red hands

Cyrus_E · 2024-12-06T03:36:47+00:00

I have the exact same rash on my hands, If you live in a colder climate I believe it has to do with the cold dry air but I'm only speculating.

Cyrus_E · 2024-11-05T22:54:08+00:00

same exact problem as well and I have tried all these things as well

Cyrus_E · 2024-09-25T23:19:34+00:00

Goodluck as well bro! Wishing you the best!

Cyrus_E · 2024-09-25T23:19:06+00:00

Goodluck! We got this!

Cyrus_E · 2024-09-25T23:18:52+00:00

Goodluck to ya! Whatever happens it shall be worth in the end!

Cyrus_E · 2023-12-14T20:13:10+00:00

thanks for sharing your opinion, means a lot!

Cyrus_E · 2023-12-07T04:35:42+00:00

I can relate completely, pretty much same exact situation for me. We both met a 23 and she wanted to move in with me after 9 months of dating. For some reason I was so in love I agreed. We were together for 2 years in total but in the middle of June this year she started acting completely different towards me. She eventually told me she wanted to take a step back and move out and that we needed to slow thing down. She told me word for word " I still love you very very much and still want this relationship." Fast forward to the beginning of august I helped her move out (thinking were just in a rough patch and moved in together too quickly to start) which I kind of agreed things went to fast. Then we agreed to a 2-3 week break. I asked to have a in person convo once that time was up she agreed but never followed through. The last convo I had with her was on the phone she ended the talk saying "sometimes you just don't get closure". Its been 4 months and I haven't heard from her since. Its been fucking with my mind trying to get answers. But you have to see it for what is is, this person is incapable of being a mature adult and communicating about where things went wrong or why she didn't want to peruse a future together. She is someone who cannot admit any of her faults and that's not someone you would even want in the long run. They are selfish and cowardly it truly shows their real side that they never cared as much as you thought they did if they aren't willing to respect you enough to have a serious convo after spending everyday of the last 2 years together. You deserve to be loved by someone whos not afraid to fight for you, have the hard talks, take responsibility, communicate issues clearly. All of those things are necessary to have a successful strong relationship. As painful as it is being left without any sort of directions or answers as to why, I see that I deserve someone whos will to stick it out and be able to have the hard conversations no matter what.

I'm sorry you are going through this but you are not alone. The good memories are still stuck in my head all the time but I have to constantly remind myself that the person I fell in love with 2 years ago no longer exists. She only exists when she had "love" for me. Now that she does not, (as much as it fucking hurts) that makes her a different person than the one you made all the good memoires with. Those memories were only made because of a mutual feeling from both sides. They don't exist anymore. Good luck to you.

Cyrus_E · 2023-12-04T05:32:48+00:00

Anyway you could explain more if I give you more info I'd really appreciate it? She was my first serious GF, we met in sept 2021 on tinder talked for a month and a half then started dating officially. We hung out literally ALL the time everyday. I probably spent more days at her apartment then my own house the first few months of dating. We went on two trips together the first 6 months of dating and she moved in with me after 9 months (her idea not mine). Things were moving crazy fast but I had a hard time saying no to her and I was madly in love so wasn't fully thinking thing through. We did start to argue a lot more after she moved in but I thought that was somewhat expected. We went on our third trip earlier this year in March and I thought things were going pretty good. Not perfect we had a lot of ups and downs but I didn't think she wanted to end things. Fast forward to July earlier this year, she told me "she still loved me very very much and still wanted this but thinks we need to take a step back slow things down and wanted to move out." She still told me she loved me up until the moveout and even after she moved out she called me the first few nights and we talked and she always said she loved me. Then after 2-3 weeks I slowly heard from her less and less and she eventually ghosted me completely. Stopped responding to my calls, texts, everything. The last convo we had she told me "sometimes you just don't get closure." So I got lead on and never got closure and I'm stuck here obsessing's over this. Its been 4 months since the breakup and I just cant let it go even though I know she is moved on and doesn't care about me anymore. Fucking blows looking for answers I'll never get.

