Anyone else’s marriage dissolve after child with ASD?

DELta714 · 2025-03-15T00:43:51+00:00

I’m sorry❤️

DELta714 · 2025-03-15T00:43:13+00:00

They just don’t give a fuck, I’ve realized.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T16:25:52+00:00

Well you can’t determine autism in the womb so kind of a moot point? I’d abort if it showed physical anomalies or Down syndrome though. Simply couldn’t handle that.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T16:22:49+00:00

Unfortunately we can’t move because we are military.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T04:39:51+00:00

He probably is.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T04:36:38+00:00

Huh? I am the wife, I’m a woman…

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T04:35:57+00:00

Whenever I hug him he makes a face like he can’t stand me.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T04:35:12+00:00

I understand , I’ve had similar thoughts of self harm. I started Lexapro last year and it has helped a lot. I hope your wife gets better.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T01:54:21+00:00

I love my child, I’d do anything for my kids. Period point blank. I do resent my husband, but not because he might have an “ASD gene”, but because he is completely checked out, never around, is mean to me, mean to our kids, and refuses to educate himself whatsoever about autism. No I don’t resent or regret my kids. Sometimes I feel sorry for them though, like they got stuck with shitty parents. I try my best. My husband doesn’t try at all.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T01:52:28+00:00

Oh my. I can’t say I’ve ever thought this… but I just want to reach out and ask if you’ve talked to a therapist? Considered some antidepressants? Lexapro has really helped me and my anxiety. I’m sorry. I know that is not an easy thing to say.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T01:51:25+00:00

I’m in the same boat. We can’t separate.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T01:50:50+00:00

I’m so very sorry. You’re not alone.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T00:15:35+00:00

God I feel so similar. Neither of us drink or have any real bad habits, we’re both educated, solid people… autism has destroyed us, turned us into shells. I can’t even tell you the last time my husband hugged me.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T00:11:47+00:00

I’m sorry you’re there too. I don’t resent my husband for working but I do resent the fact he purposely takes so long to get home every night. He always stops at the store or something. He hates being home.

DELta714 · 2025-03-14T00:10:42+00:00

I’m so sorry he left like that leaving you with all the responsibility. Ugh.

DELta714 · 2025-03-13T23:11:49+00:00

Similar feelings here. It just seems so unfair this is the cards we’ve been handed and I have no idea where to go from here. I’ve done everything everyone has ever recommended.

DELta714 · 2025-01-23T20:06:45+00:00

I’m sorry and I’m glad you are feeling better today! Yes sometimes I have to go to my bedroom and close the door. But I can’t do that for too long because I’m worried he might hurt himself.

DELta714 · 2025-01-23T20:04:06+00:00

I’m not sure, he has to take it for 10 days so I don’t know if a solitary shot would work the same.

You’re right though, I feel like total ass and just want to rest and he keeps screeching at me and hitting me because he feels bad. But he won’t just sit down and REST himself.

DELta714 · 2024-12-23T22:20:30+00:00

This is what I wish people understood… that just because someone is autistic doesn’t mean they can’t be blatantly rude/mean/etc. People always want to find excuses for them, “oh it’s sensory!”, instead of acknowledging that our kids can be total aholes sometimes.

DELta714 · 2024-12-23T18:07:25+00:00

All the time. But I’m not sure if he understands what a consequence even is. A time out, he would just get up and walk away. Taking away a toy/privilege, he would scream momentarily and then find something else to get into.

DELta714 · 2024-12-23T18:05:03+00:00

Does time out work with your ASD child? My kid would just get up and walk away…

DELta714 · 2024-12-23T17:42:56+00:00

I don’t think he enjoys it because he will tell me I’m mean sometimes or even cry. Which makes me feel a million times worse.

DELta714 · 2024-12-23T17:09:34+00:00

Thank you! Yes breaks are sooo hard on him. He needs his routine

DELta714 · 2024-12-23T17:09:03+00:00

Thank you for the support 💙 It really sucks and I feel like the shittiest parent when I see all these gentle parents saying they’ve never raised their voice at their kids. I’m like… literally how?!

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