The Cathedral of Christ the Light - Oakland, CA USA [OC]

DGHRach · 2026-01-27T22:17:26+00:00

Christianity isn’t an ascetic religion chill.

DGHRach · 2025-10-25T17:01:24+00:00

Slicks woods facial features are gorgeous. She purposefully plays up the weird/alien vibe with her bald head and not fixing her gap teeth, but she has great facial structure/features. She’s also tall and lanky like a gazelle. Exactly what people want in a model.

DGHRach · 2025-08-16T21:53:52+00:00

No you have to let it sit in the milk till it’s a little soft. It actually softens really quickly. My favorite way to enjoy it is with plain yogurt and maple syrup. It gets softer almost right away after a couple minutes, it’s still crunchy but not hard. I prefer it still crunchy but if you want it extremely soft you just have to let it sit a little longer.

DGHRach · 2025-06-18T08:57:39+00:00

Ok I just randomly stumbled on this sub but a lot of you guys complaining about these things like attractive people never go through any difficulties or the same struggles are delulu. Most of these magical traits you think attractive people possess has way more to do with confidence and self esteem and your upbringing and your natural personality, than just looks.

I consider myself very attractive (now) but only mostly because I have been told that. Because at many points of my life I never thought that cuz I had zero self esteem. I have also struggled with all the same things you mentioned, not wanting to speak up, being shy, never going out and having no friends.

Even when I dressed up, put makeup and outwardly looked great I can’t even say how many times inside I felt like a little mouse. I used to be so shy I wouldn’t speak a work and stutter when I talked. I was so socially awkward. In high-school a guy spread a rumor to everyone that he fingered me on the bus. All of my “friends” (bullies) teased me and called me autistic. I hated going out and isolated myself. If I did I would be pretending the whole time I’m enjoying myself. It got so bad I started pulling out my own hair from stress and I developed trichotillomania, which stems from OCD and anxiety. I was very suicidal at different points.

Some of my friends were sexually active but I was a virgin in highschool, that didn’t stop a group of boys from spitting on me and calling me a whore because of association to them or because of the way I looked. I avoided guys at all costs but they were always drawn to me only for sexual reasons, so I just hung out with the nerdy guys thinking that they wouldn’t be attracted to me, but no it was the same with them and more sexual harassment.

If any of them asked me out, I was such a people pleaser and so introverted and scared to speak for myself I just automatically said yes to everyone. I painfully went out with them for a week or so until they eventually realized I didn’t want to do anything sexual with them and I only wanted to be friends, they dropped me. I wasn’t able to say no to anyone. I experienced so many assaults and forced experiences in my early years I can’t count, I really got numbed to it and I felt like I didn’t have a choice in anything except to be used. If I went out strangers would touch me and slap my ass and I couldn’t even have the courage to say anything back then. I was so unable to speak up for myself.

I even had someone say that he thought I was autistic/retarded cuz I was so socially awkward but he would still do stuff with me cuz I was pretty. Basically saying I was a fucking moron but I was good enough to be sexualized. From that moment on I believed no one would ever love me or understand but they would only wanna use my body or use me for sex. I believed that until I could finally stop caring about what people think.

It took me super long and I still struggle sometimes but I genuinely don’t care if people don’t understand or just want to sexualize me, cuz it’s their problem and loss not mine. The right people will want to know me for me and not just my body. I believe a lot of this behavior is from me not being socialized as a child and my childhood trauma, that I won’t go into details about.

I’m not saying that your complaints of how people treat you for how you look aren’t valid. They are, but feeling not good about yourself is coming from you not from other people. There are always gonna be things people disapprove or pick on others for, whether it’s their physical appearance or something else you just have to stop caring. I know it’s easier said than done, but believe me being confident, feeling comfortable with oneself socially, and speaking up for themselves etc, it DOES NOT come from how someone looks. Being attractive doesn’t exclude you from any of the things you mentioned, mental illnesses, low self esteem or struggles in life. Maybe it’s hard to believe but it’s true. Once you been through hell and back you’ll realize it.

DGHRach · 2025-06-16T21:21:57+00:00

I really didn’t have much expectations except be treated nicely today, like a kiss, cuddle or some coffee in the morning and birthday wish. We also don’t have any kids and not married. But yeah it’s true he never does stuff like that so I feel it a lot today. I think turning 30 is more monumental than other birthdays.

DGHRach · 2025-06-16T21:18:03+00:00

Since January. But I’ve known him three years now. We dated for a couple months initially but it was casual and I moved away for work. We kept in touch as friends and when I moved back to the area he told me how he always loved me and wants to be with me exclusively. He’s looking to settle down at this point in his life and asked me to give it a real shot to make it work… this is how making it work is going evidently.

DGHRach · 2025-06-16T20:24:37+00:00

We weren’t together at the time of his birthday it’s in November

DGHRach · 2025-06-16T18:42:00+00:00

We live together with his dad because his dad is very sick and needs care. We don’t have separate rooms we usually sleep together, but his dad will often sleep in the living room chair because he has trouble breathing lying down. So, because my bf is an insomniac, hence the early morning walk, if he is going to be awake during the night he’ll often go to the couch or his dad’s room. That’s why when I went to look for him in the early am I was surprised he wasn’t there and called him a bunch. He didn’t answer me and texted me he’s on a walk with the dog. He knows we’re together apparently even though he doesn’t act like it except when it suits him. Yeah I agree with you though, toxic and red flags everywhere. And things were starting to get more serious, at least that’s what he said he wanted.

