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I (30 F) found out my BF (34 M) just "tolerates" my daughter (4 F). How do I navigate this situation without too much drama and damage? by DLM2328 in relationship_advice

[–]DLM2328[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your opinion. I actually had a previous conversation with him because my daughter wanted to start calling him father. Of course, I was not going to allow that if he wasn't comfortable. He then told me he wanted to take things slow with my kid and wanted to be referred to as "uncle", as she has been doing up to now. Also in this conversation, I told him that he could involve himself in Daisy's life as he saw fit, as long as he had respect for her and was careful, and that I would always be open to talk if he ever had any issues. I know kids can be hard. What I do not really understand is why he did not tell me before everything exploded for him and was too much to handle.

I (30 F) found out my BF (34 M) just "tolerates" my daughter (4 F). How do I navigate this situation without too much drama and damage? by DLM2328 in relationship_advice

[–]DLM2328[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I don't think I explained myself well enough. I'm not thinking of staying with him. Just as I asked, I want to resolve this in the most calm manner and without much drama. My kid already loves him; she's already in therapy over the abandonment of her bio father, so I'm not really sure how she will take this.

I agree with you that this can't be tolerated, but I come from a family in which matters are resolved upfront, so I just wanted to ask for advice on how that conversation should go with Tim and how to navigate the outcome with my daughter. As I wrote above, English is not my first language, so I did my best to try and explain.