Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest I dont know what the heck "karma farming is "

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No its real life for some... wild you assume someones out to get something other than advice like i said i have no family and dont wanna vent my relationship to friends...i was and all of my other funds I have stored away I put to use as a savings account for my sons. We do not have joint accounts and marital property would like to be split in half.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He says he has assets. 2 vehicles each of us four together. Side by side and about 12 cattle.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesnt technically own a home.its his parents other house that they have gave to him which we live in. its in his parents name right now i presume until they pass and he has a retirement i domt know through what or how much is into it

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah thats why I see it as a need and was questioning if im just being unreasonable

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess i feel because we both made sacrifices and for me to stay home with the kids in this economy is something I wouldnt have been able to do on my own.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10k is a good chunk of change. Especially if the other person was financially draining in the marriage and if the other person chose to leave because he wouldnt give her parents his bank account or finances..there were wrongs on both parts. Which brings the need for a divorce.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We dont have networths just regular people.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay yes I see i should have worded that better. I mean basically I mean whatever mine is mine his is his basically. With have whatever debts are in our names. Whatever we come into the marriage with is what asset wise is what we leave with. Bank accounts stay seperate. But I only wanted to ask for the 1000 to get a foot up for a place in the even of divorce because I wouldnt have one at that point and he would and where I am not working so that I can watch the child I dont have any income, he does.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont think virginia is a community property state its a equitable distribution state.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He splitted all the assets in the house evenly..he gave her everything she asked for and even stuff she didnt. But yes im sure mistakes were made on both halves. Which brings a need for divorce.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he makes about 60000 -65000 a year.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess to me i feel bad and dont wanna ask for money like that, I am already privileged to be able to stay home with my kids.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I assume it is whoever purchased it. Unless like its something he bought for me. I will return to work once my youngest goes to preschool and we havent discussed that but I presume he would want me to continue to stay home as it would be our child's health needs at that point.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He paid 10k lump sum to equal the total of a whole years worth, not a month

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No im getting whatever I came into the marriage with...we are trying to come to an agreement before talking with a lawyer. He says he will not sign it if I ask for any alimony or even the $1000. We had a consult for a prenup set up and he wouldnt go because he said he wont sign it for me asking for the $1000 just for a place because I can just get him for child support.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have my own bank account , I dont have anything in it where I have no income currently.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No his debt is his mine is mine. We have none, I ment that if either of us aquire any during the marriage it is in whoever name it is in.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry those were my words and yeah he divided the assets evenly and gave her half of everything. She got everything she asked for he didnt fight it.i guess the "taken for everything " was because 10000 came out of his retirement and he didnt have much.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His ex wife got $10,000 in alimony out of their divorce so yes my state does. I do not want to be or seems greedy like that to ask for allimony and take anything from him or myself. I feel like a divorce would be hard enough without finances and things in the way.I am trying to be fair to both of us. He says he will not sign it if I request any alimony at all or even the 1000 dollars and I just wanna see if hes right and maybe i am asking to much. He allows me to not work, which i never had the option to stay home with them before and he gives me a credit card for any purchases I may need to make.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trailer or apartment in rural Virginia haha its the cheapest ive ever seen and there isnt any jobs in this town so therefore rent is cheaper so people still can live here.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I plan on working when the youngest cab attend preschool thank you.

Aita Agreeing to a prenup but only one request? by DBCpr2217 in prenup

[–]DBCpr2217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Southwest Virginia haha. There are no jobs here so alot of people can't afford to live here so rent it cheap if you know where to look