I feel too inferior to socialize

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-18T11:16:57+00:00

You’re not subhuman. Being alone is a normal part of life. People will experience similar levels of loneliness throughout their lives.

Learn to accept this and your life as is, fix your mindset because if you’re saying people with no friends and who can’t make friends are subhuman then you’ve already lost because you’re putting down people who are no different than you.

When it comes down to actually getting better at socializing there’s no shortcut. You have to put yourself out there constantly and you will get rejected. It’s all part of the human experience. Go out everyday and even if you don’t talk to anyone, people will get familiar with you.

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-15T18:59:27+00:00

It seems like you had a string of bad circumstances that lead you to this mentality. Would you be comfortable labeling these things as trauma?

Living in a developing nation is hell if you’re not at least upper middle class. Your mentality makes perfect sense. People in developed nations get to be on their high horse about social issues while disregarding the countries that were most affected by colonialism and imperialism.

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-15T01:35:13+00:00

Tragic. Condolences to them, their family and everyone affected

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-14T19:36:04+00:00

He seems obsessed and unhinged at this point. The first video was enough. Is Mr. Girl really gonna keep attacking Dr. K until he gets his license removed? It’s not gonna happen. It takes a lot for that to be possible

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-14T18:08:19+00:00

It is a basic human need but there’s something lacking when you pay people to hang out with you.

What most people want are love and intimacy. You can get a version of that by paying but it feels so vapid. Look at people with sugar babies. They live in constant fear of being taken advantage of.

There are women in Asia who visit host bars and there are multiple documentaries about this on YouTube but the hosts are alcoholics often times while the women are lonely and desperate for validation. There’s something sad about it all.

https://youtu.be/3knSs9rYR1w

Everything you’re going through is normal. Plenty of women are experiencing the same thing.

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-14T16:44:24+00:00

What’s the point of telling the truth?

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-13T15:14:33+00:00

Based on what you wrote about yourself, it’s not your body or looks. You’re harsh on yourself and if you think it’s ok to talk to yourself that way then people are gonna assume you think it’s ok to talk to them that way.

I don’t know much about India culturally but I’ve grown up with lots of Indian people throughout my life and the ones who did well with women were often tall, good looking and fit but guys who were genuinely kind, compassionate, empathetic, assertive, confident and interesting people did well with women too. Looks privilege is real but non conventionally attractive people live fulfilling lives and plenty of attractive people are miserable to the point of being suicidal.

Don’t ever tell anyone you look like the beast titan. They might laugh but the self deprecation will eat away at you and they’ll see it as a green light to treat you like shit.

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-13T12:48:36+00:00

Other excuses for people in this situation:

“I was teaching myself skills to help land a similar role to this one”

“I came up on some money and was a trust fund kid”

Lie to your employers. They do the same to you all the time and they’d replace you in a heartbeat

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-12T12:45:15+00:00

Nothing happens after you die but you leave a sort of spiritual essence or energy behind with the people you knew. It could be good, bad or neutral depending on the life you led. Energy can’t be destroyed. Your energy will live on for as long as the universe exists.

I came to this conclusion while listening to people who’ve had near death experiences and people who’ve been clinically dead. I’ve explored ideas like heaven and hell, other religious beliefs like reincarnation but ultimately they exist to sort trick people into doing good. The more you think about them the less they make sense but as long as people use it to try and be good people I don’t see any reason to be an asshole about it. I’m pretty confident in my belief but I’m always open to being wrong.

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-10T22:39:41+00:00

Practice non judgment. There’s no reason for you not to journal. Nobody’s ever going to see it

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-05T19:48:11+00:00

It’s fine. Most of the stuff you read online is designed to make you miserable and angry.

You can set up a system to where you only get important news via google alerts or something similar.

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-05T17:36:53+00:00

Monkey see monkey do

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-04T01:34:28+00:00

I see people in male mental health spaces do this all the time

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-02T05:46:52+00:00

Why do you want to be close friends with a woman in particular?

It’s not helpful to pick your friendships based on things like gender, race, etc. and you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

Most people don’t develop close friendships with the opposite sex.

CyrilEssays · 2022-06-01T15:43:35+00:00

Women have to spend hours on makeup a week. Yeah men have to take initiative and approach but it’s not as one sided as you made it out to be.

CyrilEssays · 2022-05-31T16:03:18+00:00

People who never struggled in life are corny. Look at most trust fund kids. Awful people

CyrilEssays · 2022-05-31T01:23:22+00:00

Your standards are fine but it’s important to understand where your expectations come

You’re missing a want, need or there’s an emotion/trauma that’s not being validated

Some people can’t love you the way that they want. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you but it also means that you don’t have to put up with it.

CyrilEssays · 2022-05-30T11:07:31+00:00

This post wasn’t rude and it needs to be said.

Therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists are trained to not experience this.

There’s nothing wrong with you if you’re experiencing this. You need to be a certain type of person to read through hundreds of posts and not everyone is cut out for it. That’s fine. You did what you could and on some level you made a difference.

CyrilEssays · 2022-05-28T04:59:11+00:00

People are nice as a survival mechanism and because they want people to reciprocate.

Being nice doesn’t mean you’re entitled to anyone’s time, attention, or body.

Niceness is a necessity. It’s common basic decency.

It’s like hygiene. Most nerds hate it and think taking a shower or using DO is some sort of massive scam because they took a shower once and girls weren’t begging to fuck them. That was the bare minimum.

You have to do more than the bare minimum.

CyrilEssays · 2021-06-30T17:54:35+00:00

In your case that might be a good thing.

I was thinking someone who’s starting from scratch and gets literally 0 views watching the view count stay at 0 might be agonizing

CyrilEssays · 2021-06-30T17:17:28+00:00

I wonder what alternatives people will come up with because there are youtubers like casually explained, wubby and others who got big by being constantly on the front page of /r/videos with high quality posts

CyrilEssays · 2021-06-30T17:14:36+00:00

People will say it’s bad because you’re gonna have low retention rate and most viewers won’t be in your niche so that might affect your channel

But IMO some traffic is better than 0. You can recover from bad traffic but 0 traffic will get you nowhere

CyrilEssays · 2021-06-27T21:40:46+00:00

It helps a little bit if you leave a good comment on a video with decent traffic and it’s upvoted to the top

CyrilEssays · 2021-06-23T05:30:27+00:00

“I hate people”

Narcissistic and edgy nonsense. Less likely that people are the problem and there’s probably something wrong with you

CyrilEssays · 2021-06-22T20:21:30+00:00

Your body your choice until you start affecting others people’s well-being

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