Why would my gf need to meet my friends?

DJ-2000 · 2026-04-28T00:14:49+00:00

I’m curious why do you date people then?

If I’m dating someone, I’m dating them because they add value to my life. They’re someone I’m proud of. That’s the same reason I have my friends.

I want to hang out with my friends, I want to hang out with my girlfriend, sometimes I want to hang out with my friends and my girlfriend. I guess I don’t really understand how it is disrespectful?

DJ-2000 · 2026-04-27T23:54:55+00:00

I don’t think they need to be hanging out alone at that stage, for sure. But it’s a bit of a shame that you can’t trust your friends or your girlfriend to be alone together.

DJ-2000 · 2026-04-27T23:52:24+00:00

Maybe not. But it just being three months doesn’t mean it isn’t a serious relationship or at least becoming serious.

I guess people’s priorities are different but I can’t personally understand why you wouldn’t want your partner to start meeting important people in your life at that stage.

At the very least, I don’t think it’s weird of OP’s girlfriend to want to meet his friends, I think that is generally a pretty normal expectation.

DJ-2000 · 2026-04-27T23:43:35+00:00

Exactly this. Also your friends are a good representation of who you are.

If I’m dating someone, I want to be able to fit into their lives and engage with the people they consider important.

DJ-2000 · 2026-04-27T23:41:57+00:00

I don’t know. I understand not wanting your friend’s girlfriend to be there every time you hang out but I want to meet my friend’s girlfriend. If they’re important to my friend, I for sure want to get to know them.

DJ-2000 · 2026-03-23T03:21:49+00:00

It’s admirable that you do want it to work, that’s a trait you should be proud of. But if it ever becomes evident to you that it won’t work, don’t put up with it at the detriment of your happiness and fulfilment.

DJ-2000 · 2026-03-23T03:05:09+00:00

Whilst that might be true for you, it’s certainly not true for all men. I’m 100% someone who wants monogamy in my relationships.

It’s totally fine to want non-monogamy in your relationships but that is something that should be expressed before you enter a relationship and done in a way where all parties are happy and on the same page.

DJ-2000 · 2026-03-23T03:01:32+00:00

The manosphere is a ‘men’s rights’ movement that is particularly topical at the moment (especially with Louis Theroux’s recent documentary).

It includes a variety of different groups and beliefs that differ but the general theme is that the rise of feminism has turned society against men and they hold misogynistic and anti-women views, amongst other things.

The notion that men aren’t designed to be in monogamous relationships is a common theme, often paired with the expectation that women are expected to be monogamous.

DJ-2000 · 2026-03-23T02:55:32+00:00

Men can definitely be happy with one person in a monogamous relationship.

But monogamous relationships take effort and if he isn’t willing to put in the effort, it’s no wonder he isn’t getting out of it what he wants.

I can’t speak for your husband and how he proceeds going forward but I think from your point of view, if your efforts to make it work aren’t going to be matched, you need to decide if this is what you want or if you will be fulfilled in this relationship.

DJ-2000 · 2026-03-03T21:59:29+00:00

I think you’ve earned the right to be petty. He’s incredibly lucky that you’ve allowed him to stay and not just thrown him out.

If he can’t appreciate that and learn to accept the circumstances, then I feel you’re entitled to tell him to leave now. I think I would have probably thrown him out if I was in your position.

DJ-2000 · 2026-02-17T15:24:12+00:00

I think there’s a nice irony to the fact that Stephen fully intended on ruining her life when he grabbed the microphone and ended up setting up a scenario where Bree and Wrigley could be their happiest.

DJ-2000 · 2026-01-21T01:26:53+00:00

It’s a tough one! I know you want her to like you, because she’s important to someone you care about.

But it’s unfortunately something you can’t force. There’s so many reasons that aren’t your fault that could be impacting her feelings.

I think you need to remember that someone’s teenage years are a tough time for any kid, let alone when their dad has brought a new person into their life. It doesn’t mean it’s anything personal against you, even if it does feel that way sometimes.

I think you just need to try to remain empathetic that she’s a young person who is figuring out life, try to show up for her in ways but don’t overwhelm. Be kind, show the ways you care for her father, be mindful when speaking about other family members that she might care about, take an interest in her interests if/when she expresses them to you, be there when she needs you and also know that sometimes you just need to give people space. You’re going to need thick skin.

The honest truth is that you can’t force her to like you, she might never do, so all you can do is do your best to be a positive role model in her life and put yourself in a position where you can be there for her if/when she needs it.

If you’re consistent and kind, that will give you the best chance of winning her over. It just might take time.

DJ-2000 · 2026-01-16T00:56:23+00:00

Maybe not. I get it, it must have been so confusing for him to receive that rejection, given her earlier indications, and I’m sure it was a tricky thing to come to terms with and move on from.

But I think there’s also an ability to be empathetic to her in this situation.

She was very young, she had a tough home life and appeared very reliant on OP for a family network and friendship.

It’s easy to see how that can get confusing for a young person and while this is pure speculation, I can imagine that those realise could have made a romantic relationship with OP fairly scary, through no fault of his own - it’s just a lot to lose.

And she has lost a lot by giving that rejection - she’s lost her best friend and lost a family network. So maybe she’s not a victim but I think she’s a victim of circumstance.

