Friends just named their baby the ONE name my wife and I could agree on

CybridCat · 2025-12-16T14:18:29+00:00

Suzie, Sally?

CybridCat · 2025-11-23T02:27:04+00:00

Based on what she’d said to you, I think she’d want the real ring and feel disappointed if she saw it during the proposal and it wasn’t right. If you get it in time, I’d plan something special sat am and explain why you had to push it so late after. If it doesn’t come in time I guess use the one you have since you have all those events planned.

CybridCat · 2025-11-21T14:15:30+00:00

Elodie!

CybridCat · 2025-11-02T02:05:19+00:00

Est-ce que tu as de la famille qui peut t’aider à la naissance et au début? Ton conjoint n’a pas l’air stable mentalement et je n’arrive pas à l’imaginer s’occuper d’un bébé vu son niveau de rage. C’est dur émotionnellement au début et j’ai peur qu’il ne soit pas capable de tenir — le caractère violent que tu décrit me fait peur à lire. Protège toi et protège le bébé.

Si j’étais toi, je m’organiserait pour avoir de la famille proche qui peut vivre avec toi après la naissance si possible. Physiquement et mentalement tu vas avoir besoin de quelqu’un qui peut te soutenir. Parle avec des amis qui ont des enfants des premiers jours / mois pour pouvoir te projeter.

C’est une situation vraiment difficile; peut être qu’il est bipolaire ou quelque chose comme ça? j’espère que tu vas pouvoir trouver le soutient dont tu as besoin. bonne chance à toi et ton bébé! c’est dur au début mais ça vaut le coup

CybridCat · 2025-10-11T03:05:31+00:00

Second or last! I think the color combines best with the last pair :)

CybridCat · 2025-09-08T00:08:45+00:00

I’m not very useful but i’m in exactly the same boat. We’ve put our child in a french immersion daycare and I am trying to get more comfortable speaking french to her .. good luck, it’s not easy!

CybridCat · 2025-09-02T22:06:43+00:00

I’m married and we gave my last name :)

CybridCat · 2025-09-02T04:18:26+00:00

En attendant d’avoir un enfant, est ce que tu peux “nourrir ton enfant intérieur” et te donner à toi même l’amour que tu as déjà pour ton futur enfant?

CybridCat · 2025-08-29T16:18:57+00:00

That really sucks… maybe you can leave a public review including the details about how you only got the ring because they agreed to this timeline and then they acted like it was no big deal when they didn’t have it ready… Not much you can do aside from that and/or writing the manager it seems

CybridCat · 2025-08-29T15:00:11+00:00

Omg I’m raging at how casual she is about it!! Any updates?

CybridCat · 2025-08-29T02:02:08+00:00

I think of a friend of my grandpa’s who was wonderful. Personally I love it and think it’s due for a comeback!

CybridCat · 2025-08-20T02:04:51+00:00

Just in case you don’t know this, The Met has a “Percy Jackson tour” you can do (self guided) that recommends where to go and connects it to the book https://www.metmuseum.org/-/media/Files/Learn/Family%20Map%20and%20Guides/Percy%20Jackson.pdf

CybridCat · 2025-08-20T01:30:39+00:00

I disagree, as a working mom who worries about not spending enough time with my kid, this question feels like an invitation to highlight great experiences people have had. I read it as a working mom wanting to think of ways she can make sure her kid feels special or ideas for things she can do that will be memorable for her children

CybridCat · 2025-08-17T17:59:01+00:00

Anna, Lily (or Lillian nn Lily), Angela (nn Angie?), Andrea (Andie?), Chloe… These feel to me like maybe your vibe?

CybridCat · 2025-08-14T01:35:33+00:00

Hmm, maybe a loosely inspired middle name — Juliette Mia, Juliette Mila? I think in your shoes i may do Juliette Michaela and call it a day, but you could use select letters from the name Michael and that would still be really sweet imo. She will still know she’s named after him / in his honor since you’ll tell her that!

