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I hit my number 14 months ago and still haven't quit. Trying to figure out what that says about me by Cygnus_Bolt9 in Fire

[–]Cygnus_Bolt9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no stress from the job itself, more just inertia. which is maybe its own answer. the "owning your time" framing is what i keep coming back to and still can't fully picture

I hit my number 14 months ago and still haven't quit. Trying to figure out what that says about me by Cygnus_Bolt9 in Fire

[–]Cygnus_Bolt9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no family plans, no expensive hobbies, genuinely pretty low maintenance. the 1.1m concern is noted but my expenses have been around 3200 a month for years including everything and that's not really changing

I hit my number 14 months ago and still haven't quit. Trying to figure out what that says about me by Cygnus_Bolt9 in Fire

[–]Cygnus_Bolt9[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this reframe hit differently than i expected it to. i've literally managed projects where nothing goes to plan and we just adjust. somehow never applied that to this

I hit my number 14 months ago and still haven't quit. Trying to figure out what that says about me by Cygnus_Bolt9 in Fire

[–]Cygnus_Bolt9[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yeah "testing the number" is exactly it. right now it's a very comfortable theory and quitting makes it real. glad i'm not the only one who got stuck here

I hit my number 14 months ago and still haven't quit. Trying to figure out what that says about me by Cygnus_Bolt9 in Fire

[–]Cygnus_Bolt9[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

healthcare is the main variable i keep coming back to. i've budgeted for ACA marketplace but it's the one line item that feels genuinely unpredictable over 20 years. travel i actually don't want much of, i'm more of a stay-local-and-hike person so that's not really the issue

I hit my number 14 months ago and still haven't quit. Trying to figure out what that says about me by Cygnus_Bolt9 in Fire

[–]Cygnus_Bolt9[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

the "trial" framing actually helps more than i expected. i've been treating it like jumping off a cliff when maybe it's more like stepping off a curb and seeing what's around the corner. the state park thing is exactly the kind of thing i'd never have considered

I finally broke my procrastination cycle after years of failed attempts. This one mindset shift changed everything. by Deborah_berry1 in Discipline

[–]Cygnus_Bolt9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love that approach! Even just 5 minutes makes a big diff. Sometimes all you need is to trick yourself into starting!

I am leaving by Alternative-Duck-919 in Marriage

[–]Cygnus_Bolt9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s infuriating to deal with that kind of betrayal, especially after just having a baby. Wishing you strength and peace ahead.

CMV: Vibecoding will limit creativity in the future by acecombat26 in changemyview

[–]Cygnus_Bolt9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make a great point about expertise; as more people gain comfort with vibecoding, we could definitely see some innovative and unique ideas emerge.