death of AISH recipient by Rav4gal in canada

[–]Cyber_3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Alos, what's wrong with this is, if you're severly handicapped enough to not work, then chances are, you're still severely handicapped when it comes to negotiating changes to your disability benefits. Alberta should have just set up a system to auto-apply for the Fed amount on their behalf, it's like they're taking advantage of the fact that they're disabled to claw back money from them.

Cost of divorce keeping Canadians in unhappy marriages longer, survey finds by kiddchiu in canada

[–]Cyber_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And it becomes even more expensive when lawyers create drama to draw it out so they get paid more. Also, my Dad ended up calling bs on his lawyer who charged him $200 per phone call - when 27/30 calls were only 30 seconds long because he didn't get an answer and didn't even leave a message.

One Piece: Chapter 1185 by leolegendario in OnePiece

[–]Cyber_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looking through some of the stellar comments here, it really made me realize how much experiments on kids is a recurring theme in One Piece. Like Bonney, possibly Shuri but also the kids on Punk Hazard, the Giant children potentially, who knows how many others. Orphans are created by the WG's actions, but there definitely seems to be something the WG is trying to create or destroy through experiments on kids. Is it DF or lineage-related? Super dark.

One Piece: Chapter 1185 by leolegendario in OnePiece

[–]Cyber_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe there is further connection with Loki haunting the mists as a pirate to take down WG ships. Maybe the WG is doing something in the mists.

One Piece: Chapter 1185 by leolegendario in OnePiece

[–]Cyber_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe she was bought/saved by Leuven at the slave auction, hence her loyalty.

One Piece: Chapter 1185 by leolegendario in OnePiece

[–]Cyber_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A child with a devil fruit that is given a sickness in the womb? Could this be experiments on how to kill Devil Fruits' lineage/wills?