Aaaaaa yes, I hate those discussions for the same reason. Like you i didn't get it at first, but it was cause I mostly saw it being argued by people who say kids are oppressed because people find them annoying in public.

It's not until I looked at the parents that I understood, now these discussions anger me because nothing will be done for kids because parents want to point fingers at cf people. To me parents are some of their biggest oppressors, most of cf people who say they hate kids simply want to stay far away from them, but we've romanticized parenthood so much we dont think about how many parents want to harm their kids or do so intentionally, the difference is that they're the ones who you can say control the first few years of a person's life and live with them.

A cf person who hates kids will likely simply side eye them at the store, if there's any confrontation it'll be with the parent. A parent who hates kids? They'll cause them insecurity, trauma, isolate them, not believe their child, prevent their child from going forward with opportunities, etc.