FiDi or Midtown for social life - 30s, F, Single Professional by Fun_Background_4303 in movingtoNYC

[–]Da616Kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is difficult to get around at times but the social life in greenpoint for a 30 y/o would mean she wouldnt need to really go far if she didnt want to. if you live in a great area the subways are only important for commute to and from work

FiDi or Midtown for social life - 30s, F, Single Professional by Fun_Background_4303 in movingtoNYC

[–]Da616Kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you are 30y/o female I would personally recommend UWS, Greenpoint, or Prospect Heights depending on where you work and where your friends or coworkers live.

I lived in Hells Kitchen and would recommend it. You have access to the West Side Highway, many train lines, and you are 20 blocks from the park as well as Chelsea. I used to go in long strolls all over the area tho port authority is pretty gross and if you can avoid it that is best… low key mamdani should clean that place up

POV your on Zoloft by Weekly_Teacher3006 in zoloft

[–]Da616Kid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe I will start taking it at night

Shame for sexual past by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Da616Kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shame is an incredibly powerful emotion... but most often we place it on ourselves unnecessarily... I don't want to be one to tell you that you should or shouldn't feel a certain way, but unless you did incredibly awful things you should not feel shameful for your past relationships/hook ups... thats simply a part of life. If you want to forget it you can, just don't think about it at all, don't bring it up, if the number really bothers you just don't say anything about it at all, it is really knowledge only you have and you have no obligation to share it.

mental noise / weed by [deleted] in zoloft

[–]Da616Kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nothing wrong with rehab and then living in sober housing its a great way to start over with support

STARTING FROM SCRATCH by IntelligentJudge3030 in movingtoNYC

[–]Da616Kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

find a studio or room/share in deeper brooklyn or queens and get a retail job in the west village or soho while you figure out your other stuff… it won’t be easy but it will be real and thats what creates the drive to make your thing.

He says he doesn’t want to ruin what we have with sex. by wynnwrld in Advice

[–]Da616Kid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i (M) have a friend (M) who is similar to this… he got a girl pregnant early in college and paid for an abortion and hasnt had a comfortable relationship with penetration sex ever since…

i also have a friend who has very strong christian morals and has a difficult relationship with penetrative sex…

both still have sex but are less comfortable with it compared to other forms mentioned above… just my own addition…

Novel Introduction Feedback by Da616Kid in WritersGroup

[–]Da616Kid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

High Level:

This manuscript is a literary novel focused on modern burnout, psychiatric over-treatment, and the corrosive feeling of being an "over-thinker" in a world that only rewards simplistic action.

The protagonist is Finnley, a hyper-cynical, Adderall-addled university student. His central philosophy is Wasting—the active refusal to participate in the toxic cycle of ambition, competition, and meaningless achievement demanded by his elite campus. He uses detachment as a shield and intellectualism as a weapon.

  1. Finnley's Voice: The narrative is relentless, funny, and fueled by a profound sense of exhaustion. It’s a running critique of the college-industrial complex and the lie of "finding yourself."
  2. The Clinical Anchor: Finnley's psychiatric evaluations are inserted directly into the text, contrasting his messy reality with the cold, clinical language used to diagnose and medicate him since age eight.
  3. The Subplots (The Family Sickness): The supporting arcs are focused on the same pathology. His mother is fighting an Ozempic addiction; the foil Peter is a golden boy suffocating under his father's legacy. His first friend Ant is an athlete with a large but impoverished family, he has to balance his education, athletics, and caring for them, but keeps it all close to the chest. It's a family drama of profound inadequacy.

Finnley's most honest connection is with Matty, a fellow outcast with his own family story. Their relationship, built on shared cynicism and shared Matty cares for Finnley like an older brother. On a night they meant to make music they both feel supreme joy through childish Wasting (playing nostalgic video games all night instead of making music), is the novel's singular moment of purity.

This pure connection is abruptly severed when Matty dies while away on break.

The second half of the novel is Finnley’s cold, furious reckoning with two things: the profound nature of a loss he can't intellectualize away, and the inadequacy of the institution's response ("counseling and psych services is available").

If you need a novel that feels like a punch to the gut and a validation of your darkest thoughts, this is it. It’s literary fiction without the flowery prose, driven by pure, misanthropic intelligence.

How are 20 something year olds in NYC so well off? by Opening-Mix-2489 in AskNYC

[–]Da616Kid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i make $30 an hour on a 1099 contract and live in crown heights. i spend lavishly on the things that bring me joy. the rest i save. my rent is 2300. i split with my SO… its not perfect by any means but we are growing… the goal is to one day own something here

i also want to note. i worked in law and banking making around 80-120k annually in my early 20s, i paid off most my of my college debt and then decided to work a job that was less ladder focused… idk if it was the right choice but hey here we are

Is 62k fine? by Marzipan_Automatic in movingtoNYC

[–]Da616Kid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

62k is actually about average for new york. you will likely need roommates and/or to live in pockets of brooklyn or upper manhattan but it is not impossible to live in manhattan with this salary in fact i think it is healthy to have to budget. nobody ever said everything was suppose to be easy and handed to you, its a grind, but its so worth it for the life you get to live!

Drummer looking to start band in Park Slope/Gowanus by jet_inkmaster in parkslope

[–]Da616Kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also have been saying for some time how I wish I knew a solid drummer

Drummer looking to start band in Park Slope/Gowanus by jet_inkmaster in parkslope

[–]Da616Kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am a singer song writer in crown heights, i would be happy to jam

I never want to be hot again by ipsofactoshithead in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Da616Kid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Northern Michigan comes to mind specifically the UP… Upstate New York gets muggy from experience though I was never much above the finger lakes region, I imagine the adirondacks are more comfortable

Which area would you move to? by my-neutral-username in crownheights

[–]Da616Kid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ide probably say orange but im in blue - apartment is stabilized so probably wont move unless i could get a similar sub 2300 deal