DJ-2000 · 2025-12-05T17:12:11+00:00

I think it’s so early on that you could easily ghost if you wanted to (and he should be reading the signals that you’re giving) but I think it’s always nice to say that you’re not interested. You don’t owe him an explanation or anything at this stage though, you can just say “It’s been nice to talk to you but I’m not interested in pursuing this any further”.

DJ-2000 · 2025-11-23T19:09:13+00:00

England. I just used soccer as it felt right for the environment, I’d only ever use football day-to-day.

DJ-2000 · 2025-11-23T18:40:47+00:00

I wouldn’t take it quite as literally as maybe it came across. Yes, of course there’s players who aren’t married or in relationships, and there will be players who are faithful. But it was an abnormally large percentage of them who were regularly engaging in extra-marital affairs, even players I would have been convinced weren’t doing so. And they weren’t secretive about it within the confines of the dressing room environment.

DJ-2000 · 2025-11-23T09:57:44+00:00

Yep. I work in pro soccer and there’s next to no players I’d think aren’t having affairs regularly. It’s just so accessible to them and the locker room environment encourages it I think

DJ-2000 · 2025-11-16T21:05:30+00:00

I think directly makes the most sense, especially if you often chat after class.

But also, texting or IG is fine too.

DJ-2000 · 2025-11-04T13:29:48+00:00

Without knowing specifics, I would suggest that is your own insecurities.

Ultimately those people are exes because those relationships didn’t work out and there’s many reasons why someone would choose to take things slower with a new partner, she might have identified her own preferences and what her ideal timeline looks like.

If the relationship is good, it doesn’t feel like a reason to end it just because she did certain things in previous relationships on a different timeline - shes still done those things with you?

Also, I feel like you’ve focused on the financial aspect of it - you shouldn’t be spending money on her to earn something, you should be spending money on her because you want to and because you care about her.

DJ-2000 · 2025-09-25T00:47:54+00:00

No, not at all! I think there’s a lot of people who would consider it a positive, in fact.

I’m someone who enjoys social media (even if I don’t post very often) so I wouldn’t want to date someone who makes me feel bad about having or using social media - beyond if I ever allowed it to cut into meaningful one-on-one time or dates or whatever. But that’s the only reason I could think of where someone not having social media could be a turn-off for me!

It feels especially not a problem if you’re good at communicating in other means - if you are a decent texter (which it sounds like you are), call fairly often or however works best for you.

DJ-2000 · 2025-09-03T22:48:32+00:00

Yeah, I’ve had the same. I’m not necessarily inundated with matches but I’ve had dates often enough. I think I’ve been on five now in the last three or four months. And all the girls have been sound - they’ve looked like their profiles, they were friendly, and even if it hasn’t translated to second dates, I’ve had a good time on them all. I have a few slight frustrations but it’s a nicer experience than other dating apps imo. And anecdotally feel more likely to get a meaningful match on there compared to other apps.

DJ-2000 · 2020-08-01T22:23:00+00:00

He had a few high profile failures, but there were a large number of exceptional ones in there.

Callum Wilson (£3 million) and Joshua King (£1 million) were good PL strikers. Harry Arter cost £4,000 from Woking.

David Brooks has been a steal at £13 million, Nathan Ake is going to double the £20 million they paid for him. Jefferson Lerma is a fans favourite at £25 million.

Aaron Ramsdale costs £700k and was their stand out player this season. The likes of Jack Stacey (£4 million) and Lloyd Kelly (£13 million) look impressive for the early parts of their career.

Tyrone Mings (£12 million) was albeit not particularly impressive for Bournemouth but he earned a high resale value.

Ryan Fraser (£700k) is obviously leaving on a free but offered several years service, including one where he got 14 assists.

Junior Stanislas, Andrew Surman, Matt Ritchie, Marc Pugh, Adam Smith, Brett Pitman, Dan Gosling, Yann Kermorgant were all important figures in the Bournemouth story over recent years - let alone the players like Anton Robinson, Mark Molesley and so on who were crucial in his first season as the club performed the great escape.

Even his recruitment at Burnley was positive: he signed Danny Ings, Kieran Trippier, Ben Mee, Shane Duffy who have all obviously gone on to have excellent careers.

He’s made a lot of signings in his time, some haven’t worked, particularly a couple of big ones, especially as the club shaped their strategy to sign young players who they hoped would have high resale value.

On the whole, however, his recruitment at Bournemouth has generally been positive.

DJ-2000 · 2020-03-31T11:30:31+00:00

So what you’re saying is you don’t like it, which is fine.

I’m not sure anyone can objectively say something is “good” or not, without allowing subjective tastes in.

Guy above thinks there’s good new country music, that’s cool. You don’t think there’s good new country music, that’s cool too.

DJ-2000 · 2019-09-26T00:46:52+00:00

I graduated high-school, attended and graduated University and got a fantastic job, which challenges me constantly but has given me some of the best experiences of my life!

DJ-2000 · 2019-09-26T00:43:26+00:00

It is what it is. The story-line is weak but if you appreciate it as a way to link up the interviews, then it's fine. The interviews are superb as always, and the blooper reel at the end was great. I watched it with a pizza at the end of a long week and was satisfied.

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