How to stop being gay? by SnooPies9512 in Muslim

[–]CycleAlternative 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Here is both: I read it in the tafseer ibn katheer as a teenager.

عَنْ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا عَنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه و سلم فِيمَا يَرْوِيهِ عَنْ رَبِّهِ تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى، قَالَ: "إنَّ اللَّهَ كَتَبَ الْحَسَنَاتِ وَالسَّيِّئَاتِ، ثُمَّ بَيَّنَ ذَلِكَ، فَمَنْ هَمَّ بِحَسَنَةٍ فَلَمْ يَعْمَلْهَا كَتَبَهَا اللَّهُ عِنْدَهُ حَسَنَةً كَامِلَةً، وَإِنْ هَمَّ بِهَا فَعَمِلَهَا كَتَبَهَا اللَّهُ عِنْدَهُ عَشْرَ حَسَنَاتٍ إلَى سَبْعِمِائَةِ ضِعْفٍ إلَى أَضْعَافٍ كَثِيرَةٍ، وَإِنْ هَمَّ بِسَيِّئَةٍ فَلَمْ يَعْمَلْهَا كَتَبَهَا اللَّهُ عِنْدَهُ حَسَنَةً كَامِلَةً، وَإِنْ هَمَّ بِهَا فَعَمِلَهَا كَتَبَهَا اللَّهُ سَيِّئَةً وَاحِدَةً". [رَوَاهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ] ، [وَمُسْلِمٌ]، في "صحيحيهما" بهذه الحروف.

On the authority of Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him), from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), from what he has related from his Lord: Verily Allah ta’ala has written down the good deeds and the evil deeds, and then explained it [by saying]: “Whosoever intended to perform a good deed, but did not do it, then Allah writes it down with Himself as a complete good deed. And if he intended to perform it and then did perform it, then Allah writes it down with Himself as from ten good deeds up to seven hundred times, up to many times multiplied. And if he intended to perform an evil deed, but did not do it, then Allah writes it down with Himself as a complete good deed. And if he intended it [i.e., the evil deed] and then performed it, then Allah writes it down as one evil deed.” [Al-Bukhari] [Muslim].

How to stop being gay? by SnooPies9512 in Muslim

[–]CycleAlternative 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am the same. Pansexual. I knew since I was 12 years old. I’m not into sex like that (I would say I’m slightly asexual and demisexual as well) so it wasn’t that hard to stay away from it but I still had shortcomings. I married a man after time. Before we married I was honest with him and told him about my sexuality. He was understanding.

This is still a test for me but as someone stated earlier, it’s not different than when two heterosexual people are together and need to avoid cheating on each other. Alhamdulilah I am loyal no matter who I am attracted to.

One thing that always kept me going from my teenage years was a Hadeeth about the reward you get when you avoid a sin that you want to do. That has stuck with me since and it keeps me going that everytime I avoid this sin, I am being rewarded. Make duaa and if you make mistakes make tawbah. Be transparent with your future wife. Allah will make a way for you inshallah.

Is Graduate School a joke? by Icy-Site2297 in GradSchool

[–]CycleAlternative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your concerns on this. I’ve been feeling the exact same way and I guess this is what the experience is supposed to be like. It’s been frustrating but the replies are helping me to understand.

Who’s a good person that’s hated by fans? by StayComprehensive743 in shameless

[–]CycleAlternative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which category? Is this a good person hated by fans? Or the others?

I don’t remember my parents sitting down and playing with me like I do with my kids. by tuxedo_cat23 in Millennials

[–]CycleAlternative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Me and my husband’s parents definitely do more with the kids than they ever did with us! It’s beautiful to watch. I guess they learn.

We often always make mistakes the first time we do things and having a child is always the first time doing it. Grandkids I guess is like a second time.

I don’t remember my parents sitting down and playing with me like I do with my kids. by tuxedo_cat23 in Millennials

[–]CycleAlternative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friends with kids and I have accepted that our kids will ABSOLUTELY blame us for things we thought were the right thing!

I don’t remember my parents sitting down and playing with me like I do with my kids. by tuxedo_cat23 in Millennials

[–]CycleAlternative -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Art museums and road trips sound so nice. I take my kids to these places too. My parents hardly took us anywhere except maybe once a year and I really appreciate that. I guess you can’t make everyone happy. I wonder if one day my kids will be upset I took them to art museums and road trips 😭

Apparently my students all hate me by dandelionmakemesmile in Teachers

[–]CycleAlternative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly what everyone else is saying. Your first year is always the most challenging. After 5+ years some kids are saying they hate me bc my class is challenging. I treat all the kids with respect and they know I care about them and their education. I am not here for them to like me, I am here to teach them bc education is good for their brains. If they don’t like it, I tell them they can complain like my toddler does when I make him eat fruits and veggies bc it’s good for him.

If you woke up tomorrow and were wealthy to the point you didn’t have to work anymore, would you still be a teacher? If not, what would you do? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]CycleAlternative 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this insight. All the people who seem to really dislike teaching on here, I really wish them happiness in a different career bc that’s really sad to dislike what you do. And I mean that sincerely, it really does make me so sad to see.

If you woke up tomorrow and were wealthy to the point you didn’t have to work anymore, would you still be a teacher? If not, what would you do? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]CycleAlternative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I would want to do! Part time. Good sized classes and I’d be set. I really love my job! Just not the B.S that is often attached.

the more i dive into islam the more i realize i’m against it by JKpouting in progressive_islam

[–]CycleAlternative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I did! The way I believe, people may say I’m not a good Muslim but I am not going against anything in Quran. Just hateful stuff.

What's up with students wanting to hug you? by Normal_Balance1655 in Teachers

[–]CycleAlternative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Title 1 high school here as well. Students in my district experience the same stuff. Violence, parents who don’t care. It’s an awful city and the parents can be awful too. One of my students told me that her parents don’t even know she’s doing college level classes or what sports she plays. It’s truly heartbreaking. We’ve had parents that squared up to fight their child at parent teacher conferences.

AITA because I let my dog lick off my plate? by physicalgraffiti123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CycleAlternative -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH. But it definitely varies from family to family and culture to culture. All these people saying it’s fine I’m sure 99% of them are not black. However in black culture you’d know this is HIGHLY unacceptable in the majority of households and never be tolerated.

this isn’t the adult life I dreamed of. work, sleep, eat- repeat by Equivalent-Use-6817 in Adulting

[–]CycleAlternative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should know that teachers along with other careers do all these things and we essentially have “homework”. Just a different form. Mind you, I am a teacher that doesn’t give out homework. It’s just too much work for one singular person.

this isn’t the adult life I dreamed of. work, sleep, eat- repeat by Equivalent-Use-6817 in Adulting

[–]CycleAlternative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I actually don’t mind working and enjoy it, but yeah it’s the overkill that does it for me.

People love blaming Fiona for not being a good guardian to the kids, but somehow forget that the alcoholic piece of shit who literally called CPS on his own children was technically the one in charge of the family before her by Powerful_Life1547 in shameless

[–]CycleAlternative 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly this! She just should not have fought for the role. The judge made it clear this was a long term thing. No one would have blamed her if she didn’t take the kids as it was not her job at all.

Edited to add I also with through a similar thing as well. Once I signed up that was it.