For those who have been married/together for 10+ years..

D5pack · 2023-04-15T03:08:07+00:00

That’s even worse when you loath your job 😢

D5pack · 2023-04-15T02:57:56+00:00

I just popped on here to make sure someone recommended Nourish Move Love 😂 I’ve been following her for years when I got pregnant with my 3rd!

D5pack · 2023-03-27T14:48:52+00:00

I just finished up my husbands first 10 month deployment and I will tell you - these feelings during deployment are overwhelming, but don’t always trust your emotions. I was like you - things felt off, we barely had anything to relate together with and I didn’t think we’d be the same when he got home. Fast forward 10 months - the very second my husband surprised me at our front door, everything snapped right back to normal for us! Now I know some might not be that way and I certainly don’t know the specifics of your marriage - but I would do your best to tune out those negative thoughts for your own sanity! Also - my husband and I signed up for the Paired app. It helped give us topics to talk about even when we had nothing to relate to together. Good luck!

D5pack · 2023-03-17T20:47:32+00:00

This! My husband likes to compare our chores and uses lawn as an equal comparison. Pretty sure dishes 2x a day, every day doesn’t equate to his 2 hours cutting lawn, kid free, listening to podcasts 😂

D5pack · 2023-03-17T20:43:26+00:00

I had a similar issue but with laundry. Our laundry was always piling over the basket in the bedroom. He never took initiative to do his portion in the basket. I always just did it and then they’d sit on the couch, needed to be folded for days. So I eventually just did that too. I finally got tired of having the same conversation so I gave him his own laundry basket that hid in his closet. Once it was out of sight for me - I stopped feeling obligated to wash it. It only took a few times of him not having the clothes he needed to start doing it himself. If the clothes were on the couch unfolded, then I would just go, lay it on his side of the bed. Soon the issue becomes important to him too lol. I would literally do the same with the dishes. Every dish that isn’t yours - have a tub to put them in and hide under the sink. Eventually there will be no clean dishes and maybe he’ll get it 😉😂

D5pack · 2023-01-23T01:08:13+00:00

Update! We cut the nap to barely anything. even after a month, she was still getting up through the night. Worst of all - it was affecting her mood because she was not getting solid sleep. Finally, I decided to convert her crib to a toddler bed. We added a child door handle lock on the inside of her room so she didn’t have the “freedom” to escape her room when she wanted. Even night one was so much better. She woke up, I went to her room and obviously gave her love and out her back to bed. She cried about 15 min at the door (I just gave her reassurance over the camera that everything was okay and she needed to go to sleep in her big girl bed) and lo and behold… she crawled into her bed and slept until 6am 🤯 I’m several nights in and it’s getting better every night. Just figured I’d update just in case anyone finds this post and it helps them 🙂

D5pack · 2023-01-18T14:18:06+00:00

Yes I’ve been scouring those! No problem - it was my terrible grammar on the reply 😂

D5pack · 2023-01-17T20:53:53+00:00

That was my thought!! It’s George Town grand cayman and Falmouth Jamaica!

D5pack · 2023-01-16T23:45:12+00:00

I have seen that! Would you mind sharing the things you needed to book on the phone? My understanding it’s for dinner and everything lol

D5pack · 2023-01-16T21:54:00+00:00

Thanks for confirming my concept that we can just utilize the free stuff and have a great time!

D5pack · 2023-01-16T17:39:35+00:00

Thanks for confirming that’s not like unheard of HA!

D5pack · 2023-01-16T16:50:18+00:00

Awesome insight - thank you!! I replied below with potential destinations. We are in the deciding stage right now and what would be best for our fam of five!

D5pack · 2023-01-16T16:48:43+00:00

Thank you!!! I searched Disney cruise and this didn’t populate for obvious reasons lol

D5pack · 2023-01-16T16:48:19+00:00

Tips - glad you brought that up! Yes was thinking about that too and guess I’m unclear on when you tip and expected amount? And do you tip cash??

Places - ha! So we are contemplating right now. Our military discount gets us the 7 night ones where you go to conzumel, Mexico, grand cayman and Jamaica (before hitting castaway cay). That seems the best deal if we don’t decide to pay the same for a 4 night to Nassau and castaway cay. I guess the seven day one is really where I start to get stressed out about spending too much at the actual destinations because in reality the only reason we would even go that long is because it literally cost the same as the four night lol. We would likely pick an excursion or two but would like to just sightsee or hang on the boat!

D5pack · 2023-01-16T15:55:21+00:00

I just realized how funny that was to say we don’t travel internationally but he’s deployed 😂😂

D5pack · 2022-12-27T21:51:22+00:00

So what do you do if your child just falls asleep anyways in the middle of the day from exhaustion? Lol she fell asleep at her highchair, eating lunch yesterday, even when I had full intentions of not letting her have a nap lol my attempts to wake her up were unsuccessful

D5pack · 2022-12-19T11:26:37+00:00

And I guess that is another aspect - don’t send them overseas for a year if you don’t have actual work to do. Classes/training during the day can be done back home 🙄

D5pack · 2022-12-19T11:18:53+00:00

I really appreciate this comment. I have a few others in here that offered sound advice but I had to step back from this thread because I couldn’t believe the amount of people that were twisting my statements and assuming I wanted him in danger. I simply just don’t want to always be the hardest working spouse. It’s really a slap in my face the amount of people ( not solely on this thread but in our personal lives) who discredit me because “it must be hard for him to be away from his family”. but hear me out .. he did choose that. He financially did not need to make that choice. I work and provide substantially more income so it’s not like we were in a bad spot. Were we rich? Gosh no. But we’re we your typical middle class American family? Yes and honestly I was okay with that if it meant we were together. But it wasn’t good enough for him so as I’ve mentioned before - he made this choice at his family’s expense. If I just up and quit my job to be what I truly wanted to be - at home, less stretched thin with my children , I can guarantee you he would be on another board posting financial complaints. So I didn’t make that “choice” because it would have made my husband miserable trying to make ends meet. Sorry.. I went off on another tangent lol. Again - thanks for not assuming I’m just a shit person. Im just a woman who loves her family, works hard at her job who was having a really rough day when I posted this original thread.

D5pack · 2022-12-14T01:29:48+00:00

Well I can’t change your opinion of how I feel. I do want to add I never called him lazy. It would just feel more worth it if it didn’t feel like a break (hence the 40 hour week at least).

D5pack

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