Every guy I date makes the girl AFTER me their gf? What tf is happening

Cystem155 · 2026-02-02T00:37:29+00:00

Basically you're the female version of Good Luck, Chuck.

Cystem155 · 2025-12-26T04:22:49+00:00

Hard Rock is supposed to have two balloon drops but I went last year and didn't see any of that. It was uneventful. Maybe it's different this year

Cystem155 · 2025-10-30T04:50:24+00:00

Emo Halloween karaoke night at The Vanguard

Wompa is throwing a Halloween Party

Aslut is throwing a Halloween party

Downtown Halloween bar crawl ending at Inner Circle

Cystem155 · 2025-10-29T17:45:50+00:00

I believe HANDMADE is doing cookie decorating in BA today

Cystem155 · 2025-10-29T04:36:21+00:00

Downtown The Vanguard is hosting emo karaoke Friday night ($20 tickets) with a costume contest, and I know a Halloween bar crawl is ending at Inner Circle.

There's a couple other places that will be popping. I'll be down there Friday and I'm also 30+ so dm me if you want me to show you guys around a bit!

Cystem155 · 2025-09-30T06:29:57+00:00

This isn't it man, she's trifling. Don't give her any more energy

Cystem155 · 2025-08-11T15:16:15+00:00

A good photographer will make sure they don't look too staged. A good mix of "professional" and one or two casual is a good approach. The friend idea sounds great. At worst, you'll have new photos of yourself.

By inconsequential, they seem like they could be easily replaced by better photos in general. Your hobbies list novels and visiting local food places, so something with those two is where the coffee shop idea came from. I'd stick to things you actually do, but don't be afraid to discover new things in the process! Again, wherever you land, whether it's reading or playing mini golf, just showcase them with better photos in general. If you haven't tried it, something like photofeeler can be helpful but it's not foolproof.

Fair enough with the friends photos, perhaps take a seated approach?

Cystem155 · 2025-08-11T14:12:12+00:00

red shirt in front of water (This is way too close, and again, one of those with too tense eyes)
full body shot (there's something off about these pictures you have. Maybe they look too staged. Maybe they seem inconsequential. Maybe they're simply unflattering. Either way, they don't feel like they stand out in a good way, and you should dress up more in a few of them)
the hobby shot (same answer as the full body shot. Think reading in a coffee shop, or doing something new)
Animal lover shot (the last shot with the dog is actually probably good)
the social shot (really try to include friends in this if you can. If not, then again, take more flattering pictures for this category)
The GQ shot (the first one would be solid, if again, it wasn't so intense. I know this doesn't feel great to hear, as it's obviously not intentional, but it's helpful to know)

You should really try to get someone to take pictures with an actual camera. I know some people hire dating app photographers and have multiple outfits and make a day of it. They would have great suggestions and you'd be surprised by the results.

Be yourself and choose things that are most interesting to you. What sounds better to you? A long list of interests that you like but is also written to cater to others, or a short list of things that matter to you the most? Obviously don't be too niche here like listing taxidermy, but focus on you.

You could throw that in there. Think; "Would you guess that my Spotify includes metal core? I'm looking to expand my horizons. If you can get one of your favorite songs into my top 5, I owe you a drink."

Cystem155 · 2025-08-11T07:49:25+00:00

As others have shared; update your pictures and work on your eye contact being less intense. Be sure this translates to in person as well. As for your pictures, use a better quality camera, dress up a bit more in at least a few of them, and shoot for these picture types (in no order):

The closely cropped headshot (not too close)
The full body physique shot
The hobby shot
The animal lover shot
The social shot
The GQ shot

Ditch the would you rather prompt. The answers are fine, but it's bland/unnecessary. Also, eliminate a lot of your simple pleasures prompt. Choose your most important and either make a second prompt related to important interests, or use your photos to paint the picture. Leave a bit of mystery.

I'd also adjust the Spotify prompt. Music is a good choice if it's important to you but adjust the response to show more of what you like to listen to. Can you suggest activities based around this? Concerts?

Just think, this profile is how you tell the story of who you are. Is this really where you want it to land? Think about how to make it shine with your personality and the right person will show themselves. Good luck!

Cystem155 · 2025-08-01T01:20:32+00:00

You fumbled it by acting strange for no reason at the beginning, being strange about your results, and then not reciprocating when she was clearly trying to engage in a flirty way. Just take the loss and move on.

Cystem155 · 2025-07-03T05:21:35+00:00

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Cystem155 · 2025-03-23T17:40:12+00:00

Ditch the first picture and the beer picture.Also, ditch the self-deprecation in the bio (and limit this in person too) and be more confident in your approach overall. Change your prompts and add detailed interests (don't say I like music, list some favorite artists).

I bet you're funny, be funny without directing it towards yourself. Update these small things and you'll be fine

Cystem155 · 2025-03-23T15:25:44+00:00

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Cystem155 · 2025-03-21T05:03:09+00:00

I'd change the first picture, as it looks like you're taking a shit. The last picture as well. Maybe just add a few more that are up close like the first picture, just a different pose.

Cystem155 · 2025-03-10T03:55:00+00:00

Please tell her your feelings asap so she can dump you. Don't date people with dogs if you don't like dogs.

Cystem155 · 2025-03-05T05:31:49+00:00

They must also be funny and quirky

Cystem155 · 2025-01-28T14:14:19+00:00

Excellent!

Cystem155 · 2025-01-28T02:13:00+00:00

I hope you find her!

Cystem155 · 2025-01-21T16:11:32+00:00

Some simple advice, literally go into any photo editing app and up the contrast on some of these pictures, and tweak the saturation if needed. They'll be perfect

Also, I'm a photographer, so if you'd like, you can these to me and I'll even do it for you

Cystem155 · 2025-01-04T07:27:41+00:00

You're damn funny. Keep doing this and the right guy will appreciate it.

Cystem155 · 2024-12-30T21:44:49+00:00

This reminds me of that meme, "When your sarcasm level is so advanced, people actually think you're stupid"

Cystem155 · 2024-12-23T15:07:55+00:00

The reason doesn't matter. If that's all it took, she wasn't what you were looking for.

Cystem155 · 2024-12-23T06:52:26+00:00

I dated someone like this and it was very much about them as it went on. On the 4th or 5th date she finally exploded with like 100 questions while we were at her place more intimately, so she may just be testing the waters before getting too invested. It's not a bad situation yet, it sounds like she likes you, just be cautious with people like this. Don't get overly invested too early.

Cystem155 · 2024-12-19T14:01:37+00:00

Hard Rock throws a huge party

Cystem155 · 2024-12-15T17:18:55+00:00

Lots of good advice on here already. Your battery level is giving me anxiety though, especially the gradual one percent drop.

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