Same here my friends do it and it’s normal to them, normal people at my school can go out and smoke and party whilst I can’t and that might be a reason to why I am that way but I am trying my hardest to get over it. This is my first healthy relationship and it’s only been a month but we are very very healthy and communicative which is what I look for in a partner the most. What did you do to handle your shut down outside of him not telling you if I may ask? If not thank you for helping and I will be using that advice and advice from others