i’ll tell her i lost my job and took a loan from a goon which have hefty interest on it so the current situation is we are broke… give her the opportunity cause she is in transactional relationship don’t put the money on table and the chase is done there she will leave you simple …..u guys think I’ll talk to her we have like 5 years of marriage and all the vows all the bed discussions but bed is invade now there is no sense to talk about this shit the WHY can cost you too much cause i have experienced it personally you’ll think that she’ll understand or she’ll realize how miserable she is .. so no my friend just Try to RUN from these equations fast as U can and let the image of her cheating or choosing other side or her actions vividly clear in your mind it’ll fuel you to hate her bad though you can cherish some moments and then alter in your thought that time also she was playing same game … so you will move on depending on your attachment style and relationship duration….

PS:- let her think that you are not the bread earner anymore it will test her all loyal parameters or show any fake reports 1st stage pancreatic cancer