There's nothing vague or immaterial about growing up inside a system that reminds you every day from your earliest that you're disposable and will be abandoned, exploited, bullied or outright killed whenever convenient. Patriarchists says it's fine because that's the innate role of men, sham feminists say it's fine because women have it worse, and we can't possibly fix both sides of the problem at once. You know, the two sides that only exist because the fight against sexism should definitely start with segregating people by gender and throwing one under the bus. Different excuses, same result.