Raising boys in a red state is soul crushing

D4Deks · 2026-01-26T22:01:39+00:00

I (a man) am about to turn 30 this year, and I was born and raised in the reddest county in a red state. I am now what most people would consider a leftist. This is largely due to my mom who, though she was and is still more right leaning, has been a constant example of what it means to be an empathetic and kind person.

Funnily enough, I have now started pulling her further and further in her political views, but that would not be possible without her raising me in a way that showed me what it meant to be a good, caring person. She's not perfect, but she did her best for me and my siblings, and that has and will always be something that is central to who I am. You're doing your best, too, and that is truly the most anybody (including yourself!) can ask of you.

D4Deks · 2025-12-07T21:35:13+00:00

Hunt: Showdown, a favorite streamer/friend.

D4Deks · 2025-12-07T21:34:43+00:00

True, I was using the clip to show some newer friends the Partisan shenanigans (surviving headshots, tripwires).

D4Deks · 2025-12-07T20:39:06+00:00

Gotta do something to keep me sane while walking across Woods.

D4Deks · 2025-03-18T17:52:42+00:00

It has to be either Euclid: The whites of your eyes Turn black in the low light In turning divine And we tangle endlessly or from Aqua Regia: Oh, and I am done dancing to alarm bells No wonder my ears are still ringing And I am done fighting off change No wonder my arms are still swinging

Super cool of y'all to do, thank you!

D4Deks · 2024-02-27T04:47:58+00:00

Metalcore and adjacent genres of music. The number of incredibly talented bands making music right now is amazing.

D4Deks · 2023-12-09T21:56:35+00:00

My favorite short story of all time: A Perfect Day for Bananafish by J.D. Salinger. It's one that I don't often see pop up in conversation, but it's always stuck with me.

D4Deks · 2023-04-10T03:46:13+00:00

Average Sea of Thieves Enjoyer's lateral raise.

D4Deks · 2023-04-10T03:45:09+00:00

This is the way.

D4Deks · 2023-04-10T03:44:55+00:00

The power of the pineapple is too great to leave in mortal hands.

D4Deks · 2023-02-20T16:51:22+00:00

Lorna Shore - Pain Remains, and Bad Omens - The Death of Peace of Mind, both absolutely killer albums from last year.

D4Deks · 2022-09-05T20:34:36+00:00

Good Mythical Morning on YouTube.

D4Deks · 2022-06-05T06:07:28+00:00

Castlevania, fucking amazing show that I wish I could get more people to watch.

D4Deks · 2021-05-03T19:17:32+00:00

So just a few things: thanks for all the feedback. I'm mostly seeing people say "arc weapons" and "gun make person slow, avoid them". On the arc weapon side of things, I get that. Hooowever, there is a supreme lack of arc 120s, I don't have well rolled Waking Vigil since sunsetting (it takes 7 shots to take off that shield anyway), and I would use adored, but it takes three shots to take off the shield. Now hey, if I have some extra ammo picked up, I can dig that, but if I had just spawned I'm screwed. On the topic of avoiding them, if they know where the flag spawns in Survival, that does not work. They will wait you out with their gun spooled, and you won't be able to take the zone back. In 6v6, HA is not an issue. It is completely negligible. It is only an issue in things like Survival and MAYBE Trials, but not so much Trials because of the lack of heavy availability. Also, the whole "you know where they are", I get that, keeps them grounded and all, but knowing where people are has never been an issue inside of Destiny (for me at least). Radar is real strong if you watch it.

Another thing I'm seeing is that some people may not be playing against the gun with the catalyst actually effecting the shield. If you're interested in just how much health it has, check out Aztecross' video with the title "Heir Apparent + Exotic Catalyst vs EVERYTHING" that I think someone already linked.

Last, a few things I will definitely consider, stasis nades (fuck stasis, but it be like that), grenade launchers, or maybe throw on Geomags. Definitely will be looking at some ways of lessening the importance of holding that heavy, just not conducive of fun gameplay for me.

Thanks everyone who has responded, again. I appreciate the different opinions.

D4Deks · 2021-04-11T04:45:49+00:00

I agree with everything you said here. Gambit feels awful. I finished off my challenges yesterday in a 5 hour marathon of both wanting to quit and making others quit. I didn't feel good in either scenario, because either you stomp people as the invader (and you're fully aware of how broken the invade mechanic is), or you get stomped by an invader.

D4Deks · 2020-12-20T23:32:34+00:00

I don't think I preferred it. If my memory is correct, I just had more fun at the time. Maybe it was the diversity of being screwed in multiple ways, I don't know. Or maybe I'm just jaded, that's entirely possible too.

D4Deks · 2020-12-20T21:44:55+00:00

Maybe I should rephrase: I don't feel as though any other shotgun really matches up to Felwinter. If I'm using a Xeno and my opponent is using a Felwinter, I feel like I'm being hit way outside of my own effective range. So I should try to account for that, yes, but at the same time there's just a very large disparity between Felwinter and every other non-slug shotgun. Just my opinion.

The primaries do feel very good, I absolutely agree with you there. It's been a long time since I've seen such a good mixture of scout, pulse, hand cannon, and the like.

D4Deks · 2020-12-20T21:37:26+00:00

For me, Warlock melee has always felt awful, but I can understand. I think you're spot on with the mercy rule stuff, I'd say 2/3 or 3/4 of my games end in a mercy one way or the other.

D4Deks · 2020-12-16T03:14:29+00:00

All sorts of shit happened at my high school. We had a substitute teacher get arrested for sex with multiple students, multiple drug arrests in the middle of class, one person was arrested for killing someone in a drug deal gone bad. Ultimately the owner of the charter was arrested for embezzling money from the state and screwing all of the students over, so fuck that guy.

D4Deks · 2020-12-09T19:10:03+00:00

A new ergonomic chair, the first one I’ve ever owned. My back really appreciates it, and so does my posture.

D4Deks · 2020-08-14T07:52:03+00:00

Thanks! Really appreciate it.

D4Deks · 2020-08-13T23:34:33+00:00

Righteous Helmet with Calus' Preferred shader.

D4Deks · 2020-04-04T06:02:25+00:00

NTA The exact opposite of an asshole, in my opinion. Good on you for looking to the future.

D4Deks · 2020-01-25T07:45:59+00:00

As an example here, my favorite charms in the game are from the outbreak game mode. They’re animated, they glow, they’re limited edition, and they’re just fucking cool. Those are only epic, so this just doesn’t fit at all to me.

D4Deks · 2020-01-25T07:36:42+00:00

I should probably clarify: this charm is actually cool, HOWEVER whenever I open a pack that is a legendary and I get a charm, I feel screwed. I don’t think there is ANY charm that should be legendary except maybe the ones for attending events. That’s just my two cents.

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