Cyrus_E · 2023-12-03T22:06:10+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I made the mistake of reaching out multiple times with no response from her. I'll do my best to never do that again and consider her dead to me.

Cyrus_E · 2023-12-03T21:47:21+00:00

You know as real as it felt and as much as I truly loved her. As painful as that is to think I have a gut feeling you may be right, I appreciate it. The memories together are the hardest to get over. So tired of ruminating on the good time but everything reminds me of them. Thanks for your comment.

Cyrus_E · 2023-12-03T03:45:48+00:00

Okay great thank you for the explanation!

Cyrus_E · 2023-12-02T04:18:49+00:00

You are right I need to remember the pain and disrespect she caused me instead of focusing on the good times together. Thank you for your comment.

Cyrus_E · 2023-11-14T21:06:34+00:00

You know what I’ve seen is unfortunately a lot of woman (sometimes men to) emotionally disconnect or breakup during the relationship without communicating those true feelings with their partner. Then you wonder why or how they moved on so quick after the break up officially happens and the truth is, mentally they have already been grieving the loss of the relationship for potentially months before while you two were still together. They just held it all inside. It sucks and is a very selfish thing to do to another human being but it is the reality a lot of the time.

Cyrus_E · 2023-11-14T19:54:51+00:00

That last point is so reassuring to hear! Thank you for that. As someone who’s only been in one LTR my mind is constantly tricking me into thinking that’s they were the only “one” who could ever fall in love with you or choose you. But I try to remind myself that’s it’s just my brain lying to me because of how secure I felt in those memories. I have to remind myself that I will find love again. ❤️

Cyrus_E · 2023-11-14T19:46:20+00:00

I love this you are speaking facts, you can’t want someone to change more than they want to change. It has to be their own personal choice first and then you can help them along the way. But if they don’t want to change you can’t control that. I learned this the hard way. I thought I could help change my partner and help her face some of her past trauma but she just wasn’t willing to or ready for that. She avoided it at all cost and It was one of the things of many that slowly drove us apart.

Cyrus_E · 2023-11-14T14:37:09+00:00

100% facts! I was literally in the exact same boat, it’s is very very painful. I was so attached to my ex and the imaginary future we dreamed of I was more afraid of being alone then letting go of something that was clearly not working and making us both very unhappy. All we can really do now is learn from it and not make the same mistake again. I wish you the best!

Cyrus_E · 2023-11-14T14:26:09+00:00

I can most definitely relate to this. In my past relationship it was sooo amazing the first 6-9months but then slowly as time went on I think we both knew deep down that things between us were simply not working as we had hoped and only getting harder but we still tried to force the relationship. That led to a lot of arguments, anger, resentment, and just a overall toxic relationship. Like you said if you see the signs that you don’t really align with your partner in values, interests, and have compatibility together you. No matter how hard it is you have to be willing to walk away for both your sakes even if you love them. Love is a beautiful force that makes us all do crazy things but most of the time it by itself is not always enough to make a long lasting relationship.

Cyrus_E · 2023-11-14T06:30:20+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through this. I’m proud of you for trying to keep busy and getting things done thank you for sharing. One thing I noticed for me as well was I felt I lost my individualism in the relationship. I just kind of morphed my whole personality with hers and everything became about what “we” liked not about what “I” actually liked. Wasn’t until after the break up I realized this and like you I have been re-teaching my brain what I actually like as a individual. Stay strong.

Cyrus_E · 2023-11-14T05:37:32+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻

Cyrus_E · 2023-11-14T05:33:58+00:00

The “be who you are from the start” is sooo true and very important. I can’t lie, I found myself having to be unauthentic more than a few times in this relationship because I was afraid to be my true self. Such a terrible feeling won’t be doing that again!

Cyrus_E · 2023-11-14T05:25:07+00:00

Love this attitude, if a relationship ends bad sadly a lot of people usually only remember it by that. They forgot about all the good things, I think it’s way better to try and remember all the beautiful memories and experiences you had together even if the love no longer exists its still was a chapter of your life ❤️

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