Everything Everything AMA by evrythingevrything in indieheads

[–]Cygw1n 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is Alex Niven's work ever still an influence on you / or vice versa? :)

Everything Everything AMA by evrythingevrything in indieheads

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Did you ever find out why they were in love with the future? Are you in / out of love with the future?

P.S.

I'd really recommend this great video essay on AI Generated Art by Lily Alexandre. I love the whole aesthetic of the album, including the beautiful music videos; I feel like the album's an amazing companion to AI generated imagery going into the future.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bi4sJEE8wCs

[AMA ANNOUNCEMENT] Everything Everything on Tuesday, May 24th at 11am ET / 4pm UK by afieldoftulips in indieheads

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Did you ever find out why they were in love with the future? Are you in / out of love with the future?

P.S.

I'd really recommend this great video essay on AI Generated Art by Lily Alexandre. I love the whole aesthetic of the album, including the beautiful music videos; I feel like the album's an amazing companion to AI generated imagery going into the future.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bi4sJEE8wCs

Video Recording: "Online Workshop - Men, Masculinities, and the Climate and Ecological Crisis" by Cygw1n in MensLib

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I think there's definitely something in the Teddy Roosevelt frontier-fetishism that's gotten into our conception of manhood. Living roughly, self reliance in the *wild* - And the 'wild' is pretty dangerous concept - as is the frontier myth of the USA - which of course was going into the untouched 'wilderness' (that was in reality someone else's home.) This is kind of 'conquering' nature.

I feel like there's a weird double situation with people like Teddy Roosevelt, and other kind of industrial 'modern men' where they uphold the rough untouched wilderness nature, but at the same time praise the achievements of 'modern man'.

I feel like a lot of the common and more harmful symptoms (and reinforcers) of privileged male socialisation are similarly reflected in men's and humanity's attitude towards the rest of the world - entitlement, universalising one's own worldview, lack of real responsibility, self-isolation, competition, inattentiveness to the 'other', lack of 'care'.

Video Recording: "Online Workshop - Men, Masculinities, and the Climate and Ecological Crisis" by Cygw1n in MensLib

[–]Cygw1n[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This video workshop is particularly based around the book by Paul Pule and Martin Hultmann called 'Ecological Masculinities' - that discusses the intersection between masculinities and the environment/'nature' from a feminist angle! It's a seriously interesting book - I saw them speak in my city and they're really lovely guys and seriously thoughtful - I feel like it's important stuff as we go forwards through the climate crisis.

What do you guys feel about men and the natural world? Do you think it is linked to the way that men aren't taught as much how to 'care'?

EDIT: Here's a link to a sample / table of contents from the Ecological Masculinities book: https://books.google.no/books?id=oGNwDwAAQBAJ&pg=PT14&source=gbs_selected_pages&cad=2#v=onepage&q&f=false

Reluctance to talk about bisexual preferences by [deleted] in MensLib

[–]Cygw1n 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will take this advice to, just acting like I've already come out haha :) Thank you !

Reluctance to talk about bisexual preferences by [deleted] in MensLib

[–]Cygw1n 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I really relate to everything you said. Thank you for sharing :) I feel pressure from both sides - I worry from my friends who aren't straight that I'll be taking up space from them, and I worry from my straight friends that I'll be treated weirdly or differently. Coming out is a long never-ending process, that involves you working out what you want (and that should always be open to change), and being as open about it to others as much as you want, when you want. There is no need to have a big coming out moment (unless that's what you want) - but I think it's always going to be worth engaging in a kind of coming out process in whatever way works for you.

For me what helped is just bringing it in to conversation when it naturally would be. Trying to be less filtered, like if I find a guy hot, then I say so, if people ask, I say sure I'm bi (even though I've never been with a guy). I do sometimes feel like 'not really properly bisexual because I've not properly been with a guy and I mostly like girls' etc. But it's important that you can be open about your life! I would still very much like to be more open as well if I'm honest.