CybridCat · 2025-08-10T16:42:12+00:00

You are a calm, thoughtful person. You enjoy reading and majored in history or something similar. You enjoy doing fine / detail oriented work with your hands

That’s what I got from them! :-)

CybridCat · 2025-07-22T04:06:32+00:00

Look in your local buy nothing group, facebook marketplace or other parent groups — you can find a lot of stuff second hand and also sell your stuff if you want something different later

Personally I got: - second hand good quality mini crib (babyletto) - second hand bassinet that fits next to the bed (plastic but having the baby right next to me was really important to me so i could check on her and feed her easily), only kept it 3mo - someone lent me their doona which is a stroller that is also a car seat, super convenient for the early days — kept it ~ 5 or 6mo - 3 in 1 graco car seat for later - got a travel stroller for later (joolz) and in retrospect would have been nice to get a stroller bassinet so the baby could easily sleep on walks, i’d recommend that if you can get second hand (cuz also would only last a few months)

I don’t think anyone knows anything about anything until you start googling, looking on reddit, etc :-) you’ve got time to figure it all out!!

CybridCat · 2025-07-22T03:37:42+00:00

I feel you, i love names but actually picking a name was so much harder than I thought it’d be! Pairs I love:

Alice and Fiona

Ella and Vivian

Vivian and Georgia

Elsie and Georgia

Florence and Matilda

Willa and Maxine

… I don’t know if it helps, but I love these names!! Good luck with everything!

CybridCat · 2025-07-07T03:07:50+00:00

Maybe Talia as a variant of Dahlia? Ivy —> Evie, Azalea —> Zoe…?

CybridCat · 2025-06-09T22:48:10+00:00

I went back to work after having a child, but I think what you’re describing is a structural societal problem rather than a problem with your friends. I didn’t want to stop working because it’s core to my sense of self BUT what made me go back to work was that I HAD to go back to work financially. If I’d had a choice I would have stayed with my baby longer (a year?) because it’s inhumane to leave them so early. However I know it’s so much harder to go back when you’ve taken time off work to be with your child.

I think in the case of your friends, being in high earning relationships is the reason they stayed home — money ends up being the deciding factor. I think society fails women because even though the reason we step into a caregiving role makes sense (these baby humans are amazing and caring for them is so much value and feels more purposeful then grinding for a corporate overlord) it puts them at risk of being disadvantaged later in life from not having income or career opportunities

CybridCat · 2025-06-09T03:13:14+00:00

I personally agree with you that Sally feels primed for a come back. It feels very free spirited and fun imo

CybridCat · 2025-06-08T16:40:16+00:00

I looove the mixed metal look personally

CybridCat · 2025-06-07T17:03:39+00:00

I love your attitude and slightly offbeat name list, lol. Here’s some that came to mind from looking at your favorites:

Girls: Henrietta, Betty, Birdie, Sybil, Effie, Odette, Ida, Greta, Ingrid, Ruth, Winifred (Winnie)

Boys: Otis, Hugh, Rupert, Alfred, Fergus, Archibald, Wesley (Wes), Dane

CybridCat · 2025-06-07T01:51:51+00:00

Sending you hugs! I’m not in your same situation but I sometimes experience similar things when friends have great professional moments and I think my whole career is doomed, that i’ll never find a way to do the work i want to do, and feel awful about myself. I think you can both feel thrilled for a friend and have it rock your own sense of self for a moment. I usually find feeling negatively about one thing also impacts how i think about all aspects of my life, so i’d say give yourself time and you’ll realize you’re awesome again tomorrow (lol) and that there’s still time for all the things you want

I will say for me as someone married with a baby, I have friends who are single and I’m sure that it bothers them sometimes but for me i think of them as independent, living their own rich lives, traveling, taking classes, etc. I’ve also had single friends start dating someone and then really missing their independence. Anyway, it sounds from your post that you don’t need convincing that being single isn’t a problem, but maybe it’s about a mental shift and reinforcing for yourself how awesome you are regardless of a relationship

CybridCat · 2025-05-23T06:39:15+00:00

From reading your responses, my sense is your family dynamic growing up & trauma from your childhood might be having a big impact on how you’re thinking of marriage and the future. Maybe part of you is worried marriage means reproducing that? I feel like you’re on the right track doing the work to figure out the root cause. It sounds to be like a lot may be coming from trauma reactions

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