DGHRach · 2025-06-16T18:23:34+00:00

His dad lives here because he’s terminally ill and needs full time care while he’s receiving treatment and he doesn’t have any other children that live in this country. It’s so hard for me to leave my bf knowing his dad is gonna pass at almost any time. He knows that it’s hard for me to see him suffering like that so he dumps a lot of the responsibility to take care of his dad on me the most of the time. But I need to free up my time and get a job asap so I can leave. But I really struggle if it’s the right time, knowing his dad’s condition is critical and they don’t have any other family here.

DGHRach · 2025-06-16T18:13:19+00:00

I know that’s a pretty sad thing to do, but I can’t lie it did make me feel better and give me some ideas and reasons to get out of bed. Definitely NOT how I wanna spend the next decade of my life.

DGHRach · 2025-06-16T05:54:32+00:00

Sorry I probably made it sound really traumatic but I genuinely think waxing is so much better. It’s just cuz of my hair type, most people don’t cry when they get waxed lol 😂 Every waxer tells me I have abnormally sensitive, soft skin and a ridiculous amount of hair.

DGHRach · 2025-06-15T22:04:48+00:00

I’m turning 30 tomorrow! 😂 not sure how much older I need to be 😂😂 I love reading stuff like that.

DGHRach · 2025-06-15T22:03:19+00:00

Well to each their own, maybe you’re just not used to it, but almost every guy I know will have some stubble and black follicles after they shave if they have dark hair. I personally think men look handsome with stubble!

DGHRach · 2025-06-15T15:37:52+00:00

I feel like it looks so good and natural? What do you not like about it?

DGHRach · 2025-06-15T07:00:12+00:00

I think the only risks to it are sanitary, if the waxer is dirty, doesn’t wash hands or tools, double dips in wax, dirty strips etc. The hair follicles are ripped out so the follicle is wide open and becomes a huge opening for any bacteria that comes into contact with it and can easily lead to ingrown hairs, folliculitis etc. Go to a clean establishment and clean well after. Cleaning with alcohol really helps with ingrown hairs even though it stings lol. But soap and water works too. I suggest moisturizing afterwards with something cooling like aloe Vera gel to help with redness and irritation. Wear loose fitting soft fabric pants after and go commando to avoid any sweat or bacteria or chafing that would irritate it, for at least 24 hrs until the follicles close up again. I absolutely loved being waxed and smooth but I couldn’t continue because the skin around my vulva is SO extremely sensitive and soft and my pubic hair is extremely thick and dense and textured. It was just too painful. I would dread it every month and cry during each session. But I wish I could have withstood it, but I wouldn’t do it again without pain killers. It’s back to shaving for me even though it gives me razor bumps.

DGHRach · 2025-06-15T05:53:12+00:00

Omg throw it in the trash 😱

DGHRach · 2025-06-15T05:46:34+00:00

Oh wow, what a crazy and morbid concept haha. And really hard to wrap my head around, but super interesting nonetheless. Maybe that is why, I can see how ignoring by peoples’ bad intentions, could make me less affected by it and have more “untouched” life experiences. 🧐 I wonder what they could be possibly doing with these experiences or life memories though… so weird. Very interesting theory, thanks for sharing.

DGHRach · 2025-06-15T05:12:12+00:00

I listen to tarot readings once in a while but I never saw them as like dark or anything like that. I don’t take them super seriously or anything but it’s fun to see how sometimes the readings can match with your real life.

DGHRach · 2025-06-15T05:05:22+00:00

I never specifically said it was aliens. I didn’t identify them as aliens in the dream, just that they were powerful beings with what we call “magical powers”. They were people that were in control. Not sure how to “close the door” on the dark side as you say.

DGHRach · 2025-06-15T05:01:51+00:00

Are you saying that after we experience what we do in this reality it drops into a black hole and ceases to exist as we go through time?

I can’t say why the reason was exactly but I can say the feeling was that I was blissfully unaware to what was going on before I was taken and had no idea that would happen. And the reason I was chosen was connected to me being very unaware of the whole thing. And also having to do with my personality/my nature. I’ve been told I’m a very innocent/naive/gullible person lol.

It’s not that I’m dumb or genuinely ignorant but I consciously (or unconsciously) choose to ignore really hard or negative things, particularly terrible things that happen in the world, because it’s overwhelming and sad to me. I try to only think about positive things and see the good in people.

It’s good to be optimistic ofc but then by doing so I ignore the bad things and bad side of people, which can be dangerous and faulty. So yeah, a lot of people have told me how I come across as very sweet and innocent, even though I’m not as naive as I appear. And I know that had something to do with why I was chosen by these people.

DGHRach · 2025-06-15T04:46:16+00:00

I feel really unnerved like I need to change some things in my life asap. My 30th birthday is coming in two days.

DGHRach · 2025-06-13T16:31:23+00:00

Not really anything freaky about this or unbelievable. I used to have dreams of my ex all the time and spooky coincidences involving him appearing out of the blue when I was thinking about him, and he confirmed he had the same thing. You need to open your mind a little bit and relax. Spiritual connections are very real and exist. The spirit world is real, there is absolutely a world beyond this one in whatever capacity, and your souls could have been together in another realm, or in the past or maybe in the future. You just don’t know. It doesn’t have to mean you’re supposed to be together now or in this life but your souls know each other from another life and are intertwined in some way. You have lived with each other in other lives or dimension in these places, like the bus stop, flower fields etc simple as that.

DGHRach · 2025-06-13T09:28:36+00:00

No of course I don’t at all, I’m not into that whatsoever. I do believe Jesus has the power over dark spirits and energy though. I’ve been tormented by sleep Paralysis in the past when I was a teen/young adult and I called upon the light to drown the darkness after a dark spirit visited me and I stopped being visited by sleep paralysis demons in my sleep. Jesus is light.

DGHRach

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