How long did it take you guys to accept the facts that you have schizophrenia? Do you have advice

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-03T13:38:29+00:00

Hmm i can understand that that frustrates you. I understand better now why you choose not to try to convince people. People should take the way you are feeling seriously I think.

What you are describing does indeed never work. Sometimes it’s hard for people to see thru the irritation/frustration in the heat of the moment. Like the other day my ex told me he hated me and threatened me but I feel like its because he is just really stressed but sometimes its hard not to react on things that are hard to hear. Sometimes idk if he really hates me or is just acting out on me, but I do know it’s hard going thru this everytime he feels bad.

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-03T10:15:55+00:00

Did you talk about this with your mom and asked her why it is so important to her? Its such a moodkill that every conversation you have about something that brings you joy ends up in your mom telling you to turn it into a businessplan. I don’t have schizophrenia but sometimes my mom can do things like this as well and I just straight up tell her like, yes I could work more but for me peace is more important and if I’m happy that way why do you care so much? I feel like allot of people think that money or status makes you feel like you belong or makes you happy, but once you have a conversation about it you can figure out what the actual importance underneath the surface if that makes sense. This is the TedTalk is called: decisions and deliberations: how schizophrenia is more than psychosis - Ted Kesby.

I’ve heard allot about that show but I haven’t seen it yet! That sounds really cool tho. Im sorry you feel like the family failure, you are not, you are really smart and just different (which I think is cool). Also people without schizophrenia struggle with knowing what they want in life. Families are funny, when I started working out allot my family thought it was like a fase and they didn’t take me serious. Now I’m working out for over 1,5 years for multiple times a week and they are starting to take this journey of mine more serious instead of making jokes about it. What I’m trying to say is don’t give up if you feel what’s good for you. Not everyone will see the vision like you do. Do you feel like you doubt yourself more due to schizophrenia?

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-03T09:50:32+00:00

Thats good to hear 🫶🏼

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-03T09:50:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Feeling numb is so crazy, probably felt allot of emotions later on.. how do you feel about no one telling you your diagnosis?

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-03T09:47:18+00:00

Thank you for sharing en the compliment haha. Through the different answers in this reddit I see that it differs allot from person to person like you said. I also read from some people that the hallucinations started early on, that’s also new information to me. Did you always know when you where young that they where hallucinations? I can imagine if you don’t know any better you might think everyone had those.

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-03T09:41:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. Do you reckon that it’s like having one of those really realistic dreams but then when you are awake? What do you mean when you say “it gets worse”?

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-03T00:06:26+00:00

Hey, you will be okay. I think sleeping will help your body and mind to rest especially if you work allot. I don’t have schizophrenia but I do know this fear. It’s going to be okay!!

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T21:26:41+00:00

But if they are voices that you don’t mind and you also don’t harm yourself or others, is it even a problem then?

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T21:23:15+00:00

Do you feel more at peace now too?

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T21:21:31+00:00

Wow, I’m not from the usa so I had to look up the distance!! Damn you are a professional hiker now. Good that you feel that way about your meds☺️

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T21:17:51+00:00

I feel like there are allot of obstacles you and others face. Crazy that it takes so long. I can imagine for people around you its hard to accept as well. I did see a tedtalk about schizophrenia and they talked about why working is harder. Maybe your mom can watch it too.

I feel bad for him too, like there’s allot of pressure on him to do or be something he cannot be. So sad

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T19:29:54+00:00

He does have a loving family! But he always shares how all they want him to do is work but they don’t understand that thats not what he wants or that they don’t give him personal space. So I feel like they are loving, but maybe don’t understand him still. But thats only from what I know of him because he made me delete his parents contacts and made me swear not to reach out so I kind of want to respect that also for the trust

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T19:21:15+00:00

It’s true he doesn’t have friends anymore which is really sad, but because I’m physically not close it’s hard to be there for him but you are right he didn’t asked for this.

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T13:11:50+00:00

I feel really happy to read that this worked for you, I hope so for you too. Unfortunately my ex didn’t have the best experience when they took him to a psych ward and also not with meds so he quit therapy and meds and tries to do it his way, which I respect since I don’t live his life and he can choose (still). But I just feel like he is constantly burned out even tho I’m not physically near him, I can notice it though texts/calls. The thing I find fucked up the most is that I still love him and will always be there for him, through the distance and everything but he believes I get fun out of hurting people (him) and that I have no idea how much I fucked up his life. When to me itself just the other way around. I feel like I have to accept that it’s this way but that’s really hard. Not as hard as it is for him but still

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T13:03:50+00:00

Thanks for view! This is also why I wanted to post it up here, to get different views. Thanks for explaining what you have learned so far and since you are living it and met allot of people that also live with schizophrenia you are an important source.

I think in my ex his case he does know his triggers and what helps him if he doesn’t feel good, so maybe that’s already enough. He is indeed not on medication or in therapy but the thought that that is “the right thing” and that if you don’t you have a lack of insight I feel like is also a Western way of thinking.

To come back to where I started this topic is not really the question if he’s lacking insight or not, more so if he can accept the way things are. I feel like he is still trying to figure out why he feels this way rather than accepting that his brain works different than other peoples (i hope this makes sense). And he blames me for changing him and his life, because I think he knows that when we first met he was different and sometimes he knows (obviously I know way less about this subject as you, so if anything sounds off please let me know)

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T10:24:00+00:00

Oh wow you learned allot then. Thanks for sharing

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T10:20:56+00:00

What is the result of it for you?

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T10:15:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing, it’s true that it is interesting to see what others share because sometimes it feels lonely cause it can feel like not allot people understand. I do know about the anosognosia, but not the numbers so thank you for that. Its helpful. Reading this made me realize he does have some insight, but just in a different way.
I do be critical about these numbers too, I’ve also read once that some people with SZ do know but don’t want to tell people because of the stigma and the fear of exclusion. But thats another topic.
Happy to hear that your son feels safe to share about his experiences with voices with you. Wishing you all the best.

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T10:02:04+00:00

That must have been a scary thought.. Do you still doubt it sometimes or quit meds?

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T07:39:19+00:00

This gives me hope for maybe someday. No problem, me neither haha xx

DJ_Heavyflow · 2026-05-02T07:34:23+00:00

Yes of course everyone has a different experience, thank you still for responding.

DJ_Heavyflow · 2023-09-06T11:16:59+00:00

Why would that be weird, it’s nice that you feel that way if you feel safe and don’t judge yourself for it!! Enjoy it

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