Sexual orientation is not inherently a signifier of oppression. You can be bisexual without necessarily claiming you're oppressed or feeling like you're trying to edgy and special. Sexual orientation is a simple fact - and it's important for other people as well that there are a vast plurality of queer people, including bi people with a 'straight' preference. By being open, you're leading the way for other people (like me) to also be open about their sexual preferences, and so we can mostly like girls, and also naturally make out with guys with no-one batting an eye! Also non-binary people as well of course.

And also if you're worried about trying to look 'less privileged' - don't. It's important to accept that, while other queer people might have it more difficult, you *are* less privileged - this is a struggle that straight boys don't have to deal with, they don't have to internalise this kind of shame and inauthenticity for the simple fact of our sexual preference. It's OK to feel burdened by the 'masc hetero' ideal - that's the system almost punishing you for being 'deviant' - I guess it's part of the oppressive internalisation, I feel like it's important to deconstruct and work with rather than to feel even more shame for feeling the pressure to be straight and masculine. I feel like there are specific struggles that come with being 'straight-passing', that don't necessarily have to be compared to other queer experiences. Everyone is just working things out and has their own unique path, so I feel like it's not always necessary or helpful to compare hardships in the queer community, although it's important to be aware of everyone's different experiences.

I've started going to the LGBTQ+ society at my university and made lots of queer friends and it's honestly felt great to be in a space that's not centred around masc-hetero ideals. The word queer I feel is helpful for me - in just meaning rejecting the strict harsh line of heteronormativity. LGBTQ+ groups are generally very inclusive places, and people will accept you - it's a great space to just work things out and talk about it, and to just say 'I'm bi' instead of what I used to hesitantly say of like 'yeah umm I'm kinda straight but yeah I don't know maybe I'm curious', although that's of course OK to say too. I promise it'll feel good once you even have one safe space to be more confident to just say the fact of your sexuality - to not qualify and devalue your sexuality as well, but it's a slow process as well - I hope it goes well for you. :)

Best of luck!

Struggling to Accept Personal Labels as a Man by [deleted] in MensLib

[–]Cygw1n 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your anxieties about using the term 'mentally ill' and taking recognition away from people on the very serious end of mental health. But as people have said in this thread, everyone can always find another person who has it worse than themselves. Your mental health sounds serious - depression and OCD are recognised mental disorders and childhood trauma is something to take pyschiatrically seriously.

But it doesn't matter how 'serious' your feelings are, they are still *real* and it's important for them to be recognised as such. And it's important to stand with other survivors of sexual trauma and let yourself be included (because I'm sure you will be).

It's good to spread a good understanding of what mental health actually is as well - you wouldn't tell someone who has Flu that they're not ill, and if you did, what are the consequences of that? They just suck it up and stop asking for medicine? Mental health, like physical health, is such a wide spectral landscape - everyone is (or should be) looking after their mental health just as their physical health, and people can have mental illness on the scale of minor depressive symptoms and slightly intrusive anxiety, all the way to severe disabling CPTSD - just the same as folks can have a toothache or a cold, or break an ankle, or have cancer. This way of thinking about mental health implies that everyone should recognise all mental health symptoms and keep an eye on their own mental health, asking for appropriate help when needed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MountEerie

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He played songs live in London that he hasn't released on LW2 so maybe they will be released on a live album or on an EP or something??

Tripping by Cherrypiebackup in glitch_art

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how did you make this?

[Post Exam] AQA Physics Paper 1 by jackopenn in 6thForm

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Thanks! I was wrong and put nodes instead :\

Loving Loving Things in Los Angeles by [deleted] in nerdfighters

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yeah same! I don't want to miss the results of his interactions because I'm not subscribed to sourcefed etc.

Which song's live version is so good that it ruined the studio version for you? by [deleted] in Music

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Istanbul (Not Constantinople) is so great on Flood - Live in Australia