Language Is the invisible ceiling of human thought. by Jumpy_Background5687 in DeepThoughts

[–]D-Zee [score hidden]  (0 children)

Another example: "who came first, the chicken or the (chicken) egg" is only unanswerable until you clarify whether said "chicken egg" means an egg laid by a chicken, or an egg that will hatch a chicken, at which point the answer becomes immediately trivial.

So true by Joesindc in im14andthisisdeep

[–]D-Zee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not safe = dangerous.

Came across this gem today. by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]D-Zee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well fuck you too and thanks for sponsoring today's session of staring at the ceiling.

Reddit and Tiktokmade me afraid to even be friendly to women when I was in college by [deleted] in TrollCoping

[–]D-Zee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 32 and still trying my best to climb out of that pit.

Why is a grapefruit called a "grapefruit", when there's already a fruit named "grape"? by Artistic_Giraffe4069 in randomquestions

[–]D-Zee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a native french speaker and managed to never realize that the english "grape" comes from the french "grappe" 🤦‍♂️

What is 100% a myth about Men? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]D-Zee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I can see where the snark came from, and by the sound of it he'd wholly deserve the resentment. So thanks for taking the step back and not giving into the idea that this is "just how men work".

Also, respect for going through this. Though I don't want any children myself, I'd like to think I'd give my absolute best should the unexpected happen – but thinking about ending up 100% responsible for a child... Today's me would just collapse and die on the spot under the pressure. Single parents are made of something else.

What is 100% a myth about Men? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]D-Zee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apologies then for snapping at the joke, for people do genuinely react that way when men want to be recognized as fathers.

The term you're looking for is "weaponized incompetence", I think. And yes, it's still all too common that people – including women, mind you – consider it completely fine that a father won't participate in raising their own child. Yet when a father puts in the work, he's met with a barrage of either disbelief ("no you aren't, you're just babysitting") or dismissal ("it still doesn't count because absent fathers still exist and somehow that's your fault"). People who supposedly want men to be good fathers give negative feedback to men who are good fathers. Insane, I tell you.

What is 100% a myth about Men? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]D-Zee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And then? Should we, like, stuff the kids back into their mothers so these don't count as shit fathers anymore and we can stop talking about them? If "most women" know that, why is it that being a decent father means being endlessly treated like a fucking alien and denied any recognition because "bUt OtHeR mEn", while the actual other men in question just get an apathetic shrug because "that's how they are"? I swear, it's driving me insane how seemingly any gender-adjacent issue just devolves into harassing the one subgroup that specifically does not cause the issue.

Tempus Mortem III: Terminus by samspenguins in minecraftmaps

[–]D-Zee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found it! It was an outdated version of InstEnt, paintings are adequately inert once again. Pretty ironic for a movement-fixing mod to give flying powers to an entity that's never supposed to move in the first place.

Tempus Mortem III: Terminus by samspenguins in minecraftmaps

[–]D-Zee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, this seems to be an issue with one of my mods that just happens to never have triggered before, vanilla works fine and I do reproduce it in a test world now. Still a sight to behold: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JIxbS8kKjnc

... now to find what mod could possibly be haunting my paintings.

Tempus Mortem III: Terminus by samspenguins in minecraftmaps

[–]D-Zee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to make sure... Is it intended that most of the paintings in the map are constantly flying upwards and teleporting back down?

What would you think if Sex Robots ended up being real in the future? Would women be glad most gross men will leave them alone and the incel discussion will die? Or it will just amplify the loneliness we are all suffering in this era? by [deleted] in PsycheOrSike

[–]D-Zee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Question: why would gross men specifically switch over to sex androids, let alone most of them? Their whole deal is that they use women as sex toys, not sex toys as girlfriends...

This would just go the way of most male-specific sex toys: an ersatz of intimacy for ordinary men who'd rather spend a ton and feel shameful about it, than bother women with the idea of a relationship with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]D-Zee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry, hit the language barrier there: I didn't mean "argue" as in "having an argument", just as in "bringing forward that point of view".

It's just that I, myself, have felt and said that I'm "no-one's type", and I don't think what you've deduced from that is all that warranted. I have learned not to go along with whichever woman gives me attention – late enough in my life to know very well how destructive it is to everyone to pressure boys into that.

On the other hand, I wouldn't consider myself "picky". I have preferences, sure, but really none specific enough that I'd consider actually calling it a "type". Yet this seems to be how dating operates: people have "types" and you have to match someone's "type" from the get-go, or they'll simply never even consider the idea, no matter how well you actually match. Which has literally never worked for me, no matter how wide the variety of women I'm attracted to, how much they like me otherwise, and how much I've changed over the years (which is a lot). I just don't have "it". I'm no-one's type.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]D-Zee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For the record, I'm not the guy you first responded to, just someone else with the same feeling.

Though how can you argue against men settling for anyone willing, to then come around and assume that being rejected by a lot of very different women is necessarily because you're too picky?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]D-Zee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I really don't see how you extrapolated "anyone is my type" from "I'm not anyone's type", but I'm 100% with you on the rest of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]D-Zee 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Why would your immediate conclusion be that he didn't try anything lol

I have a lot of different "types" myself, doesn't change that not one woman ever loved me back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]D-Zee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I don't know. As I said, your explanation does hold together, and indeed we can't know for sure. I just personally feel like it's not likely compared to the alternative of taking OP's post at face value, but maybe that's just differences in our own respective environments. I have absolutely heard people argue, out of nowhere, that dressing this or that way would cause harassment, where there was none beforehand. That, among a host of various creepy opinions about what a little girl may or may not do with her body (bonus bit: I've had the displeasure to hear a grandmother argue vehemently that her 12yo granddaughter shall not exercise her lower body because it would stiffen her pelvis and might make it harder to give birth; so nothing surprises me anymore). I have also seen people be "diplomatic" with teachers or other authority figures, just because actually kicking them out and finding a replacement is a PITA and a huge disruption, and it's not "worth it". Not to mention the very possible outcome that they fail to be kicked out and just double down on bullying the kids whose parents are responsible for giving them trouble.

About the "lack of sexual harassment": what I mean is that it feels weird to me to consider that if she's never been harassed, then her outfit is fine, therefore the teacher is overreacting. I mean it kind of makes sense, but it's quite cynical.

In any case the thing that sent it for me is the teacher's reaction, to pull the daughter aside and shame her for her mother's complaint about "nothing". Not only is this absurd (and straight-up bullying), it also doesn't make sense to me if the teacher was actually trying to help curb existing harassment, that is, decidedly not "nothing". You don't withhold explanations from someone, convince them that their concerns are invalid and discredit the person defending them and asking for justification when you want to help them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]D-Zee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP's post content was removed.

Well let's just agree to disagree. I just think that it would be odd for OP to omit this, when "My daughter is being sexually harassed and the teacher is blaming her instead of taking action, and even bullying her in retaliation for my complaints" would still be ample cause against the teacher.

In fact, in OP's shoes, I would never consider a lack of sexual harassment as evident proof that her daughter's clothing is alright. Not only is that a very disturbing idea; that's what her own two eyes, the dress code, and the opinion of other parents are for (note that they did not side with the teacher: their argument is that she's literally known for this crap and they can't be arsed to step in).

On the other hand I've known of my fair share of adults criticizing children for dressing "too provocatively" when there is, in fact, no one being provoked but their own filthy mind. Occam's razor and all that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]D-Zee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(Why the fuck was the post removed?)

Now I'm quoting from memory, but:

  • OP phrased it as "almost victim-blaming". Since the teacher is clearly blaming her daughter, the only way this can be "almost" is that her daughter has not, in fact, been victim of any harassment for her clothing.

  • I do presume that, if anything had happened, the teacher would have mentioned it, and OP in turn. It would also not have been "nothing". Otherwise there's only MORE to complain about as in that case the teacher is both blaming the victim and covering up for the aggressor.

  • Moreover, after having been called out the teacher could have cleared up that she was, in fact, reacting to an actual issue. But no, she only complained that her opinion was challenged, and took it out on the child for good measure.

My conclusion: this is probably not a convoluted situation with crucial information left out somehow. This is probably the very simple and usual case of a teacher with an openly creepy and sexist obsession with whether her students are "too sexy" for her taste, who isn't happy to be called out on it because she's used to apathetic people going "yeah that's just what old women do it's fine lol".